There are plenty of differences between the genders that make relationships…interesting. At times, these differences are great and help us “fill in the gaps” with our significant other, like puzzle pieces.
Other times, it may make things a bit more difficult as we could have a different thought process or see things from a unique perspective than our boyfriend or girlfriend.
After speaking to many different women in many different types of relationships, there is a common trend that seems to come up when asked what their man could do better:
But…could it really be that easy? When you listen, you’re not really doing anything, so how can literally doing nothing be a help?
Well, that’s where the misconception comes in. We typically think that listening is a passive non-activity, but in reality it’s just the opposite. Listening and hearing someone are two very different things. We must put in the effort to not only absorb what is being said to us, but then act on it.
Ashley Curtis said:
Listen carefully and I will tell you exactly what I need to be happy. It’s not hidden as deep as you think.
I think if more men took the time to really sit down and listen, to have deep, meaningful conversations, they would learn that their woman really isn’t as much of a complicated labyrinth as they think she is. Be genuine. Be Kind. Be honest. Take the time to learn what makes her tick and what she truly wants.
Mature relationships are built off of healthy, honest communication, and this honesty comes from the comfort of being able to talk to each other without fear of being judged.
Guys, we literally hold the key to our relationship’s happiness in our hands. It comes from our own honesty to our woman, opening up and telling her what will make us happy, as well as really listening to her to find out the same.
Help her understand that you are willing to try, to improve, to do better – and then find out from her the direction you need to take. She will love you for the fact that you are even willing to try.
You have two ears and one mouth for a reason, let’s do our best to listen twice as much as we speak.
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