5 Easy Ways To Be More Gentlemanly


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Fair is fair, gentlemen. We’ve discussed the 5 Things Making Women Less LadyLike, but we can’t forget the devolution of the gentleman into…whatever guys today call themselves.

Fellow men of the world — learn from our predecessors who carried themselves with dignity and class. They were providers, protectors, and a support system for their women and those around them. Even though society has evolved and men no longer have to be the sole breadwinners in a relationship, we should not sacrifice the pride of personal accomplishments and development.

Here are five ways that men can be more like gentlemen.


Value courtship.

This is primarily a dating and relationship blog, so this topic should be expected. The modern man’s idea of a “date” these days is shooting a text to a girl that he met last weekend at 8:00 on a Friday night to meet up with him for drinks. Stop that.

What happened to actually courting a woman? To romantic gestures that a woman with class appreciates? Expressing your interest in unique ways that will set you apart from the (large) crowd slobbering over themselves every time a woman walks by on the street.

Put the video games down, man up, suit up, and wine and dine a beautiful woman.

Provide more value to the world.

I am proud to know some men who are working to change the world. They are innovators, motivated to make a difference. But they are few and far between. Today’s men, primarily 20-somethings, are generally apathetic and seem to focus their attention on the quickest way through their 40 hour work week at the job they hate just so they can get back to the club on the weekend.

All of us as humans have the ability to bring something unique to society and to the world. I find that very few people are interested in watching, reading, or discussing things that help us improve as individuals or a race. If you are like this, let’s be friends.



Show more respect to others.

Easy. Simple. Basic. But, often overlooked. A true gentleman will show respect to everyone around him. He will not be condescending or put anyone down, regardless of intelligence level or professional position. As the saying goes, ‘a man of quality is not afraid of equality.’

I don’t mean to sound old, but “too many kids these days” have no respect for those around them. It has nothing to do with age or gender, just humanity. Stop pushing through crowds, disrupting people by swearing or talking loudly in public…you get the idea.

Be more well-rounded.

Connect with the wilderness as well as the city, or vice-versa, to stay grounded and in touch with yourself.

Read more books. Challenge yourself intellectually, and surround yourself with those who challenge you. Engage in discussions about topics that matter. Don’t be afraid to be wrong – that’s how you learn.

Modern society seems to be so caught up in passing time with Call Of Duty or “poppin’ bottles” at the club, they’ve lost sight of what actually happens when the “real world” gives you a wake up call and you’ve got to design a lifestyle for you and your family.


Each of us has the inherent ability to improve our own lives as well as those of others. By becoming the best version of ourselves, we encourage those around us to do so, also. Society is losing sight of dignity, integrity, and respect. It is being replaced by meaningless distractions and reinforcement of mediocrity.

“Never settle for average, it’s just as close to the bottom as it is to the top.”

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  1. MeAndDating on February 19, 2014 at 1:08 pm

    Amen brother. Valuable women are attracted to men of value. That value stems from within and exhibits itself on the outside. Stuff like cars, gadgets, money, etc. are just props that attract women in the short-term…it’s what is inside that comes out in words and in actions towards her and others is what makes a classy woman stick around. Good women will always have options, so it behooves you to behave in such a way that she has no option but to WANT to be with you.

  2. SaraBeara on February 19, 2014 at 1:20 pm

    Mr. James Sama,

    I absolutely appreciate your blog posts! I don’t always find myself agreeing with all of what you have to say, however, the majority of your posts are “on point”! Do you know of any really great bloggers with similar posts but more for a female audience?

    Thanks for your willingness to stand out and challenge men AND women!

    – Sara L. Contreras

    On Wed, Feb 19, 2014 at 1:04 PM, James Michael Sama wrote:

    > James Michael Sama posted: “Fair is fair, gentlemen. We’ve discussed > the 5 Things Making Women Less LadyLike, but we can’t forget the devolution > of the gentleman into…whatever guys today call themselves.Fellow men of > the world — learn from our predecessors who carried themselves w” >

  3. dmicu6 on February 19, 2014 at 1:32 pm

    I absolutely love this! I actually love all of your posts 🙂 I reblog several of them on my own page and follow your New Chivalry Movement page on Facebook! As a girl, I appreciate wholeheartedly your efforts to change the image of what a man should be and I hope this message gets across to every man and young man out there! I long to see the day where men are gentlemen and women are ladies; it feels like we only read about them in novels nowadays :/

  4. markvnathan on February 19, 2014 at 1:57 pm

    And the link works!

    “Never settle for average, it’s just as close to the bottom as it is to the top.”

    Love this line by the way!

  5. Laura Jean Vani on February 19, 2014 at 2:40 pm

    There are no words to adequately express my appreciation and gratitude for your blogs, tweet’s, opinions, ect. I have the utmost respect and belief in all you are expressing and it seem’s I have waited a long time to read such intelligent and wonderful writing. You are changing the world. Keep up the good work one moment at a time. From a lady who is blessed to have known some outstanding, wonderful men. Like a sponge soaking up important information, I am learning from you. You are right on point. Thank you again. Very best regards and continued success, Laura Jean

    • Charlie Ray on February 20, 2014 at 5:54 am

      I agree and relate to every word you wrote! I just love his blog!!!

  6. rlcarterrn on February 19, 2014 at 3:56 pm

    Love it, great post! I think all of these, especially the last 4, are good reminders for everyone, regardless of gender.

  7. Ashley on February 19, 2014 at 4:28 pm

    Great post! I wish I could encounter more gentlemen on a day to day basis instead of guys trying to be hard bad boys. We need less Justin Beibers and more James Michael Samas.

    • James Michael Sama on February 19, 2014 at 4:34 pm

      Thanks so much Ashley! I really appreciate your ongoing support – maybe someday these messages will get as much attention as him, just in a more positive light. 😉

      • Charlie Ray on February 20, 2014 at 6:18 am

        I look so forward to reading your blog. I love, love the way you think. Your mom and dad did an amazing job raising you!! Hats off to them or other amazing being that made you… YOU!
        I repost and send your blogs to my son (I taught him all of your awesome thoughts) my boyfriend (who is a true gentleman) and guy friends (to keep them on thier toes). I believe you can change the way people think by educating them and reminding them how a REAL gentleman and a REAL lady should act.
        It amazes me what you actually write!!! Keep up the good work.

        P.S I hope your girlfriend realizes how lucky she is to have you (the true gentleman).

        Don’t stop blogging!! Your awesome!! 🙂

  8. Audrey on February 20, 2014 at 7:49 pm

    I love the way you think and how you view things. It is extremely difficult as a young woman to find a man who knows how to be a gentleman and treat her right. I have struggled with this for a long time and found it near impossible to find a respectable man. Most don’t seem to know how to treat a real lady. MAJOR turn off!! I wish more guys would read this and take it to heart.

  9. Amber on February 21, 2014 at 10:16 am

    A true gentleman is deeply appreciated. They are a very rare breed and the simple courtesies of respect and appropriate manners say more about a man’s character than anything he can say. I have never fallen for a man I didn’t first respect.

  10. porterwilkins on February 22, 2014 at 2:45 am

    Reblogged this on Waters of Ripliancum and commented:
    This is the type of person the world needs more of. Someone who stands for decency, respect, and values. Definitely worth a look 🙂

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  12. Chad in Kentucky on March 26, 2014 at 2:06 pm

    Inaccurate! To be a gentleman first you must be considerate of others needs. Second you must stand for what is right. Third you must show respect to receive respect. Fourth put aside your wants to help others with their needs. Fifth be courteous.

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