Since the dawn of man, there has always been the epic battle of good and evil told in stories through the generations. Men who fight for power – heroes and villains, angels and demons. Figures we use to represent the flawed nature of humanity that sways in one of the two directions – moral or immoral.
We are told that the good guys always win, but this is mostly true in stories. Consider men who hold power, whether it be in the trite quips of ‘nice guys finish last,’ or in the seemingly never-ending now mainstream accusations of sexual harassment from men who are in high positions at companies and organizations.
It almost seems as though there is a turning tide in society that is (finally) longing for the good man to stand up and help raise the tides of fairness, equality, and doing what is right for the sake of humanity as a whole.
But – where have these good men been? They are frustrated, stepped over, overlooked, chosen last for the sports teams and left standing alone at school dances. They are ‘friend zoned’ and passed over for the promotion. They are genuine and kindhearted, which are the exact positive qualities that seem to hold them back from achieving their full potential.
Many good men are jaded and beaten down by their experiences of rejection, heartache, and failure. Perhaps they lack the resilience or fortitude to understand that failure is an experience, not a person. Perhaps they have not (yet) been recognized for what they can contribute and therefore are unable to recognize it within themselves. Perhaps they simply have not uncovered their true passion in life and are left thinking that it simply does not exist.
It is time for the good men of the world to stop taking a backseat and allowing themselves to be trampled on by the so-called ‘alpha male’ who often times is nothing but a bully on the schoolyard who is followed out of fear over respect. The one who takes advantage of others to get where he wants to be, with no consideration or empathy. The men who harass, and abuse, and insult – for the sake of their own gain.
The irony, though, is that these giants often fall. Being selfish will only get you so far before humanity rises up after growing weary of being cast aside.
I believe good men are beginning to stand up and refusing to feel less ‘like a man’ because of what society has shown us to be the right mold to fit into. I believe good men are ready to unlock their own inner power and understand what they have to offer. I believe they are ready, willing, and able to be good partners, good boyfriends, husbands, and fathers. I believe they are a good product that is simply often poorly packaged.
I believe that compassion and empathy will win over selfishness and greed if you play a long enough game at a high enough level. I believe we can turn the tides of society to see this as reality if enough of us stand up and make it so.
You have spent enough generations silencing yourselves and cowering into the shadows of the bully. The alpha male is not the biggest dog in the yard. He is not the one with the sharpest teeth. He is not the one who tears down others for the sake of lifting himself up.
He is the one who can bind people together. Who can understand humanity and be willing to feel what they are feeling in order to relate to them and therefore empower them. He is one who leads through example and taking charge rather than directing and pointing fingers while keeping himself out of harm’s way.
A ‘real man’ has no need for tearing down others, because he understands that we all win and thrive together if we collaborate.
The reason everyone thinks ‘nice guys finish last’ is because they do. Calling yourself a nice guy is simply an excuse for showing no backbone, no identity, no originality. It is an excuse for fitting yourself into everyone else’s mold for the sake of peace and avoidance of conflict. It is simply an excuse for staying in your shell while the world claws at it.
Here’s the problem: The good man thinks the world is clawing at his shell in order to attack him. In reality, they are clawing at his shell because they desire him. They desire him to bring goodness and strength to society. To join the ranks of the powerful to shift the tides in the direction of love and respect. To use his untapped potential to love and care for others.
I believe the good man has more to offer than the world than we realize, because he simply hasn’t utilized his full potential for one reason or another.
If you are a good man who knows he can be a great leader, husband, father, brother, son, entrepreneur, boyfriend, or simply just a great addition to society – this is your call to arms.
This is your time to stand up and be heard. Be seen. Be felt. This is your time to hear the winds blowing across the branches of unrest in the world and understand that people are tired of the bully. They are tired of the ‘bad boy.’ They are tired of lack of depth and substance and character.
They are waiting for you to emerge from the shadows and show them that all men are not the same. And, by doing so, you give permission to all of the other good men who have allowed themselves to be silenced and are just waiting for someone to stand up first.
So I ask you – if not you…then, who? And if not now…then, when?
It only takes one man to prove that not all men are the same – The world is waiting for you.