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5 Ways To Empower Your Woman

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Gentlemen,

Today’s modern woman is intelligent, well-educated, driven, and knows what she wants. What she doesn’t want, is someone who will mistreat her, disrespect her, or hold her back in life.

They certainly don’t need us, but we want them to want us. So, how do you strengthen your relationship by helping her feel encouraged and powerful?

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Let her be independent.

This issue starts within us. I feel that men who are unsure of themselves have a tendency to watch over their woman too closely. They’re always worried that she might find someone else – this is only showing her that you know you could be doing better, but you’re not.

The last thing any relationship needs is one, or both of you, to feel smothered. There’s a reason the term “ball and chain” is seen as a negative.Don’t worry man, if she cares about you she won’t be going anywhere.

Take part in her interests.

Let’s be honest, we all like to talk about ourselves and what we’re into, but relationships are a two way street. Odds are that you and your woman have different passions and interests, maybe ones that you wouldn’t even think about if it weren’t for her. When you put a woman in her element, she will shine. You’ll be able to see her truly enjoy herself.

Wouldn’t normally go to a fashion show or an art gallery? Are museums and history not your thing? Take her anyway – show her you care enough to expand your horizons and learn from her. Plus, you might discover a hidden interest of your own.

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Go to her for advice.

This one shouldn’t really need to be said because I feel that all healthy relationships are collaborations of different viewpoints, but unfortunately many overlook it. Women offer a different perspective on the world than we have. It’s only natural considering their differing biology and upbringing environments – and what a shame it would be to miss out on that unique wisdom.

By truly listening to what your woman thinks about a decision you need to make, you will both gain new insight, as well as show her that you value her opinion.

Keep her smiling.

A happy woman is a confident woman, and a confident woman has the power to go get whatever she wants out of life. As her significant other, your priority should be to lift her up and keep her feeling good about herself (and vice versa, ladies).

We all know that feeling when someone is negative in our lives and drags us down just by being around. It could be a coworker or even a family member – but it should never be your boyfriend or girlfriend. She has chosen to commit herself to you, don’t make her regret it.

Believe in her.

Simple, simple, simple. But unfortunately we still live in a world that oppresses women and makes them feel as though their greatest accomplishment should be getting married, or that they don’t have the same power or opportunity as men.

As a man, you have the power to (help) give your woman the ability to go out and achieve her dreams, just because you think that she can. It may surprise you to hear how her boyfriends before you never encouraged her the way that you do.

Break the pattern.

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Remember, it’s important that the woman you’re with understands and appreciates your efforts. Neither of you should ever take advantage of the others’ kindness nor treat them like a doormat.

But, when both people empower and encourage each other to become the best versions of themselves, that’s when magic happens.

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17 Comments

  1. jladams33 on January 29, 2014 at 11:38 am

    Reblogged this on Dads do it, too..

  2. kduncx on January 29, 2014 at 12:11 pm

    Great post!

  3. Genetic Gorm on January 29, 2014 at 12:40 pm

    it’s important that the woman you’re with understands and appreciates your efforts.
    Does she? How do you know this? How can you possibly make such a generalization when there are so many examples YOU see every day that it is not true?

    Neither of you should ever take advantage of the others’ kindness nor treat them like a doormat. But, when both people empower and encourage each other to become the best versions of themselves, that’s when magic happens.
    Funny how no one ever tells the women this. And it shows.

    • James Michael Sama on January 29, 2014 at 12:42 pm

      Sorry, I’m not sure if I understand your original question…

      How do I know what? That it’s important people in a relationship appreciate each other? How would someone NOT know that?

      Where is the generalization in that statement?

      To your second point – I just did tell women that. Hence the gender-neutrality of the statement – saying NEITHER of you and BOTH of you, implies duality in the relationship.

      Thanks for your comment, I hope this clarifies my statements. 🙂

      – JMS

  4. SilviaO on January 29, 2014 at 1:16 pm

    Great post. Well written and well thought out. All points are true too! 🙂 my friend sent me this post and I am glad they did. Looking forward to reading more.

  5. Carol Merrifield on January 29, 2014 at 2:41 pm

    Have a happy day ! On Jan 29, 2014 11:23 AM, “James Michael Sama” wrote:

    > James Michael Sama posted: “Gentlemen,Today’s modern woman is > intelligent, well-educated, driven, and knows what she wants. What > she doesn’t want, is someone who will mistreat her, disrespect her, or hold > her back in life.They certainly don’t need us, but we want them to want us. > So”

  6. Alexandra Svendsen on January 30, 2014 at 1:11 am

    Hello, I would just like to say ever since my Fiance showed me your blog i have been addicted to it. I really love reading what you have to say, and not just myself, but my fiance as well. your post are all so true, they are motivating. Keep on posting! We love it. There needs to be more men like you in the world. Alexandra Svendsen

  7. septhianzh on February 20, 2014 at 12:13 am

    nice artikel keep post

  8. Elle on February 26, 2014 at 3:49 am

    Hmmm, a man letting a woman be independent is empowering the woman? Wow.

    • James Michael Sama on February 26, 2014 at 7:02 am

      Elle,

      Did you read the description under the point? It speaks about overbearing partners in a relationship or those who don’t allow mutual independence.

      This goes both ways, of course.

      Do you disagree?

      – JMS

      • Gina on March 13, 2014 at 5:45 pm

        I disagree- nothing on your post says anything about overbearing partners until this comment. No one needs to “let” me be independent- if I feel like you’re smothering me, being independent means I can just leave, not wait for you to fix your own issues. The fact that you’re telling men that they need to make their woman feel encouraged and empowered and “allow” them to be independent makes it seem like women need male permission to be independent, even if you genuinely had different intentions.



  9. bali photography on April 12, 2014 at 10:10 am

    Hi just wanted to give you a brief heads up and let you know a few of the pictures aren’t loading properly.

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  10. John John on January 31, 2015 at 2:14 pm

    1) Believing in her accomplishments and her potential.
    2) Taking her advice for something that matters to you
    Is what I took away from this post. Thanks for sharing.

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  12. Julius on October 27, 2016 at 9:31 am

    Point take. It is clear and straight to the point!

    • Julius on October 27, 2016 at 9:32 am

      Point taken. It is clear and straight to the point!

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