The Secret To Finding Better People

Lately, my city has been impressing me. I have found myself at some great events at beautiful venues I never knew existed, and meeting amazing people. This, after I have had the audacity to speak about how small and repetitive Boston can be.

It makes me think about how people say that there are no good (single) men or women left in the world. They are all the same. Boring. Unoriginal. And choices are lacking. This may be true – but as they say, the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over while expecting a different result.

Of course, every person reading this will have the same reaction: “But, I am a good person.” Great! We have established that there are, in fact, good people left in the world – and you are one of them.

So, what’s the problem?

How do I say this without sounding offensive? Believe me, that is not my intention. I need to hear what I’m about to say just as much as anyone else might. The issue just may be, well, ourselves.

Extraordinary people want to be around other extraordinary people. People who are improving themselves. People who are chasing their dreams. People who are out in the world, seeking to provide value to the lives of others.

We have to ask ourselves – are we the person that will attract the type of man or woman we want to attract? And if we are not yet, are we working to become them? If the answer to both of these questions is “no,” then the question becomes: Are my expectations realistic?

My point is, when I turned up the volume on chasing after my goals and dreams, amazing people and opportunities began to appear in my life. In turn, those people provided motivation, encouragement, and support to keep pushing forward. The hardest part is taking the first step to motivate yourself, but once you do, the momentum will keep you going.

Naturally, this opens new opportunities to be surrounded by others who share your ambitions, interests, and desires. People who could turn into great friendships, business connections, or an intimate relationship if that’s what you’re looking for.

Too many people are focused on finding the right man or woman, and not enough are focused on becoming the right man or woman.

You do not go out and “find” love. Love finds you when you invest in transforming into the best version of yourself.

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