I often find myself wondering what makes a ‘real man.’ I’m sure I’m not the only one who has seen funny little pictures with words on them floating around Facebook talking about what a ‘real man’ is, but those are usually crap and are used to get attention. They rarely carry any substance.
I am by no means an expert, but I observe and learn as much as I can from men who I feel are worthy of respect, admiration, and living a good life. In this article I’ll outline a few of these characteristics.
A gentleman shows others respect.
Easy. Simple. Basic. But, often overlooked. A true gentleman will show respect to everyone around him. He will not be condescending or put anyone down, regardless of intelligence level or professional position. As the saying goes, ‘a man of quality is not afraid of equality.’
A gentleman is chivalrous, but not just towards women. Towards everyone.
A gentleman praises others.
People love being around a positive person. A gentleman easily spots positive traits in others as well, and doesn’t hesitate to point them out. A gentleman will never break you down, only build you up. He will make you feel like a superhero, and that you can accomplish anything (because you can).
A gentleman cares about his appearance.
I don’t mean going to get manicures or always dressing in a suit and tie, but a gentleman will pay attention to how he presents himself to others. He understands that it doesn’t only show respect for himself, but also for those around him. He could be wearing anything from a t-shirt to a tuxedo, but the level of class he exudes will shine through it all.
A gentleman puts others first.
There is no room among the gentlemanly for the selfish. There is no room for those who believe climbing the ladder means stepping on others along the way. There is no room for those who mistreat others for their own benefit, or any reason at all. A gentleman isn’t kind to people because of who they are, he is kind to people because of who he is.
A gentleman will respect other men, women, children, and animals – and treat them with kindness. There is no need for a confident man to hurt another being in any way, as he gains nothing from it.
A gentleman is cool, calm, and collected.
You won’t find a gentleman stressing or freaking out over trivial matters. He will handle them with an even tone, and dignity.
A gentleman admits when he’s wrong.
If you are always right, there is nothing left to learn (hint, there is always something left to learn). A gentleman realizes this and won’t put his pride above self-improvement.
To outline all characteristics of a gentleman would be a novel, not a blog post. What other traits or qualities do you feel exemplify what a ‘real man’ is all about? Share your thoughts in the comments below or tweet me at @JamesMSama.
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