6 Ways To Read Her Mind


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While men often wish that women would come out and just say what they’re thinking. Wouldn’t it make the dating game much easier? If she’s not into you, you know to just move on.

Ah, but, what fun would that be? And, how else would you use your competitive advantage that you know how to read a woman’s body language to gauge her interest?

Don’t know how? Read on.


Does she sound like she just inhaled a helium balloon?

A paper from the Journal Of Evolutionary Psychology found evidence that when a woman is speaking to a man she is interested in, the pitch of her voice actually raises up. The phrase “It’s not what you say, but how you say it” comes to mind here. Pay close attention to whether or not she sounds any different when she’s talking to you.

Jeepers Creepers…

Cornell University found that when a woman is viewing materials that get her, well, excited…her pupils get larger (This goes for men also). So, when you’re gazing into her beautiful eyes across the table, make sure you know exactly what you’re looking at.

Speaking of her eyes…

While you’re already looking in that direction, look around her eyes as well as into them. Tyra Banks coined the term “smize” which is when a woman smiles with her eyes. Can’t tell if she is just pretending to laugh at your jokes or is genuinely having a good time? If there are no wrinkles around the corners of her eyes, she is probably just plastering on that smile from the nose down to make you feel better.


While you’re complimenting her shoes…

Since I’m sure you already know by now to pay attention to small details and compliment her on them, such as when her clutch matches it shoes (hint: It does), there’s something else you should also notice.

Which direction are her feet pointing in? Forget about who she is talking to or where her head is turned, if her feet are pointed towards you, that’s where her attention really is. Away from you, and you need to step your game up.

Check out her chest.

Slow down, Casanova, this isn’t what you think.

When a woman is sexually excited, it is likely (though not always the case) that her chest/neck/even her arms will be flush or a pink color. You might not notice this until later in the night, as long as you’ve played your cards right from the points above. You know that song “my mind is telling me no, but my bodyyyy…my body is tellin’ me yessss…”

That’s what she’s thinking.


How’s my hair?

When I was in high school, before I was any good with women, a friend of mine told me that there are only two reasons a woman will touch your face. Either you’ve got something stuck on it, or she wants to kiss you.

Turns out, he was basically right. An addition to this valuable piece of information is how she pays attention to her own face and hair as well. If you catch her playing with her hair, or seemingly making sure that everything is in place – it’s likely she’s trying to make sure she’s making a good impression with you.


Of course, you don’t want to jump the gun and pounce on any woman who has her feet pointed towards you, but if you pay close attention to her while being romantic and chivalrous, the tides will begin to turn in your favor.

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  1. Scott on January 15, 2014 at 12:39 pm

    These are all nice things to note, and I appreciate the ideas here, but this has nothing to do with reading a woman’s mind…. These can be biological clues, but not to what she is thinking. Just because her pupils are dilated does not mean she now wants to get busy, in fact using her eyes to ‘read’ such an idea will end up getting more guys into more trouble… Same thing with being flushed, just because she is excited does not mean that she is now thinking about jumping in the bed with a guy. For a guy, yes, for a girl, no.

    Most women do not even know what is going on in their own minds – and that is not a knock, when they are being open and honest they will say the exact same thing. Most men don’t know what is going on in their minds either.

    The entire concept of mind-reading is flawed to begin with, and is a major cause for problems in a relationship.

  2. The Albany Chronicles. on January 15, 2014 at 5:25 pm

    Maybe the helium balloon concept is the reason behind “baby talk.” I catch myself daily with a higher pitched voice around my boyfriend and I usually make a conscious effort to speak in my “normal” voice. So thanks for letting me know I’m not just going into a weird mode!

  3. carbinks on January 15, 2014 at 7:51 pm

    Yep, I’m officially guilty of the “helium balloon” talk!

  4. Hlee Moua on January 15, 2014 at 10:27 pm

    So question here. What are the clues for a lady to know if a man is interested in her? So lets say, I’m at a lounge/bar, party, coffee shop or whatever the case is and I saw this man and we exchange looks and then both smile at each other… How can I “read” or know if he’s interested? and is it ok for a lady to approach a man? and if so, how would I come about of doing so without making a total fool of myself? (Haven’t dated in about forever now so I feel like I’ve lost my “mojos”) No judging please. hahaha

    • Paulh on January 16, 2014 at 4:45 pm

      My voice is generally deeper when i’m talking to someone i’m interested in. Its just a personal reply to your question. Im not an expert.

  5. Meg on January 18, 2014 at 11:55 pm

    I caught myself doing the hair one today…I was fixing it just when I saw an attractive man nearby. I gotta say, I have been reading your other entries and your words are inspiring. I am so glad there are men left in this world that still think like you. I have a little crush on you now.

  6. Jon on February 12, 2014 at 9:41 pm

    I’m a little disappointed. I was told I would be able to read minds after this. I now just look creepy looking at womens’ feet al the time. Please update with actual help.

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