10 Ways To Know You’re Dating A Good Woman


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If reading this is your first introduction to my writing, I feel the need to give a disclaimer. I am writing this article because I published a male version a few months ago and fair is fair, ladies…I also typically write on equality, love, and respect.

That being said – while women are more likely to speak up about their dating dissatisfaction than men are, I think it’s equally as important to discuss both sides of the coin.

So, how does a good woman with class act when in a relationship?


A good woman moves past petty jealousies. 

While some jealousy [protectiveness] is natural in a relationship, it’s important that both partners are secure enough in themselves and each other to know where to focus their energy.

A mature woman will allow the man in her life to have his freedom, providing he doesn’t betray her trust.

A good woman is intellectually challenging.

There is no denying that someone’s looks are what initially draws us to them. It’s difficult to spot a great personality from across the room. Many a fling was built on physical attraction alone, but how long can it last?

When conversations lack depth or intrigue, we often fill our time with physical activity together, but it is impossible to build a real connection or lasting relationship with someone on that alone. Being intellectually challenging and having the ability to hold real discussions about meaningful topics, will always trump shallow beauty in the long run.

A good woman is honest and genuine.

How long will you stay in a committed relationship with a beautiful or handsome liar? If you cannot trust your partner or believe what they say, how can you construct a solid, lasting foundation with them? You can’t.

A good woman is empathetic. 

Being compassionate, supportive, and encouraging towards your partner is a huge part of building a successful relationship. Nobody wants a person who is a “Debbie Downer” all the time and will not support them in their endeavors or their times of need.


A good woman is ambitious.

In addition to supporting and encouraging you pursuing your own goals and dreams, she will have her own as well. A mature woman has a vision for her future and chases after it with voracity.

A mature woman will be someone you can take on the world with. A partner in crime, a teammate in your relationship, and in life.

A good woman is consistent.

Being consistent is a valuable virtue because it lets your partner know that you really are who you are. You haven’t sent your “representative” to get to know them during the first couple of months of dating, but then suddenly transform once they’ve committed themselves to you.

To clarify the point, think of consistency as the opposite of volatility. If someone is unpredictable and volatile, it’s difficult to know how they will be acting towards you on a certain day, and that gets old no matter how aesthetically pleasing she is.

A good woman puts in effort for you.

I am all about giving in relationships. I believe seeing your significant other happy should also make you happy – but it is important to understand that it goes both ways.

Her putting in effort doesn’t have to be much. It can be something as simple as slipping the waiter her debit card to pay for dinner. It’s no secret that sometimes the romance wears off of longer term relationships, but you shouldn’t let it – and neither should she.

If a woman continues to do what she knows attracted you in the first place, even after she got you a long time ago, it shows she cares about keeping you around.


A good woman carries herself with class.

I’ve said it before, and I will say it again. Class has nothing to do with the price tag on your outfit. Class is about the dignity you carry yourself with and the level of respect you show to those around you.

It doesn’t matter what kind of car someone is driving, what part of town they live in, or what brand of clothing they’re wearing – if they have an ugly attitude and embarrass others in public, none of it matters.

A good woman works to improve herself.

Whether it be committing to reading a new book or watching a documentary on a topic she wants to learn more about, a mature woman is always looking to improve in order to live a happier life.

In a generation of photoshop and ultra-thin fashion models, there is so much emphasis on improving the body that we cannot forget to also improve the mind.

A good woman will make you want to be the best version of yourself, without changing who you really are.

This is an identical point to the last one in the male version of this article, because it is equally true for both genders. A woman will empower those around her. She will strive for greatness and therefore inspire others to strive for it as well. This not only includes friends and co-workers, but also significant others.

As Mark Twain said – Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.



Gentlemen, we all know that women like this are hard to find. If you are fortunate enough to get her attention, make sure you do what it takes to make her feel special, every day.

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  1. Sweet Momma on May 6, 2014 at 9:01 am

    Am a good woman and I want a good man

  2. Lorena on May 6, 2014 at 3:08 pm

    What a great article! As usual, I might say :). It’s been a while since I first discovered your blog, and in all this time you’ve never ceased to amaze me whenever I read your posts. Thank you for sharing your beliefs; makes me feel I’m not the only one thinking this way. Keep with the good job; you’re doing great.

  3. Rebekah on May 6, 2014 at 4:01 pm

    Great article! I honestly think all of these could be applied to people of both genders b/c they really just describe a quality human being, not just a quality woman.

  4. Animal on May 6, 2014 at 4:13 pm

    Seems like a big boy list to Santa

    • Loren on June 8, 2014 at 4:23 pm

      Um…isn’t a good woman a big boy wish, just like a good man is a big girl wish?

  5. kristine on May 6, 2014 at 6:33 pm

    Well said! 🙂 I like this part the most “Being intellectually challenging and having the ability to hold real discussions about meaningful topics, will always trump shallow beauty in the long run.”

  6. Cherise on May 7, 2014 at 6:06 am

    Thank-you for your posts. I enjoy reading them, and it’s refreshing to know that chivarly is making a comeback (although I would argue, if you chose the right men, it never disappeared in the first place!). It’s nice to see someone empower people, instead of enabling society’s warped view of romance. Keep up the great work! Cheers.

  7. Marik on May 7, 2014 at 11:11 am

    Oh god … how true is that … shame that the chances are almost 0 to find that 🙁

    • Lily on June 8, 2014 at 2:38 pm

      There is many of us(true ladies)

    • fallon boyd on July 18, 2014 at 5:06 pm

      you are absolutely right majority of the people I know including my self are in and out of relationships most of us with the same mate and some of us with diffrent partners

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  10. editor on May 14, 2014 at 12:13 am

    A mature woman has a vision for her future and chases after it with … veracity?? (maybe voracity?)

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      Yes! Voracity, thanks for pointing out that error. Will fix it now!

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  13. tanyabeatty on May 20, 2014 at 6:52 am

    Helping our partner to grow, transform & become a better person every day is something I strive to help my partner with, and feel satisfied when he does the same 🙂

  14. Danz Social Blog on May 20, 2014 at 12:23 pm

    Reblogged this on Danz Social Blog and commented:
    That is what men should ask themselves on a day to day basis, when in a relationship of course.

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  16. Brandon on June 8, 2014 at 3:05 pm

    Still waiting around for her, but I at least have a better idea of what to look for.

  17. wallflowerblossoming on June 22, 2014 at 11:50 am

    100% agree! And I know many, many women like this. It is just unfortunate that those women you mentioned are often the quiet ones who do not draw the attention or notice of those around her. It also depends on where a man is looking for that kind of a woman…or vice versa. If you want an intelligent, empathetic, genuine, classy, honest and compassionate woman, you might have to get a little more inventive in your search and go beyond the local bar – nightclub scene.
    And as stated in my comment on Facebook: this is a good reminder of not only what we should strive for as women, but what we should strive for as humans. Be that which you hope to find in another. Best wishes to all.

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  23. Kelly a. on October 18, 2015 at 11:27 pm

    A good woman does a lot without being asked. She listens and lifts you up. But a good man does the same. The Bible says the 2 become as 1flesh. Marriage is hard because we normally don’t know about how much comprise and respect that we need to have one another every day.Spells, I know for a fact,are a trap,of demons. Oh yes they are real,just as God is. But so is real love. Real love is given,when you don’t deserve it. All things come back to you in some way. Life is what you make it,bottom line. You can’t make someone what you want,if it is good accept them as they are.

  24. Urina on August 1, 2016 at 2:44 pm

    Dream on dream on, the real world is warts and all lol. Woman 52.

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