5 Ways To Woo Her


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So, gentlemen, here we are.

We find ourselves within a society of our peers who desperately try to set themselves apart in order to win the attention, and hopefully the love of a woman. The challenge here is that if we all say that we’re different from the others, all it does is make us all the same.

Here are five ways to go above and beyond the rest and show your woman you’ll step up for her.


Rose petals, champagne, and dinner.

Yes, rose petals. Plan for a night when you know you are going to be home before her, get a bouquet of roses, and peel off enough petals to make a path from the doorway to where you have set up dinner and a bottle of champagne. Can’t cook? Order a pizza. This gesture isn’t about the food, it’s about doing something special for her after she’s had a long day.

Plan a date on steroids.

If you live in or near a major city, it is likely you might have the Uber service available, which is a simple app that you download on your phone and at the press of a button, voila, a black car appears at your address of choice. If not, send a cab – the idea is anticipation.

Tell her to dress up, head to your date destination yourself, and have a car pick her up to bring her over. Be waiting with roses. If you’re going to a restaurant, make sure you have reservations so she doesn’t have to wait after getting there.


Put down the phone and the remote.

You didn’t expect every idea here to be extravagant and romantic, did you? That’s not what love and relationships are about – sometimes they are about simply shutting out the rest of the world and truly talking and listening to each other. It’s a rare occurrence these days, and a great way to show her you care.

Make her a collage.

One of the best gifts I’ve gotten was a great collage from my girlfriend on our first anniversary. She took photos of us together during events in our lives and put them in order in frames. The thought, time, and effort that you put into something like this will make her heart skip a beat.

Make her feel appreciated.

Yes, I talk about this often. But what is more important in a relationship than both partners knowing that who they are is truly appreciated by the other? Make it simple, a brief text during work to brighten her day, or a toast to her for no reason when the two of you are having dinner together.

Feeling taken for granted or just “expected” to be there is a great way to drive somebody out of your relationship.



While I am a fan of performing grand, romantic gestures, it’s not always practical or possible. Fortunately, romance is not in what you do or the things you buy – it’s about who you are and how you make her feel on a consistent basis. Don’t just kiss her…kiss her. There is a difference.

Life gets crazy and it’s easy for sparks to fade as stress and distractions mount. Who says that you can’t step outside of your reality every now and then, hold her hand, and walk right into a fairy tale?

Romance and chivalry increase healthy relationships, which increases physical intimacy, which then increases happiness and fulfillment. Intimacy, in reality, is built outside of the bedroom.

Start building.

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  1. Pamela Ross on January 9, 2014 at 12:18 pm

    again, well spoken. Reading your posts makes me feel like I actually DESERVE better than what I’ve been getting in the past. I share your posts on my facebook wall, so hopefully paying the wisdom forward will help out too. Thanks again for this post 🙂 well written and well said.

  2. Viviana Volpicelli on January 9, 2014 at 1:48 pm

    Love your articles! I would love to read a ” 5 Ways To Woo HIM ” post.
    Thank you!

  3. Nick on January 9, 2014 at 4:01 pm

    This is all good but there is a thin line between sweet and creepy. It all comes back to the “nice guy” vs “bad boy” theory. Buying roses for her is one thing and that’s only occasionally, rose peddles in my experance may be going a little far.
    I don’t disagree with you but I think us men need to understand when we do these things for her. Understanding how she feels is the killer.

    • Pamela Ross on January 9, 2014 at 4:11 pm

      It’s that attitude that makes all guys “the same.” I don’t need rose petals all the time, but if I were to come home one day to my guy going to all this trouble? holy CRAP. He just stepped up a few hundred points in my opinion. Guys who don’t want to do these things because their girl might think it’s “creepy” is exactly why girls complain all the time that they don’t get swept off their feet. We are in a generation of “different” guys who all act the same in their desperation to not be seen as “same old same old.” So instead of just SAYING you’re different, why don’t you SHOW your girl you are, by competing above and beyond the rest? All of this coming from a girl. I don’t require that my guy open doors for me all the time, but if he insists? omg, I seriously think I found a good one, and I’m liable to brag on that more than anything. And if he did more than that by either sending a car for me, or making me dinner? We just went from amazing to out of this world. So don’t discount what you do for your girl. Don’t refuse to do something because you think it’s creepy. Chances are she will actually think it’s pretty darn awesome.

    • Trish on January 13, 2014 at 9:57 am

      Nick, Pamela has summed it up completely. It’s not creepy to show the woman you love, that you think about her happiness. To be honest, ANYTHING that shows you’ve put some thought into making her happy, goes a very long way. And James, you nailed it with ‘KISS HER!’ There is definitely a difference between a ‘kiss’ and a ‘kiss with emotion behind it.’ If my ex-boyfriend had kissed me like that before going to work in the morning, I would have absolutely thought about him all day, waiting for that evening. Gentlemen, pay attention to what James is saying! He knows what women want!!

  4. Rebekah Carter on January 10, 2014 at 3:08 pm

    I appreciate your sentiment here, but there are plenty of girls out there like me who would HATE the idea of being taken in a limo to some kind of fancy restaurant. One way my husband shows he loves me is by taking me to simple little Mexican restaurants & local pizza & burger joints b/c those are the places he knows I am most comfortable (& luckily so is he). If this makes me cheap & unsophisticated, so be it.

    • Big Cat Solutions on January 10, 2014 at 3:13 pm

      I dont think that was his point. You did read the part about making sure your girl is comfortable in whatever situation you put her in, right? So it sounds like your husband is doing something right. Personally, my idea of fancy is olive garden, but if my date wanted to send a car for me to eat there? Wow 🙂

  5. rlcarterrn on January 10, 2014 at 3:18 pm

    Here are my thoughts on the subject http://athicketofmusingsblog.com/2013/10/01/im-a-cheap-date/

  6. Carol Merrifield on January 13, 2014 at 7:29 pm

    Wow ….good wow

  7. […] it means still performing small chivalrous acts, or slightly more elaborate romantic gestures, it’s important that these things don’t end after the honeymoon […]

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