Sometimes, we tend to get down on ourselves. Things may not be going our way. Maybe you are facing challenges at work. Maybe you wish you were in better shape. Maybe you are not where you want to be in terms of a relationship or building a family. Maybe you thought you would be ‘further along’ in life by the age you are now.
For some, it is hard to accept being “deserving” of happiness. Deserving of a good man or woman in life. Deserving of actually being treated with love and respect. When we begin to have these thoughts, we have to step back and put things in perspective. We have to look in the mirror and the person whom we have worked so hard to become, and understand that we do deserve happiness.
Here are five reasons you should never settle for less than the best life can offer you.
You work hard.
Seriously, life is hard. You spend 18-22 years of your life in school (maybe longer), only to leave school to start a job or a business of your own.
You get up early every day, plow through your work day, find yourself somehow back home after a daze-filled evening commute, and probably get to bed early to get up and do it all again. When we become entrenched in this routine, it is easy to accept it as just the way life is and even think that you may not have the time to create the happiness that we all so desperately crave.
In reality, this is one of the very reasons that you deserve things and people in your life who make you smile. You deserve to have something to look forward to after long days like yours. Don’t let anyone make you feel like you don’t.
You’ve been through a lot.
As the quote (Said by Plato? Philo of Alexandria? Ian MacLaren? John Watson? Whoever actually said it) goes:
Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.
The inherent truth of this sentiment is supported by our own introspection. Every person reading this has gone through, is going through, or will go through hard times. Perhaps a personal challenge or illness of a family member. Maybe losing a loved one. Maybe financial challenges. It could be anything. I’m telling you, I feel your pain. I think we all do.
None of us are invincible and we are just trying to get through life the best we can. To learn along the way. To grow and improve. There is no Yin without Yang, no darkness without light – you have fought the emotional battles and deserve the reward of happiness. It is essential to the balance of your life.
You want to make someone else happy.
It takes some of us longer than others (it took me awhile) but maybe you have finally reached the point in your life where you are willing to put someone else’s happiness ahead of your own. You are at the point where you are ready to enter a partnership and have a teammate in your life. To share your experiences with. To share your smiles, and your frowns with.
When you are willing to give yourself to someone in this way – to share in happiness and to lend them your strength during hard times, you deserve to have your partner give you the same love, respect, and kindness in return.
You have worked on yourself.
A relationship isn’t just about finding the right person, but also working to become the right person. I believe in consistent self-improvement. Working to do more, learn more, and become more. As we work on ourselves, we become more aware of ourselves. What are our strengths and weaknesses? What do we enjoy or not enjoy doing? What kind of person do we want to be with? Do we even want to be with anyone at all?
If you find someone who matches you well and has also worked to become the best version of themselves, you will feel more comfortable and confident in what you can bring to the table.
You are awesome.
As simple as it sounds, this is one of the most important reasons there is. Not everyone will recognize your inner beauty or have the opportunity to see past your surface, but that is their loss. It is their loss that they didn’t take the time to have meaningful conversations with you and learn about who you really are. It is their loss that they mistreated you when you would have completely devoted yourself to them.
You are not unworthy of love. You are not undeserving of happiness. Do not say “screw love,” but instead say “screw the people who made me think that way.”
Never change who you are – because when the right person comes along, they won’t be getting to know the real you. And you are awesome.
Just remember, you don’t need someone to complete you, only someone to accept you completely. We know that true, genuine happiness comes from within, yet many people search for it as if they’re on an easter egg hunt, expecting to find it hidden in a corner.
Never let anyone define your value for you. That’s why it’s called “self” worth – it’s up to you, not them.
We accept the love we think we deserve.
It is time that someone told you what you deserve: Happiness.
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