Role-Reversal: This Video Shows What Happens When Women Cat-Call Men
EXCLUSIVE ADVICE & OFFERS RIGHT TO YOUR INBOX (NEVER SPAM)
It’s a long running joke about construction workers cat-calling and yelling at women who are walking along the street. Other equally non-effective bad habits include yelling out of car windows and leaving way-too-forward Facebook comments on photos of women who the man has never met.
Of course, both men and women have spoken out about how uncomfortable this makes the women getting yelled at, and just generally asked why anyone would ever do this in the first place, knowing that their chances of getting anywhere are probably .00000001%.
Well, what may be more effective than just talking about it, is turning the tables and showing the men just how uncomfortable this can make someone. Take a look at this video designed to do just that, and leave your thoughts in the comments below.
Did you enjoy this article? Enter your email here to be notified when new content is published!
Subscribe to Blog via Email
Click here to connect with me on Twitter -> [twitter-follow screen_name=’JamesMSama’]
Click here to join the discussion on Facebook.
Click here for the New Chivalry Movement.
Leave a Reply
EXCLUSIVE ADVICE & OFFERS RIGHT TO YOUR INBOX (NO SPAM)
I don’t think this is a very good representation of what this is like for women. Usually when men do it, they are not dressed in an attractive way or really attractive at all. These women were dressed sexily and some of the guys looked pretty happy with themselves for getting noticed rather than weirded out or even scared because of these women’s actions. Scared, though, is how it absolutely feels for a woman to be confronted with cat calling.
I absolutely agree. Most of the men laughed and seemed to have found the situation comical. After all, how often do you pass a bunch of generally attractive women wearing sexy outfits and doing “construction work” on the side of the road? Their style of dress made the situation too artificial because these obviously weren’t just ladies who were taking a stroll and cat calling to men. Perhaps if they’d used women dressing and acting more normally rather than sweeping the streets in daisy dukes, the set up would have seemed more genuine and we would have gotten more realistic responses.
Aside from that, I don’t think a man could ever understand how uncomfortable it is for a woman to be harassed. Part of the reason it’s uncomfortable and unsettling for women is because men are the physically stronger sex. It’s someone who can physically exert power over her expressing that they’re interested in doing just that. It’s far more unlikely (although not to say that it doesn’t happen) that a woman would kidnap or sexually assault a man. Cat calling is uncomfortable to women because it exposes and poses a potential threat. That same threat seldom exists for men in public. The situation is just not the same between sexes.
I agree with Emily here 100%. This situation wasn’t a good representation bc of how totally unrealistic it is. Also, as she pointed out, men ARE the physically stronger sex so it’s difficult for them to really feel threatened by women the way we can feel threatened by men.
I couldn’t care less about such a trivial concern. If it bothered me I would just tell the person I don’t like it and that I want then to stop.
The issue here Joe, is that many women are made to feel scared, nervous, and uncomfortable while walking down the street by these guys. I’m not sure if they’d classify that feeling as a “trivial concern” – and calling it that is showing a lack of empathy towards the issue and those it affects.
My empathy for women wishes them to not give in to paralyzing negative emotions when they have no cause to do so. FEAR = false expectations appearing real. “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself”, said FDR. etc. This is the perspective where I am coming from.
Without this perspective, many women are impoverishing their lives in helpless victimhood. I don’t blame them 100% either because they are constantly being indoctrinated to think this way by dogma . So I’m spoke up with an alternative point of view.
I don’t like cat calling or support people who do so either. It’s about manners, in general. For everyone. As opposed to being rude and crude. Still, the fact remains that bad manners do not cause injury. Nothing in the video would cause anyone any injury no matter which gender you place in which role.
I also have to say that I do not see rampant catcalling out there on the streets, in restaurants, shopping malls, the workplace etc. I therefore assert that it is a rare phenomenon for the average person. And that if it did happen it wouldn’t be so bad and could be quite empowering if the woman responds advising them to smarten up and walks away unruffled.
@Joe, empathy is the understanding of another’s feelings, but more importantly it is the ability to identify with and understand someone else’s feelings or difficulties.
As a woman I can say that I have been cat called my since my early teen years- the earliest being when I was 13 walking my dog down the street and having a man honk his horn at me and display his tongue between his two fingers-I’ll never forget that image in my mind. As I have grown up, I have been very aware of times when men ogle and stare too long, say things under their breath when I pass or make it a point to stop other men around them so they can stare collectively as I and/or my friends pass by.
You may not see rampant cat calling, but it happens, and as a woman who works in the heart of downtown, I can tell you it happens everyday but maybe you’re not as aware because it isn’t aimed at you. I have three construction sites that are currently around my office building, so I am guaranteed in one day to be cat called at least twice. I have stopped walking my normal routes to get coffee, to grab lunch, etc, because I would rather avoid this unwanted attention.
Understand, I am not subscribing to impoverishing my life with helpless victim hood, however I am not going to blindly walk around the city thinking sexual assault and violence don’t happen to women and that it doesn’t take much sometimes in the way of a catalyst. Have you ever thought about what you would do in the situation of rape, if you were raped, how you would cope, move on with your life, etc? Have you ever reorganized your activities because it got too dark outside to go for a run, to walk down the street by yourself, or even just to walk through a parking garage alone? Most men don’t (granted I said most), but women think about these things all the time. Unfortunately this is a necessary fear for most women, this is a fear that keeps me safe, it’s healthy and it keeps my mind focused on my safety first and foremost. It doesn’t mean I don’t do things and it also doesn’t mean that I expect to be rescued by a big strong man as I take care of myself just fine, however FDR was fortunate enough to not need to fear such things-great for him, he was great man, but I need to stress he was man, this is the perspective that I am coming from. Peace to you.
It’s not that easy. They don’t stop, and in some cases the harassment gets worse if you tell them to leave you alone: http://rwaldzpub.wordpress.com/2014/06/22/something-thats-really-gotta-be-addressed/
This was good. However, the girls should have been replaced with women who are conventionally unattractive and it would be been more accurately represented a role reversal. The reactions would have been quite interesting.
OMG! That video was hilarious. I remember in high school, adult males probably in their 30s making catcalls and physical gestures that were not meant as a compliment…it was aggressive, forward, and insulting. We came to the conclusion that it was a male bonding thing…that they had fun and bonded over heckling us. We looked the other way uncomfortably, or if there was a badass amongst us, she might tell them to fuck off.
Might have been more successful if at least 60% of the guys in this were straight.
please see my post about the horrible experience of being cat called:
Whereas I did not complete watching the video (language content), I have formed a few opinions…as an African American female, I have only felt embarrassed by African American men, not because of content (which was actually complimentary) but because they yelled it for all to hear from a passing vehicle or in a restaurant. I have found Mexican/Latino and Caucasian men to be a little less obnoxious, again, content was never disrespectful. I would also dare to say that the style of the woman in question clothing may have someting to do with content of cat calling, as well as how the female is carrying herself. Trash set out will attract dogs, while lady like qualities attracts gentlemen…and a gentleman will show desire as well, they are just less likely to be disrespectful.
i would feel flattered they had the guts to call out and I may stop to chat if they seemed like fun. Nothing to get my salami in a bunch about.