Posts by James Michael Sama

If She Has These 5 Traits, Don’t Let Her Go

Never take a good woman for granted. We can run through countless lists of qualities that men or women want in a potential long-term partner (oh…and we have), but the fact of the matter is that everyone is looking for something different. As my grandmother used to say — “There’s an ass for every seat.” That being…

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Single? 5 Things You Must Do Before Your Next Relationship

Make sure you’ve got a clean slate. You’ve faced heartbreak — we’ve all been there. Maybe it was recent, or maybe it’s been awhile since you’ve gotten back out there. Either way, one thing is for certain… You’re wondering why the next time will be any different than the last, especially if you’ve faced a string of…

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8 Reasons You Should Love Being Single

It’s an opportunity to define what you want. There is a lot of internal and external pressure put on those who are single to find “the one” or “finally settle down,” that it’s easy to feel like something is wrong with you if you’re still single over a certain age. Spoiler alert: There isn’t. You’re not broken.…

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Simone Biles Reminds Us What’s Important

A gold medal in courage. You’ve seen by now that Simone Biles, the United States’ most prominent and talked about gymnast, has withdrawn from the 2021 Olympics, citing the need to focus on her mental health. I don’t write or speak about sports and athletes, but I do write and speak about mindset, identity, and…

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15 Lessons About Love Taught By Experience

There are some lessons we can only learn over time…(or, by reading about them). The gift of time comes along with gifts of its own, including valuable lessons in life and love that we learn through experience. Self love, intimate love, family love, friendship love — love is a cornerstone of living a fulfilling life, but pursuing…

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5 Things You Need To Change To Find Real Love

If you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’ll keep getting what you’ve always gotten. Come on inside, let’s ruffle some feathers today. Before you get too wound up over the title, I’m not here to suggest that you begin changing fundamental pieces of your identity or personality in order to attract a mate. In…

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Build Bulletproof Self-Worth With These 5 Proven Mindset Strategies

The belief that you are worthy of love and happiness is something you have the power to choose. Think about all of the things in life that are affected by your sense of self worth. The people you date. The jobs you accept. The risks you take. The friends you surround yourself with. The treatment…

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The Top 5 Reasons Why He Ghosted You

Have you ever felt like everything was going great, but then, *POOF*? Here’s what might’ve happened. If you’ve ever dated over the past few years, you know how things go sometimes: Meet on a dating app or through a friend, start talking and feverishly exchanging texts. Video chat a couple of times. Start getting really…

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10 No-Nonsense Tips For Keeping Romance Alive

Romance shouldn’t fade after the “honeymoon phase” of a relationship. It should strengthen as your partner becomes an even more important part of your life. Who even has the time? You mutter to yourself as you read an endless stream of headlines online about romance, dating, chivalry, courtship…many of which, probably written by me over the…

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How To Move On When Feelings Aren’t Mutual

Take back your power by moving forward when there’s nothing holding you back. We’ve ALL experienced a situation where we were on the giving end of feelings that weren’t being reciprocated. These experiences vary. For some, it was the beginning levels of interest that were never returned. For others, it came after years and years…

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