How to keep sabotaging your relationships

I witness this phenomenon more frequently than I’d care to, and I’m sure many of you do as well.

The more I observe, the more I think it’s mostly prominent in the ‘party scene.’

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The unexplained merry-go-round of dating. The same girls willingly circulating around the same guys, all of whom usually have a terrible reputation. A reputation that everyone knows about…except for, apparently, her.

You have got to be kidding me with this nonsense.

It’s 2013. Between Facebook and fast moving gossip in small circles, if a guy has a sterling reputation as a dead beat dad and/or a well known drug dealer, it’s impossible to keep it a secret.

These girls are often the same ones who are always complaining online about how ‘all men are the same’ or how they can never find a nice guy. I wonder why.

Nobody is judging you if you want to enjoy yourself in clubs for a few years, we have all been there, and many of us still are. But I learned early on that if you want to find a quality relationship, in most cases you’re going to have to leave that scene and look in different places – not keep swimming around the same pond and expect to find a different kind of fish.

You’ve got to head out to the ocean, and use a different kind of bait.

You can’t control other peoples’ actions, but you can control what you accept into your own life. If you want to improve the quality of your relationships, you’ve got to raise your standards.


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  1. The side-effects of an underdevelped prefrontal cortex which doesn’t reach full development in humans until around age 25, sometimes later. Then there’s other factors such as fluxes of biochemicials, instinctual urges, media influences, gender stereotyping, self-image, culture and herd mentality. There’s a lot to be aware of. A lot to process. The best teachers are experience and education, and a little guidance never hurts. 🙂

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