I am often approached with questions regarding how someone is acting in a relationship. I also hear and observe stories about people who are generally unhappy, and some of them are heartbreaking.
I understand any life change is difficult, especially break ups. There are circumstances involved, kids, apartments, maybe a pet, friendship with family members, it’s not just cut and dry.
But, here are 10 signs that signal you need to take some sort of action towards parting ways, in no particular order.
There is any form of abuse.
Yes, this one should go without saying, but the reason why it needs to be said is that physical violence is not the only kind of abuse. Mental and emotional mistreatment is just as bad in its own way. Never be with someone who makes you feel inadequate. They are merely projecting their own insecurities onto you so you don’t feel worthy of better, and won’t have the confidence to leave. It will not get better.
If there is physical abuse, you need to leave at the first sign of it. Tell someone, take action. Do not wait.
I hold a controversial opinion here because some people think that second chances are acceptable. I, on the other hand, think that if someone discarded your feelings enough to cheat on you once, they’ll do it again. There is no excuse for it, and you deserve better.
We live in a world full of temptation, I understand. Beautiful women, handsome persuasive men, but that’s the thing about commitment…it requires you to actually commit to one person. If you are completely closed off to the possibility of cheating, as you should be, then nobody’s advances will even phase you.
You owe it to your partner to give them the opportunity to be with someone faithful.
You argue more than you converse.
Are arguments getting more and more frequent in your relationship? Do you find yourself sulking around, avoiding their texts, and almost dreading going home from work? This is no way to live…no matter how much you “love” someone, if they make you miserable more than they make you happy, you need to let them go.
You find yourself making excuses for them.
Do you justify their actions to your friends or family? Even worse – are you justifying their actions to yourself? Making excuses for the way someone is consistently falling short in a relationship really means that you’re aware of the problems, but aren’t willing to admit them. The first step towards happiness is being honest with yourself – never lose that.
You’ve changed, and not for the better.
It has been said that a sign of a healthy relationship is when the other person brings out the best version of yourself, without changing who you really are. The converse is also true, if someone’s presence in your life makes you generally irritable, short-tempered, or just generally unhappy – the only way to eliminate the problem is to cut the source of it out of your life.
They continue making the same mistakes.
A second chance means nothing if they haven’t learned from their first mistake. Someone who keeps promising to change or do things differently, but repeatedly doesn’t, is showing you a clear pattern that you need to recognize. If these are issues that are causing problems for you or your life, it may be time to walk away.
They’ve stopped trying.
If the gestures of love and appreciation stop completely, then what have you got? A committed friendship? A life of quiet desperation leaving you with a yearning for love while still in a relationship? That’s not the way it should be, and it’s not the way it has to be.
You know you’ve found a quality partner when they keep showing you how much you mean to them…long after they’ve got you.
You have to keep working for their approval.
The minute you feel that you have to prove your worth to the person you’re with is the minute you’ll know to walk away. A man or woman should be with you because they value and appreciate who you are, not what you do or how well you sell yourself to them.
You always feel guilty, but don’t know why.
Is your partner always making you feel as though you did something wrong, but you genuinely can’t understand why? There are people who literally seek out and find issues, and when they can’t find one – they create them. This is not the type of person who will change out of the blue and you need to get away from them.
Be honest with yourself when it’s time to move on, and never regret ending a relationship with someone who didn’t truly value you in the first place.
It is better to be single and only accept the love you truly deserve, than to commit yourself to negative relationships along the way that will make you feel worthless or unwanted.
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