5 Things ALL Men Should Know About Women


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ALL kinds of men EVERYWHERE struggle to understand, communicate with, and appropriately interact with women. The truth is that nobody is really teaching us how to in the first place.

Here are 5 things all men should know about women (backed by science).

Men and women are neurologically different.

“Big whoop, captain obvious!” Hear me out…

We learn as kids that boys and girls have different parts and all of that vanilla sex education, but what about the fundamental structural differences in the male and female brains?

I don’t remember learning that women have a ‘communication center’ that is 2.5 times physically larger than a man’s, giving a higher ability to express emotions.

I don’t remember learning that little girls scan faces for micro-expressions in order to read emotions, but little boys don’t.

I don’t remember learning about the biological pathway that women walk over the course of their lives and the physical and emotional changes that happen along the way…

Perhaps, if we did learn more than just biology in sophomore year in high school – perhaps a social biology course that would actually help us understand and interact with each other, we would have a more harmonious society and a deeper mutual understanding.

You don’t need to be rich to find a good woman.

Sure, women value stability and security (as everyone should), which are often results of relative financial comfort – but women who are looking for real love are NOT often the same women looking to be ‘sponsored’ by their own personal trust fund and allowance.

Our society is painting a picture through social media that the happiest couples are the ones with the houses and cars and vacations, the ones who never seem to work. All they do is go to the gym and eat organically and travel the world.

The REALITY is that the woman who is going to be your true teammate in life, is looking for just that in return. She will value the depth of your character far more than the depth of your wallet.

Women are human beings just like you.

OH, SHIT. That’s right, I said it.

People have been accusing me for the past 5 years of putting women on a pedestal and making it sound like they can do no wrong – which couldn’t be further from my actual thoughts.

Nobody is perfect. I have had my heart broken more than I care to admit. I’ve felt betrayed. I’ve been hurt and lied to and deceived.

So has just about every other man I have ever known.

But, we grow up being conditioned that we need to pursue women and cater to their every move. This creates generation-wide waves of men who see women as a goal to be achieved, a prize to be won, an ideal being who needs to approve of us in order for us to ‘be a man.’

We are all human beings, no matter how much money, status, or beauty we possess. Men will be able to communicate better with women when they understand that she is just a person with wants, needs, desires, fears, loves, and insecurities – just like he is.

She still wants you to be the man.

In the age of equality, many men assume that women no longer want chivalry or romance. That they no longer want to be taken to dinner or have doors opened for them.

Just because a woman may be in charge from 9-5 on Monday through Friday, doesn’t mean she wants the same responsibilities in a relationship. At the end of the day, many women still appreciate a man who is the man,and will make plans for them on date night. A man who still romances her. A man who is chivalrous and respectful. A man who understands that a woman can be independent and should still be treated as a lady.

Nothing you do ever entitles you to her body.

It doesn’t matter if you spent $300 on dinner. It doesn’t matter if you’ve always been nice and kind to her. It doesn’t even matter if you’re MARRIED.

Being an autonomous, living, breathing human being means a person has 100% control over their own decisions affecting their own bodies at all times.

The “prize to be won” mentality perpetuates this myth of being able to do whatever you want once you’ve put in the work, forgetting that there is a real human being at the other end of the equation.


What lessons would you teach (or have you already taught) to boys growing up so they become men who can maintain healthy relationships of all kinds with women? Comment below.

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  1. P.J. Hanrahan on November 4, 2019 at 11:07 pm

    Women are equal but special. Treat a woman like a lady, until she proves otherwise.

    • James Michael Sama on November 4, 2019 at 11:19 pm

      You said it, P.J.! Nicely put.

  2. Kristy Ramirez on November 5, 2019 at 12:46 am

    I’m a woman and I love reading your posts. I’d say you’re pretty spot on with your writing.

    • James Michael Sama on November 5, 2019 at 1:46 am

      Thank you so much! Grateful for your support and kind words. Thanks for spending your time here. 🙂

    • Paul on November 5, 2019 at 9:15 am

      Yes, Michael caters to the feminist ideal that women are SPECIAL humans that are equal, but women deserve more rights and better treatment than men because they have a vagina and not a penis. So he gets lots of praise for being a blue-pill simp.

      • James Michael Sama on November 5, 2019 at 9:49 am

        Hi Paul, thanks for spending your time on my site. I’m not sure who Michael is, but can you site an example of the claims you’re making here? Seems like quite a statement to say a guy thinks women should have more rights than men. I’m not even really sure how that would work.

        Thanks in advance for clarifying.

        – James

      • Beth on November 5, 2019 at 6:40 pm

        Hi James, you don’t know your middle name?, Paul was probably referring to you. As a woman with three brothers, two that are divorced from women (I should say bitches) that really didn’t deserve them, I can confirm what Paul says. I have watched how society and the courts have demoralized my brothers, and yes, it is with the idea that women are somehow more privileged than men. Don’t you have any male friends that have gone through the divorce courts? Is the idea really that strange to you? Where have you been living all these years?

      • James Michael Sama on November 5, 2019 at 6:49 pm

        Hi Beth! I’ve lived between Los Angeles and the Boston area, mostly. While spending some time in New York City.

        In this very post I reinforce your point about how many times men have had their hearts broken (including myself). I really do not know what this has to do with the points I make in the video and post.

        I have never advocated for women to have more rights than men, nor that they should be superior in any way. My entire platform for nearly a decade has been based on equality, which I literally say right in this video.

        I feel for your brothers, that sounds horrible. With respect, though, it is in no way related to anything I mention in this post, at all, anywhere.

        So, I am a bit confused because there is no evidence for the allegations being made in this comment. What exactly is incorrect or inaccurate in my post?

        Thanks in advance for providing evidence showing my inaccuracies.

        – James

      • Beth on November 5, 2019 at 8:01 pm

        Hello again James MICHAEL Sama. I think if you read Paul’s comment carefully, he doesn’t say you said anything. He mentioned that you cater to a particular female mindset. All your attention to “chivalry” reinforces Paul´s comment. I really doubt you know what women really want, just what partial bit you’ve allowed yourself to hear. How can I say that? By reading your response to mine, you’re self-absorbed and lacking comprehension. It should be obvious to most women like myself that your are still a little boy seeking “mommy approval”. I´ve read many of your posts, not just this one, and yes, you do cater to women. Stop being so intellectually confused. Be a man James!

      • James Michael Sama on November 5, 2019 at 8:08 pm

        Appreciate your feedback, Beth, though I notice you didn’t provide any evidence about where I’ve ever said women are superior to men, nor where I’ve said they should have more rights than men. That’s just a silly comment.

        I also don’t see any disagreement with the actual content of this post, which I’ll take to mean that it’s accurate.

        That’s the beauty of having a personal blog where we write our opinions, we can cater to whomever we’d like.

        Thanks again for spending so much time on here, it helps my statistics on WordPress.

        – James

      • Beth on November 5, 2019 at 8:56 pm

        James! You missed the point of everything that was said. Neither Paul or I were talking about your silly ideas in this post! And did you notice? You failed to say which part of my comment was silly to you. You really are quite dense to be giving advice.

      • James Michael Sama on November 5, 2019 at 8:58 pm

        Paul’s idea that I’ve ever said women are superior or deserve better treatment than men is what I said was silly. 🙂 I’ve never said anything of the sort.

        If I’m giving accurate information and you just don’t like my approach then that’s fine, 38 million people have passed over these pages and many of them have disliked my ideas and opinions.

        I’ll take your comments into consideration moving forward. I hope you enjoy the rest of your evening.

      • Beth on November 5, 2019 at 10:17 pm

        Hello again James. I don’t recall how your blog first came to my personal email box, I hadn’t subscribed. It may have been some promotional piece tied to your blog. It’s not important. Here we are.

        What I do remember was that you were supporting the Gillete man-bashing ad and that there was a lot of controversy over it. I’m a VP of Human Resources at a Fortune 500 company based in Atlanta. I worked hard to get where I am, and I never took the short cuts that the “MeToo movement” so hypocritically decries. I remember reading your blog against men and thinking how wonderful it would be if 90% of the daily problems I have to deal with weren’t caused by poorly-behaving and entitled-feeling women.

        I’m happy to comment on your blog, in your blog, thank you. I´m resting today from the flu, hence the time to contribute to your blog (between phone calls). Tomorrow I will be busy. Best of luck with your opinion blog.

        BTW, I know I’m wasting my breath here, but if you want to improve in your communications, stop with the disingenuousness when responding to your critical readers. If you take a moment to understand what they’re writing, you might learn something about your naive opinions.

      • James Michael Sama on November 5, 2019 at 10:19 pm


    • Beth on November 5, 2019 at 9:22 pm

      James, that’s the third time you’ve focused on what you said and not on what your readers said. I´m so happy that millions of people find you so entertaining. Your mommy must be so proud.

      Now hear me James! This is what I think, my opinion, in the Internet which you aren’t the sole owner of. A spam email invited me into your site, so live with it. I don’t care what your current post says or doesn’t say. I’ve read many of your poorly conceived ideas, and my OPINION, is that you unjustly bash men while giving women a soft pass. Your chivalry drivel makes me think you started this as an exercise to say to single women ¨Look at me! Aren’t I such a perfect male specimen. I bet you wish you could date a guy like me!”

      I believe men are discriminated against in so many ways. My older brother was FORCED to serve in Vietnam, and he was injured quite badly. I don’t know of any women that were ever drafted (at least in the USA). My sister-in-law is a drunk but the courts thought she could be a better parent than my responsible brother, because of an institutional bias. I always offer to pay 100% of the check on the first date with a man, but I’ve only had two accept, and I was glad they did. How many women do that, and why not? Because women enjoy a society that CATERS to them and the benefits they can cherry-pick from. Society doesn’t work the way James MICHAEL Sama says it should in his oh-so-well-read blog. Not everybody here is only talking about what James says or doesn’t say.

      Some adult should take your keyboard away and put you in the corner for a time-out, so that you can get over yourself.

      • James Michael Sama on November 5, 2019 at 9:27 pm

        I’m so grateful you’ve taken so much time to put thought into this and I’ll be sure to read through this comment, seems you’ve got quite a bit of experience in these areas and I’m always looking to learn and improve.

        I can’t imagine what spam email would bring you here since I don’t do any email outreach, so I’ll have to look into that! I don’t imagine you’re subscribed to my blog here and wordpress emailed you when I published a new post…right? Willfully subscribing wouldn’t be spam…

        I’ll call some adults and get their thoughts on taking my keyboard. 🙂


      • James Michael Sama on November 5, 2019 at 9:29 pm

        Oh by the way if you’d like to have a more productive conversation about this where we can speak more effectively please feel free to email me at James@JamesMSama.com. I genuinely do value feedback and learning experiences from different perspectives.

  3. Jennifer Hamp on November 7, 2019 at 10:59 pm

    Amazing how people can’t let another have an opinion that may be a different perspective than theirs. I take what speaks to me and leave the rest. Disagreements will always happen as that is just the way it is. however, bashing someone, taking digs are not productive nor does it produce positive results. We can disagree to agree not to be ugly. Where ever did class, eloquent verbiage, kindness, constructive words of disagreements go? People seem to look for the ugly and bad in life, lets get back to what we can do, hey, thanks for sharing your thoughts, however, I have some input from a different perspective. We could get better understanding and make corrections if needed. Be kind to one another, smile more, live with purpose:)

  4. Mickey on November 10, 2019 at 4:18 pm

    Well James, what DO YOU SAY about the runaway feminist man-hate, #metoo hatemongering, and misandric courts that do nothing but destroy husbands and fathers in any divorce proceeding with an automatic presumption of guilt? Or is all that just a figment of the imagination?

  5. Paul Shannon on November 22, 2019 at 1:23 am

    That one is truly an inspirational one. Liked the way you gave importance to women.

  6. Bastian on November 26, 2019 at 6:04 pm

    Yea okay okay but we need a ” 5 Things ALL Women Should Know About Man” hahaah
    realy good words.
    I agree about “women, equal but special”
    there is why in this sentence .. I like it!
    I found some interesting stuff on this site https://bit.ly/34lzQhi (it talks about general problems so I don’t know but I write it)

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