Each year, around the middle of February, stores like CVS and Walgreen’s become overrun with wandering men holding boxes of chocolates and little teddy bears, because, well, that’s just what you do on Valentine’s Day…
Commercial holidays like Valentine’s Day do their best to manufacture romance. Restaurants fill up, prices of roses go through the roof, and men are pressured to somehow fit all of their love for their significant other into some sort of little red or pink package.
Is this what our society thinks love looks like? Is this what we are supposed to think will make women swoon?
Romance is not something that you buy, it’s not an amount of money that you spend, and it’s certainly not chocolates and a teddy bear.
Romance is within you – it’s how you make someone feel, how you look at them, talk to them, and touch them. It’s an ever-present connection between people not reserved for a date on the calendar.
If you wait until February 14th to romance your woman, you’re missing the point of love and relationships.
Sure, Valentine’s Day gives us an excuse to go over the top, but any sort of kind gesture loses its luster when it is expected and planned. Oscar Wilde said “The very essence of romance is uncertainty” and there is nothing uncertain about predictability.
Gentlemen, if you want to show your woman how much she means to you, any time is the right time to celebrate it. Come home with roses on a Tuesday after work. Get dressed up and go to a nice dinner (or, stay in and cook for her) just because it’s Monday. You don’t need a reason to love her.
When you are in a loving, healthy relationship – it always feels like Valentine’s day.