You don’t need to be the perfect man to make her happy, just be the man you said you were when you first met her.

We often find ourselves overwhelmed with all of dating’s “do’s and don’ts”, but at the end of the day it’s just about finding balance and chemistry. Here are five important pieces of that puzzle.

1. Be adventurous, but also stable.

Stability does not have to be boring, and adventure does not have to uproot your entire life. Many relationships get stale because there is no excitement left, no thrill, no passion — and much of that fades because routine takes over and we become complacent.

2. Challenge her, but also support her.

Men and women have naturally different strengths due to biological evolution. Our neurological makeup is different and we therefore see and approach things differently.

For that reason, we may see things that she doesn’t, and vice versa. The female brain is better at anticipating pain and detecting danger, so perhaps instead of thinking women are just being #emotional and overreacting, we should pay attention to something she might be seeing before us.

3. Empower her, but also protect her.

Women are fully autonomous adult humans who are capable of taking care of themselves, but that doesn’t mean she wants you to stop being “the man.”

She still appreciates the effort you put forth to show that you’re capable and willing to stand with her when she needs you.

4. Tempt her, but also respect her.

Sexual chemistry is of the utmost importance to any intimate relationship, but it needs to be established in a way that both people feel completely comfortable with. Society has fed us a false narrative that women’s sex drives are not as strong as men’s (they’ve done this by suppressing conversations, images, topics, etc., around a woman’s sex drive through making them feel badly about having human desires).

For this reason we need to find the balance between understanding that her desires are just as strong as yours, but that is just one facet of many within a healthy relationship.

5. Make her feel sexy, but also make her feel safe.

Building a foundation of trust through communication and honesty helps to show your partner that she can open up and be her true self with you.

As we become more comfortable with a person, we are more free in expressing ourselves to them in all ways.

We don’t need long and complicated methods or strategies to build a happy and healthy relationship, we just need to find the right balance that allows both partners to feel secure and confident — both in themselves, and in each other.

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