In previous posts, we’ve discussed what women can do to attract the type of man they want, but finding a woman of quality and class is an equally challenging undertaking for the modern man.
A midst the ‘hookup generation,’ it may seem as though hope is lost. The women of today are only to be found huddled around VIP tables at nightclubs screaming “YOLO!” every weekend.
I’m glad to be the one to say, have hope gentlemen, this is not the case.
However, there are two sides to the coin – there are a lot of losers out there who have no idea how to treat a woman, and the women know it. So, how do you differentiate yourself?
Leave the games at the door. Typical ‘social proof’ strategies should be ditched when trying to attract a woman of quality. If you think surrounding yourself with multiple beautiful women constantly and plastering the photos all over Facebook will make the one you want think that you’re a quality catch who will give her your full attention…
When it comes to women (not girls), genuine kindness wins.
Realize your money doesn’t matter. Yes, every woman wants a man who is ambitious, has goals in life, and can provide her with security alongside her own. But, the right woman won’t want you just because of those things. She doesn’t need to mooch off of you and therefore using your money to impress her will be a wasted effort.
Save that for the bottle chasers at the clubs.
Don’t be afraid to be nice. Men are (often rightfully so) afraid that being nice to women will land them in the friend zone. Correction: Being too nice is what lands you in the friend zone. Being chivalrous, respectful, and dignified will land you in much better places.
Class never goes unnoticed by a mature woman, gentlemen.
Keep it real, yo. Honesty is the best policy when it comes to dating if you’re looking for something serious. There’s no point, or sense, in over-exaggerating or straight up lying to a woman who you are genuinely interested in (or any woman) because she will find out eventually and you’ll be kicked to the curb.
The right woman will want you for you, not because of who you are or what you (say) you have.
Leave the club scene. This one requires a disclaimer: I do know of some amazing couples who are madly in love that found each other through nightlife, often because they both work in the industry. There are exceptions to every rule.
But, if you are a club whore (yes, guys can be club whores too), then you will have a much more difficult time finding a woman who will take you seriously, and not assume off the bat you are just a player, playing her.
We’ve all got to grow up sometime. The fun and challenge of meeting women out in the city on the weekends is great for a while, but eventually you will want something, and someone, more meaningful. Trying to go about this the same way you’ve gone about trying to find one night stands, will lead to nada.
Man up, suit up, become the best version of yourself without changing you you really are – and you will find someone who loves you for it.