If I’m not seeing people talk about chivalry being dead, I’m seeing them talk about how it should be dead because it’s demeaning to women.
I respectfully, but vehemently, degree with both of these statements.
Firstly, if even just one man continues on being chivalrous, it may be endangered, but not dead. I’ll bear this weight if I must, but I know there are others out there like me. So, we can quickly get rid of the notion that it is dead.
On life support, maybe. Endangered, definitely. But not extinct.
I think it needs to be said that any chivalrous act I perform or encourage others to perform, has nothing to do with my thoughts on the woman’s ability to perform said act by herself.
For example, if I thought a woman wasn’t physically capable of pulling out her own chair or opening her own door, I’d be beyond misogynistic, I’d just be a jackass.
Fortunately, this is not what chivalry is about.
Chivalry is manners. It’s a way to show respect. It’s an entire demeanor and way of living that extends beyond opening a door for a woman. It extends to how you treat everyone in your life, including other men.
We shouldn’t let chivalry die because it is a value that encourages men to continue being respectful towards everyone. While men should perform chivalrous acts, women also should see it for what it is – respect towards them.
So, women, try not to be offended when someone holds a door, pulls out a chair, holds the umbrella, or helps you with your coat.
Instead, be offended when a man does none of these things.
If he doesn’t respect you enough to take part in small things with you, what makes you think he’ll be there for the big things?
A real woman can do it all by herself, but a real man will always be there to help her anyway.
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