I had a conversation over dinner last night with someone about an interesting issue that I knew was floating around, but I wasn’t sure of just how many people fall victim to it.
Now, it is an easier problem to solve for some rather than others, given that we are all naturally better at certain things than we are at others, but regardless of the ease, it is simple.
Are you ready for the big secret of what she wants you to do in order to be a better boyfriend?
Listen, anticipate her needs, and act accordingly.
Some guys are about to click the red X on this article because this isn’t anything new, but others are going to read this and complain that men are not mind readers and anticipating her needs is unrealistic.
If she tells you that she loves America’s Got Talent and one night she has to work late and is going to miss it, then setting the DVR to record it doesn’t require you to be a psychic. If the oil change is due on her car soon, it doesn’t take a medium to bring her car to Jiffy Lube or even do it yourself. If she told you a few weeks ago she loves Chunky Monkey ice cream, you don’t need to be a woman whisperer to grab a pint of it when you’re grocery shopping.
You just need to be thoughtful.
You just need to listen and absorb the things she says to you in order to learn what she likes and enjoys. It’s actually not really that difficult, it just takes a little effort.
What is the most effective way to be able to do this? Get more in touch with yourself. Women can often (not always) be emotionally connected with themselves more than men – and while this is often the cause of differing types of communication and therefore a little tension, it is also an opportunity.
It is an opportunity for us to better understand how women think and to be able to connect with them on a different level. If someone is important to you, there is no reason to not work harder at understanding her. If you think connecting with yourself emotionally is “feminine,” then you might want to take a closer look at how societal pressures are affecting the way your life and your relationships.
You also might want to take a look at couples with a deeper emotional connection and ask yourself if you would like the level of happiness that they have.
My guess is, your answer would be yes.
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