Posts by James Michael Sama

9 Simple Things Men Want In A Relationship

He might not tell you, but I will. One of the most frequent comments I get on the countless articles I have about what women want in relationships, is: Hey man, what about what guys want? After 10+ years of writing — primarily about what women want in relationships — I’m no stranger to the frustration of the lack…

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10 Positive Signs They’ll Make A Great Partner

Look for these GREEN flags in your relationship. We spend a lot of time talking about the red flags to look for in a partner or relationship. But, what about all of the positive signs that someone may actually be different from the rest and give you all that you deserve? Isn’t that what we’re…

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9 Eye-Opening Reasons You Miss Relationship Red Flags

Once you recognize the pattern, you can break it. How many times have you found yourself trudging through the emotional muck of a breakup, only to make [another] promise to yourself that you’ll “never ignore those red flags again”? Yet, here you are, reading this article about why these same patterns keep finding their way…

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The 10 Point Guide To Moving On After A Breakup

How to take back your power. Why is it that breakups are so devastating? We’ve all gone through them before, and we know from experience that we are capable of finding someone else somewhere down the line. Yet, going through a breakup can feel like the end of the world and keep us out of…

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How To Overcome The 10 Biggest Reasons Relationships End

Your love life is not a statistic. When two people come together to form a new relationship, there are a myriad of circumstances to consider. You each bring to the table a different background, worldview, set of values, and perspective. You also each bring your own past experiences and the assumptions that come along with…

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3 Reasons You Keep Falling For The Wrong People

(And, how to stop it). Someone I coached once told me that he identified as a “people pleaser,” and these tendencies made their way into his relationships. What he would do is essentially mold himself to whatever he thought the woman he was dating at the time, wanted. To his surprise and dismay, this usually…

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The 9 Most Annoying Things About Dating In 2021

Ghosting, breadcrumbing, and love bombing — oh my! Aside from all of the cheesy lingo that has been assigned to dating trends and habits, the actual process itself feels more like a black hole than an open field of possibilities. As I tell my clients, though, it’s all about perspective. If you can recognize the…

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The Happiest Relationships Share These 10 Qualities

The right person will make you realize why it never worked out with anyone else. Perfection, as we know, is not attainable. One of the reasons why it’s not attainable is that it has a different meaning for everyone. What one person defines as “perfection” could be completely different from another. Perfection doesn’t allow room…

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If You Want Your Relationship To Last, Do These 10 Things

The effort doesn’t end after commitment, that’s when it begins. Who even has the time? You mutter to yourself as you read an endless stream of headlines online about romance, dating, chivalry, courtship…many of which, probably written by me over the years. Whoopsie. Different types of advice applies to different people in different stages of…

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If She Has These 5 Traits, Don’t Let Her Go

Never take a good woman for granted. We can run through countless lists of qualities that men or women want in a potential long-term partner (oh…and we have), but the fact of the matter is that everyone is looking for something different. As my grandmother used to say — “There’s an ass for every seat.” That being…

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