10 Things Men Need To Stop Saying To Women


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A few days ago I posted a video a friend of mine did titled “10 Things Women Should Never Say To Men.” Despite quickly learning from readers that many of you would prefer to read an article rather than watch a video, I also learned there is a fair amount of backlash from women, attempting to let everyone know that “not all women say things like that.”

So to even the score, I’m going to lay out here ten things that I have personally heard or seen men say to women, that they should lock in a vault and drop to the bottom of the ocean.

In no particular order:

“You are so good at that (whatever “that” is)…for a girl.”

Oh good, you have successfully telegraphed the fact that you hold lower standards for women than you do for other men. Now she will know right off the bat that you will never respect her as an equal or really take her seriously. Success!

“Calm down” or “relax.”

The best way to get a woman to not calm down, is to tell her to calm down.

This is only a good thing to say to a woman if you’re curious about what the wrath of all seven gates of hell look like when they open simultaneously and shoot their fury all over your face.



Responding “K” to an 8 paragraph text message that she just poured her heart and soul into is the best way to tell someone that you just don’t care. At least have the decency to call and respond if the conversation is getting that out of hand, or use your words to formulate thoughts and be a little less passive aggressive.

Anything comparing her to your ex.

Do you want to hear what her ex and her used to do together and how she wonders why you don’t do it, too? No? Oh good, well neither does she. We are all adults and understand that each other has a past, but no good ever comes from comparing your current girlfriend to your previous one. They are two different people and two different relationships. Keep them separate.

Anything bad about her friends.

This one can be tough because like, maybe she has annoying friends. But the fact of the matter is that her friends were there for her before you were, and unless the two of you get married, her friends will be there for her after you, too. Her friends are going to be around when you hang out together in groups and they’re going to be the one she vents to about you if you do something wrong (like anything on this list).

Remember, she tells them everything, so don’t make it awkward when you all see each other.

No offense, but…

This is a great way to start a sentence that is most likely going to offend her.


Is it that time of the month?

Yikes, dude, yikes. Let’s just forget for a second that not all women become moody during certain dates, but as if the assumption isn’t insulting enough, if it’s not “that time of the month,” you’ve just successfully told her that she’s somehow acting out of line.

The subtext of what you’re saying here, that you might not realize, is that there is no rational reasoning for how she’s acting and it must be some hormonal imbalance causing it. Doesn’t sound like such a great idea when it’s thought of that way, does it?

“Your cousin/sister/the waitress/that random girl is hot.”

Why? Why would you say this? She knows you look at other women, and that’s fine. But the last thing you should be making your girlfriend worried about is how you might be thinking of someone specific (who isn’t her) when you’re together. Especially if it’s someone she’s close to.

“How many men have you been with?”

Not only are you putting her on the spot here with a very uncomfortable question, but you are running the risk of her being dishonest with you about it. Plus, do you really want to know? I didn’t think so.


I love you.

Maybe the most important one. Never tell a woman you love her…if you don’t really mean it. If you don’t love her, don’t tell that her you do. A true gentleman would never let a woman fall if he doesn’t intend on catching her.


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  1. michellemanning2014 on August 29, 2014 at 11:19 am

    This is great and I LOVE how you ended it..too many broken hearts out there

  2. CTops on August 29, 2014 at 12:14 pm

    I would add, “you’d be so hot if you lost 5 lbs.” I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard this. If you don’t like the tree, don’t think you’re getting the fruit…

  3. rickyzg on August 29, 2014 at 1:30 pm

    Great, I never said any of those points.

  4. lovelygirl on August 29, 2014 at 8:19 pm

    I like how you pointed out that women know men look. But commenting on a women who is close to her will definitely make her worried.

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