Posts by James Michael Sama
15 Duties of All Good Men in Relationships
If there’s one thing that guys usually hate, it’s being told what to do. Many will resist and rebel just for the sake of pushing back against authority, even if that “authority” is their own personal decisions. What I mean by this : Sometimes, you make a choice that comes along with a set of guidelines,…
Read MoreYour Relationship Should Meet These 15 Needs
There is a big difference between “wants” and “needs” that often go overlooked when determining what is best for us in a relationship. A ‘want’ is something that, well…we want. There is, however, a deeper and more fundamental need that we are seeking to have filled by that “want.” In other words: The want is…
Read MoreThe Most Confident People Tell Themselves These 15 Things
Who‘s writing the story of your life? I mean really, honestly, truly…who’s got the pen? Is it you? Or, is it the multitude of voices in your ear every single day from society and the people around you? Are your thoughts, beliefs, and values really yours, or are they simply modified versions of what you’ve…
Read More15 Defining Traits of Good Men
When I first started writing on here (way) back in 2013, I was focused on these missions: To help men become even better versions of themselves. To help them understand relationships and attraction. To help them gain confidence, and to stop living in the shadows of others. Now, more than a decade, 40 million+ views…
Read More12 Things You Deserve in Your Relationship
How deeply do you believe that you truly deserve the love, intimacy, and treatment that you desire in a relationship? It’s one thing to want it, but it’s a whole other to really believe that you deserve it. The challenge lies in that no amount of wanting will replace the knowledge of deserving. Only when you understand what you deserve, will you change your…
Read MoreYou Need More Than Love: 12 Signs of Real Compatibility
What is it that makes two good people good for each other? The idea of compatibility is, for some strange reason, often overlooked when it comes to choosing a romantic partner. I believe we easily get caught up in the excitement of adventure, or the emotional rush of being with a new person, or the…
Read MoreHere’s How Men Can Find Their Way Again
I’ve never fit in. Starting from childhood and my first years in school, I experienced bullying, challenges making friends, and as I got older…had absolutely zero success with dating and relationships. The irony of now being a top love and relationship writer, and building a 10+ year career as a private advisor in these areas,…
Read MoreGood Men Possess These 12 Important Traits
What is it that makes for a “good man”? Despite what our image-focused society tells us, it has nothing to do with his level of income, how he dresses, the car he drives, the friends he surrounds himself with, or who he’s in a relationship with. For many, though, the allure of an appealing personal…
Read More15 Timeless Dating Manners Women Wish You Knew
Photo: Us on our first wedding anniversary! Building a relationship with someone is a tricky thing. It takes proactive and deliberate action — yet it’s not something that comes with a formula or blueprint. There are no guarantees, yet there are strategies you can put in place that work in your favor. For men, we are traditionally…
Read More25 Life-Changing Lessons About Love
There’s an old Tony Robbins quote that says “success leaves clues.” The idea is that we can learn from people who’ve already gone where we want to go. Not in the sense of copying them, but in that, we can see what worked (and didn’t work) to shorten the time of figuring it out ourselves.…
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