That’s right, I said it.
For as long as I can remember, there has always been a terrible stereotype about girls who “put out” too soon. This could be the first, second, third, or however many dates she personally thinks are “right.”
The words thrown at girls who do this are usually mean and unjustified. I say usually because obviously there are girls who don’t only put out on the first date, but they put out on every first date. This is much different than acting on a strong connection you feel with someone.
The more important question here is, what would you rather be more true to? Your own instincts and feelings, or the perception of what others would think of you if they found out?
I know of situations where weeks were spent with someone and nothing ever happened, and also situations that things physically escalated quickly, but the flame continued to burn.
I think if you’ve got a true connection with someone – there is really no reason to wait. As a guy, I can confidently say that if I genuinely enjoy a woman’s presence in my life, even if we go all the way on the first date, why would I not want to continue that and see her again?
Plus, what if you wait too long, develop an emotional attachment, commit to each other, but then find out after that physically, the spark just isn’t there? That could create an even more uncomfortable situation. You always test drive a car before you buy it, right?
If he doesn’t call, it’s not because of when “it” happened. It’s because he didn’t feel a connection.
I say, do what you feel is right. But if you feel it’s right every first date with every guy, you may have to raise your standards.
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