“Does he like me?” 5 Questions to Ask Yourself
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In the digital era where interactions are fleeting, romance has become heart emojis, and ‘ghosting’ has become a common way to end a relationship (just disappearing without saying anything), it is understandable that dating has become more of a Rubix Cube than ever before.
So, then, how can you possibly tell if a guy is actually into you, or if he’s just biding his time until someone else catches his eye? If you ever find yourself asking “Does he like me?” Then, ask yourself these questions…
“Is he investing real time in getting to know me?”
Texting is great. It’s very convenient, quick, and it allows you to communicate with people at times when we never could before. However, we cannot expect texting and chatting to solely create a real lasting bond between two people.
The only real sign of true investment in a relationship is TIME spent together. Anyone can text you all day long. Anyone can shower you with compliments. Anyone can send flowers to your work.
But…none of it matters if he’s not spending real time with you creating a bond.
“Is he pushing for sex right away?”
I have a strong personal opinion that there is no ‘right time’ to sleep together. If you both want to do it on the first date, great! If you want to wait a few dates, great! What’s important is that the two of you are both comfortable with the intimacy happening and understanding that the relationship might not work out.
That being said – a man who’s serious about you, though he will obviously want to sleep with you – will not push the subject. Why not? Because the sex is not his ultimate goal. Spending time with you and building a relationship is his goal, and that will happen with or without the sex.
Naturally I’m not saying that a guy will wait around for a year, because that would just feel to him like you’re not interested or attracted to him. But he will allow things to move at your pace out of respect.
“Is he paying real attention to the things I say?”
Did you mention the smell of a candle that you like to him? Is there a book you enjoy reading or a show you enjoy seeing? A man who is into you will hang on your words and pay attention to detail.
“Is he comfortable being affectionate in public?”
Not all guys are into PDA (public display of affection), and that’s okay. But there is a big difference between not being the touchy type, and actively trying to appear single. You should be with a man who is proud to have you. Someone who is comfortable letting the world know you’re together. Someone who will want to appear as a team.
Life is too short to be with someone who doesn’t fully appreciate you, and show it.
“Would I accept this type of treatment from a friend?”
It’s not only important how you feel about the person you’re with – it’s also important how he makes you feel about yourself when you’re with him.
I know many women who make excuses for poor treatment from a man. He has a stressful job. He’s been traveling this week. He really loves me deep down. He just isn’t very expressive.
Regardless of what the issue is, it is imperative to be 100% honest with yourself about a way someone is treating you. We get caught up in the excitement of a new relationship and can easily overlook warning signs – but your instinct and intuition is strong, and it should be acknowledged.
Ask yourself if you would accept the type of treatment he’s giving you from a friend. Because, the best relationships are built with a foundation of friendship in the first place. If you cannot create that type of connection with a person, then why would you want to be with them intimately?
Honesty is not only important between partners – but also with yourself.
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I do know he liked me and I liked him as well, yes he wanted sex right away,but that was a no no for me. I could tell HE was exstremely attracted to me he treated me like a princess, gentleand carring like a lady/real woman the chemistry was soooooooooooo deep between the both.COULD HAVE STARTED A FOREST FIRE THAT EVEN SMOKEY COULD NOT PUT OUT Heeeeeee I was eager to see where this was going in given time,base on comversation excitement,doing things together much respect lots of laughter hand holding in public TRUST COMPASSION EMOTIONS ,PATIENT CONTROL, MANNERISM NONE EXCEPTING FOR ME,BUT ALL IN THE FRIST 6 MONTHS. WERE VERY WARM EXTREMELY ATTENTIVE SEXUALLY COMPATIABLE AND HEIGHLY SATIFYING, Attenting in public at times A BIT too much like he was showing off,WANTING EVERYONE TO KNOW I WAS HIS WOMAN. I AM very attractive woman His PERSONALITY CHANGED STARTED TO NOT BE IN MY FAVOR.HE BECAME, JEALOUS, CONTROLING, STURBORN, MINIPILATIVE RED FLAGS HERE AND THERE,SHOWING UP WANTING TO SPEND TOO MUCH TIME . I think he was afraid to show his real feelings,but was always saying I LOVE YOU, YOU ARE SO BEAUTIFUL, AND A GOOD TRUSTING AND LOVING WOMEN,BUT YET WE NEVER TALK ABOUT A COMMITMENT BUT IT SHOWED WE WERE A COUPLE.WE WERE GETTING TOO ST IN OUR WAYS NOT BEING ON THE SAME SIDE. WE WERE OF DIFFERENTS CURTUAL DANG MY SPELLING IS THE CRAP.HOE U UNDERSTAND.Getting bored wasn’t for me I AM VERY INDEPENDENT AND HE SAW THAT IN MY PERSONALITY SOMETHING I WAS ALWAYS TAUGHT TO BE. DO NOT HAVE TIME TO WAIT FOR THINGS TO HAPPEN NOT KNOWING WHERE IT WILL LEAD STAYING STUCK MUST WAKE UP AND SMELL THE COFFEE,TAKE SOME TIME TO REGROUP, DANCE WITH HE MUSIC/STARS, REST FIND NEW THINGS TO DO, LOVE SELF MORE AND .TAKE A BREAK
My spelling is for the birds. MAYBE I SPEAK ANOTHER LANGUAGE Hope you still get what i shared with you.
We get it. You speak the language of Me, Me and Me!
Reread my email sharing. so ashamed of miss spelt, missing parts of words and gramme. wasn’t up to par. Guess I’ve been out of school too long.
Great article, and i agree 100%. I also think the same can be said about wondering if a woman likes a man.
Girls ,if you want some real-world advice from a man and not this JMS pussy, go listen to some Tom Leykis on Youtube.
Hey Gary, thanks for coming onto my site and taking the time to comment. Can you let me know specifically what you disagreed with in this post? I’m always looking to learn from other viewpoints so I can learn and develop myself.