5 Simple Ways To Keep Her Happy

What’s more important than starting a relationship? Developing and maintaining one that keeps both partners happy. Not letting things get stale. Keeping it fresh.

It might be easier than you think – all it takes is a little effort and attention to detail. Here are 5 ways to keep her happy.



Always be willing to learn new things.

Whether it be learning new things about her (emotionally or physically), or learning about life and becoming better in general – consistent improvement is a big part of keeping both of you happy while in a relationship.

Comfort is important, but complacency is deadly. Becoming too comfortable is the enemy of progress, which leads to boredom tension in the relationship. We must work daily to become the best version of ourselves while remaining the man she fell for in the first place.


Keep courting her.

Sure, you’re in a relationship…but are you still courting her? Are you still showing her how much she means to you, even though you’ve already “gotten” her? It’s important to keep courtship alive, because when we stop showing effort to the person we’re with, the relationship begins to dwindle.


Surprise her.

Leave a dress on the bed with a note to wear it and where/when to meet you. Bring her flowers for no reason. Send a car to pick her up and bring her to you somewhere. Plan a weekend away.

Even just, cook dinner for her one night before she gets home from work.

Whether you’ve just started dating or have been together for years, if you’ve paid attention you’ll know what she does and doesn’t like, so you’ll be able to plan around her interests. What’s even more important about what you plan, is that you actually put in the effort (key word) to plan it.



Give her your attention.

This one might seem like it doesn’t need to be said – but it does. It needs to be said because most of us are busy. Very busy. We have businesses or jobs or crazy schedules or smartphones or, you name it. All of these things constantly hold our attention and it’s difficult to cut it all off for awhile, but that’s what makes it special when we do.

Give the woman in your life the respect of your full attention. Don’t allow your relationship to become two people who just use their phones while on the same couch.

Sometimes, it’s important to just…listen to her.


Show her she is desired.

Desire is more than just attraction. Any physical connection can breed attraction – but real desire, the deep lusting for a person you truly care for, is only built from a more profound relationship.

Small things like holding her hand or putting your arm around her will show her that you enjoy being close to her. More specific things like complimenting the unique things about her that you love, will show her that you pay close attention to her and are still drawn to her no matter how long you’ve been together.

In short: Chemistry.



Of course, romance in relationship should go both ways, but it’s important for us as men to keep communication honest and open. If we put in the extra effort to keep the woman in our life happy, it will show her that we truly care and help eliminate any insecurities she might have.

It’s not only up to men to keep chivalry and romance alive. Women also must remember to appreciate acts of respect men show to them, and settle for nothing less.

You don’t have to be the perfect man, just be the man you said you were when you first met her.


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13 thoughts on “5 Simple Ways To Keep Her Happy

  1. My bf has stopped doing all of these things. It would be nice to feel important again. Just a little goes along way.

    1. Yes ksfinblog, those men do exist! My husband of nearly 30 years. James, it’s always a joy to read your posts. Keep up the good work.

  2. James,

    I always enjoy reading your posts! They echo with me very frequently. These are definitely sound bits of advice to heed. It is a shame that our culture as deteriorated to the point where many men no longer keep these things in practice which in turn has led to an apathetic generation of women who don’t keep men accountable. It is really a vicious circle of men not towing the line, women accepting it because few, quality guys are left to choose from, which in turn breeds apathy amongst the male population even more because obviously girls don’t require that extra effort anyway so why give it? It falls to the old adage, “If you can get the milk without buying the cow, why would you put the money forward to purchase the animal and take on the responsibility of feeding it?”

    In the end, I feel it has given some credence to the saying, “Nice guys finish last.” In reality, however, it should say, “Nice guys must wait, but when they find a girl after all their friends have found theirs, their’s lasts while the friends’ do not.” That is where I currently find myself. Trusting that I won’t indeed finish last, but simply am setting myself up for a true, lasting relationship with a woman who is looking to be treated like a lady and not a girl.

  3. Hello there, I just want to say that I really appreciate you creating a post like this. I find it very rare for a guy to express that he’s making an effort to take care of a relationship, they are usually shy about showing their emotions which is why I’m glad whenever a guy makes this type of gesture. A lot of guys that I have dated seemed to stop caring after some time in the relationship. Everything you wrote here I completely agree and I hope that a lot of guys out there would also do the same.

    Tavia Cruz

  4. Good article. As a minister though, I think it is equally important for a person to be able to find joy & happiness in themselves and then share that with others. For if a person is unhappy in their hearts then nothing will be able to make them happy. Not for long anyway. Mr. Sama, I do enjoy your articles 🙂

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