5 Reasons You Deserve A Happy Relationship


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Sometimes, we tend to get down on ourselves. Things may not be going our way or we may not have accomplished everything we thought we would have by this age.

For some, it’s hard to accept being “deserving” of happiness. Deserving of a good man or woman in life. Deserving of actually being treated with love and respect.

Here are five reasons you deserve the best life can offer you.



You work hard.

Seriously, life is hard. You spend 18-22 years of your life in school, only to leave school to start a job, or a business.

You get up early every day, plow through your work day, find yourself somehow back home after a daze-filled evening commute, and probably hit the sheets early to get up and do it all again.

You deserve things and people in your life who make you smile. You deserve to have something to look forward to after long days like yours. Don’t let anyone make you feel like you don’t.


You’ve been through a lot.

As the quote (Said by Plato? Philo of Alexandria? Ian MacLaren? John Watson? Whoever actually said it) goes:

Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.

The inherent truth of this sentiment is supported by our own introspection. Every person reading this has gone through, is going through, or will go through hard times. Perhaps a personal illness or that of a family member. Maybe losing a loved one. Maybe financial challenges. It could be anything. I’m telling you, I feel your pain.

None of us are invincible and we’re just trying to get through life the best we can. To learn along the way. To grow and improve. There is no Yin without Yang, no darkness without light – you have fought the emotional battles and deserve the reward of happiness.



You want to make someone else happy.

It takes some of us longer than others (it took me awhile) but maybe you’ve finally reached the point where you’re willing to put someone else’s happiness ahead of your own. You’re at the point where you’re ready to enter a partnership and have a teammate in life. To share your experiences with. To share your smiles, and your frowns with.

When you’re willing to give yourself to someone in this way, you deserve to have your partner give you the same love, respect, and kindness.


You’ve worked on yourself.

A relationship isn’t just about finding the right person, but also being the right person. I believe in consistent self-improvement, working to do more, learn more, and become more. As we work on ourselves, we become more aware of ourselves. What are our strengths and weaknesses? What do we enjoy or not enjoy doing? What kind of person do we want to be with? Do we even want to be with anyone at all?

If you find someone who matches you well and has also worked to become the best version of themselves, you will feel more comfortable and confident in what you can bring to the table.


You are awesome.

As simple as it sounds, this is one of the most important reasons there is. Not everyone will recognize your inner beauty or have the opportunity to see past your surface, but that’s their loss. It’s their loss that they didn’t take the time to have meaningful conversations with you and learn about who you really are. It’s their loss that they mistreated you when you would have completely devoted yourself to them.

You are not unworthy of love. You are not undeserving of happiness. Do not say “screw love,” but instead say “screw the people who made me think that way.”

Never change who you are – because when the right person comes along, they won’t be getting to know the real you. And you are awesome.



Just remember, you don’t need someone to complete you, only someone to accept you completely. We know that true, genuine happiness comes from within, yet many people search for it as if they’re on an easter egg hunt, expecting to find it hidden in a corner.

Never let anyone define your value for you. That’s why it’s called “self” worth – it’s up to you, not them.

We accept the love we think we deserve.

Only accept the best.


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  1. andiilong on April 1, 2014 at 8:04 pm


  2. Dan on April 1, 2014 at 8:54 pm

    Amen to this…very inspiring and mentions things we take for granted or forget to realize when we’re feeling down. Thank you for the great post.

  3. Kaitlyn MaRae on April 1, 2014 at 8:56 pm

    Reblogged this on Fit From Scratch and commented:
    Only accept the best.

  4. nevercallmealexandra on April 1, 2014 at 9:00 pm

    This is very heart-warming – it’s easy to forget these simple things sometimes 🙂

  5. msxbri on April 1, 2014 at 9:13 pm

    Amen!!! Awesome post! 🙂

  6. markvnathan on April 1, 2014 at 9:26 pm

    So we’ll said. Like I said before James, you gotta make a trip to Singapore. People down here are in serious need of some advice!

  7. fatinzach on April 1, 2014 at 9:28 pm

    cool. You are awesome! 🙂

  8. michaelrittenhouse on April 1, 2014 at 10:01 pm

    Reminds me of a good discussion today on Catholic radio, asking why so many marriages lack intimacy. My answer: fear of being seen as less than invulnerable. We put up fronts to protect ourselves. But once you find someone who can tolerate your vulnerabilities without sticking a knife in them, you’ve hit the relationship jackpot.

  9. yvonne1wilson on April 1, 2014 at 10:14 pm

    Reblogged this on Empowerment Moments Blog and commented:
    Very inspiring and heart warming at the same time. It is so easy to take these things for granted. Great post!

  10. crazyguyinthailand on April 1, 2014 at 11:09 pm

    True words 🙂

  11. msxbri on April 1, 2014 at 11:25 pm

    Reblogged this on S.K. and commented:
    Lovely and inspiring post 🙂

  12. Raelynn Love on April 2, 2014 at 12:19 am

    “A relationship isn’t just about finding the right person, but also being the right person.” I liked this line. so much truth in this post.

  13. francelag on April 2, 2014 at 1:00 am

    Reblogged this on Francela Gutiérrez.

  14. Renee on April 2, 2014 at 1:49 am

    Every night when I read your posts I’m reminded to be better and more living then yesterday. Thanks xo

  15. ravikkanth on April 2, 2014 at 6:56 am

    wow impressive

  16. Don on April 2, 2014 at 8:58 am

    Everyone deserves a great relationship because you are worth it, regardless what others might say or you might think about yourself. Change your mindset and believe that you deserve it and you will experience it.

  17. Tanya on April 2, 2014 at 9:31 am

    Reblogged this on Seeing-Into-Me and commented:
    Love this article. Particularily “You’ve worked on yourself” as being true to yourself is the only way to be true to others.

  18. Tanya on April 2, 2014 at 9:33 am

    Reblogged this on http://www.seeingintome.com
    Love “You’ve worked on yourself” – we can only be true to others once we are true to ourselves. Great post!

  19. elainanuweealnen on April 2, 2014 at 10:16 am

    Reblogged this on Redeemed.Saved.Blessed.

  20. dprattp88 on April 2, 2014 at 10:26 am

    Reblogged this on dprattp88 and commented:
    Love this!

  21. bonlou777 on April 2, 2014 at 11:18 am


  22. realityofjenna on April 2, 2014 at 12:37 pm

    I love your blogs. They not only inspire me as a writer, but inspire the way I want to live my life! Thank you!

  23. Ellen on April 2, 2014 at 6:40 pm

    “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.” “You’ve worked on yourself”, “Only accept the best.” Each of these are serious “mantras” to live by. They nudge along the journey.

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  25. kristine on April 2, 2014 at 9:37 pm

    Wow. Thank you. Now I think I deserve a happy relationship.

    “We accept the love we think we deserve.”

  26. Christina on April 3, 2014 at 3:19 am

    Great post, many thanks x

  27. Matt on April 3, 2014 at 8:31 pm

    Great one again James. My only questionable one is your statement of ‘you want to make someone else happy’. Im all for this and yes putting someone elses happiness before yours is great, but dont lose sight of your own priorities and who you are as a person. I think you mentioned this in one of your earlier blogs, as there is a fine line between putting someone elses happiness before yours and putting said person on a pedestal.

    I unfortunatley learned that lesson the hard way, and did what I could to keep my girl happy after a really rough time in our relationship, but it was at the expense of my own happiness.

    It needs to go both ways, because trying your heart out and not seeing any appreciation or support in return when you are down and out makes things turn south very quickly.

  28. kempenator on April 3, 2014 at 10:06 pm

    Reblogged this on AK and commented:
    Absolutely loved this! #YouAreAwesome.

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  32. Richard on April 9, 2014 at 4:18 pm

    Love is a two way street.

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  34. Caitlin on May 7, 2014 at 5:06 pm

    I loved this and needed to see it right now. Worked on yourself, you’re awesome, and above all you want to make someone happy were serious truth! TRUTH! Nice job, mister.

  35. tara on May 16, 2014 at 11:31 am

    With the exception of the title “you want to make someone else happy”. The paragraph is great. About giving to another for share experience. But the title of year is all wrong. You can not make another person happy. You have worked on your own happiness and health and seek someone equally content to share with and give to. Not our of deficit but out of abundance.

  36. Danz Social Blog on July 28, 2014 at 12:01 pm

    Reblogged this on Danz Social Blog and commented:
    Phenomenal article. 🙂

  37. breaking up on August 11, 2014 at 7:33 pm

    always i used to read smaller articles or reviews which also clear their motive, and that is also happening with this paragraph which
    I am reading now.

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