7 Reasons The Kindest People Are Actually The Strongest


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Being a man who writes about kindness and chivalry can bring some interesting lessons. One of which, is just how many people feel as though being kind is a sign of weakness. Men tell me that this isn’t what women want. That being chivalrous (Essentially: Performing simple acts of kindness) is unwelcome. That men will get stepped on.

People say if you don’t care then you’ll never get hurt, and if you hold no expectations for others, you’ll never be disappointed. While, in theory, these statements are true – they don’t take into account one very important piece of the puzzle:

We are all human, and we all have wants, needs, and emotions. Ignoring our very most inner core is, I would argue: A weakness.

Here are seven reasons why the kindest people are actually, in reality, the strongest.

Kind people put themselves out there.

Anyone who has ever admitted their feelings, something embarrassing, or revealed a secret, understands that it is no easy task. The emotional fortitude it takes to reveal your inner-most self to another human being is a special kind of strength. One only reserved for those with the strongest of spirits.

Kind people have the power to help others.

Strength is not only about what you can do for yourself, but also what you can do for others. Strength can be shared without being decreased. Kindhearted people have more of a willingness to help others, thus giving them an added layer of power over those who just act selfishly. Kind people are the only ones who can make a difference in the world.

Kind people have built their resilience.

When you lift weights, you physically damage your muscles and break them down. When this happens, they repair themselves – but not back to their previous state. They grow back bigger and stronger than they were before. But, they can’t do it without being damaged.

The same happens for your heart (not literally…). The more challenges you face, the more times you are hurt, the more resilient you become. See point number one…kind people are more likely to put themselves out there – which, yes, admittedly gives them higher chances of getting hurt. But in the long run, they are smarter, wiser, and stronger due to these experiences.

Kind people have control over their own emotions.

Have you ever worked in customer service? Or, any position where you deal with people directly? Hell, have you ever had an argument with your significant other where you had to take a step back and a deep breath? Kindhearted people have the tolerance and patience necessary to remain cool, calm, and collected in these circumstances.

Anyone who has ever needed to keep their emotions under control knows it takes more inner strength than it does to let yourself be consumed.

Kind people have developed themselves further.

When you care for other people, the experience becomes internal as well as external. If we aim to have self-awareness, what we love (or don’t love) about another will open our eyes to what we love (or don’t love) about ourselves as well.

If we shut ourselves off to the world, we only allow stimuli into our lives that we choose. This makes our personal growth process look more like walking down a narrow hallway, rather than walking out into an open field where the possibilities are endless. If we open our minds to being influenced by others, we never know what we might learn.

Kind people have gained a new perspective on the world.

One of the things that makes life so interesting is the vast diversity of people on our planet. Each one of us has a unique background, upbringing, thought process, and outlook. What an amazing opportunity it is to be able to tap into any mind on the planet simply by having a conversation and asking questions…

Without this care or desire, we only spend time with those who are just like us, and can never develop into a fully well-rounded person.

Kind people find more happiness in the long run.

It’s simple, really. Emotional connections with others make us more fulfilled and help us lead more complete lives. Shutting out this possibility may eliminate risk of being hurt, but it is also eliminating the possibility of finding happiness with another.

Bonus: You will make others happier as well. One of the best things we can feel is the love from someone else. Their genuine caring for our well-being. You have the power and ability to give this gift to someone, just by caring about them.

Do not let the harsh world rob you of your emotions. Do not let the cruelness of another deprive you of the deep love you can feel within yourself. We are all humans, and we can all thrive in this life together, if only we would be a little kinder to each other.


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  1. bhelle on July 6, 2015 at 8:34 pm

    I definitely 100% agree.. You are great mr. James.. Your articles really helped and still helping me.. From walking out to toxic relationship, now staying kind after my heart breaks and later how to know if im dating a real gentleman.. You are a gift to everyone especially to us who cannot think rational at the moment of being shattered and no one to talk to.. Again thanks a lot mr. james more power, goodluck and godbless….

  2. Kathryn Crawford Wheat on July 6, 2015 at 10:40 pm

    Reblogged this on Woman’s InSite and commented:
    I’ve never reblogged a post before but this one needs to be shared. Let’s just be nice!

  3. GoldMark City on July 7, 2015 at 1:07 am


  4. Nancy Cokinda on July 7, 2015 at 1:11 am

    Right on the mark, James!

  5. Kindness Blog on July 7, 2015 at 7:01 am

    Hello James,

    Lovely, thought-provoking article. Thank you.

    With your blessing we’d like to share this on Kindness Blog with links back to you etc. Would that be okay? No problems if not.

    Best, Mike.

    • James Michael Sama on July 7, 2015 at 8:41 am

      Hi Mike,

      Thanks for reaching out! Please feel free to share any article(s) you’d like. I appreciate it!


      – James

      • Kindness Blog on July 7, 2015 at 9:32 am

        James, thank you so much. The post is going ‘live’ at 16:00GMT today.

        Best, Mike 🙂

  6. Jaketanakkarakter on July 7, 2015 at 12:12 pm

    Great post. Thankyou mr james for all your best article

  7. Karel on July 7, 2015 at 2:35 pm

    Excellent! Keep going!

  8. Ashley on July 7, 2015 at 6:22 pm

    Very wise advice, James. It takes a strong person to stay kind in this world, but it can be done.

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  11. SM on July 13, 2015 at 8:39 am

    So true… Very aptly put! It’s fabulous to see such heartfelt writing and someone who is willing to put these thoughts out there 👍

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    I hadn’t thought about kindness quite like this, and I think your conclusions about kindness are spot-on. I really appreciate reading this. Thank you!

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