Regardless of whether or not you watch the hit ABC show, The Bachelorette, it can be recognized that watching fast paced relationships with multiple strangers all living in one house unfold, can be…”educational” so to speak.
Educational in the sense that observations of these relationships can show us human nature and how we react under pressure, when we’re happy, and when we’re upset.
One great example of this is tonight’s season finale of The Bachelorette, where the “runner up,” Nick, came on live television to confront Andi, the woman who turned him down.
Nick’s argument and justification for being heartbroken – which let me say – I can understand, was that he felt Andi’s actions and words towards him were not genuine. The fact that she was so loving towards him but did not choose him in the end, made him feel betrayed.
While I can sympathize with having feelings for someone who does not have them of the same intensity in return, it was still obvious that Nick let his feelings overcome his rational on live television.
Nick, on live TV, to a newly engaged woman who let him go, made public that they “made love” during the filming of the show.
What are we seeing in action here? We are seeing a man who has shown that no matter how sweet, caring, and genuine he could seem – when the time came that he was no longer seeking the approval of a woman and when he had already “lost,” his true colors came out, and they weren’t pretty.
You can’t judge the character of a man by how he acts when he is trying to get something he wants. The real person comes out in times of adversity. Times of stress. Times of disappointment.
For what it’s worth, anyone who watches the show understands that the guys in the house knew Nick was full of it throughout most of the season. Could this be a hint for women to seek the advice of other men when it comes to relationships? Perhaps.
Please understand that there are genuine men out there who will not turn on you at the first sign of disappointment. By blatantly violating the privacy of the woman he minutes earlier professed his loves on live television, Nick made men look terrible.
Male or female, it is difficult for us to see someone for who they really are when we are emotionally invested in them.
Always remember, it is in times of difficulty that our character is truly revealed.
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