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The Official 50 Shades Of Grey Movie Trailer

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Unless you’ve been completely disconnected from modern society, you are probably aware of the 50 Shades Of Grey phenomenon launched into motion by the bestselling book.

To help women across the globe visualize the fantasies put forth in the book, the writing has been translated to filmography.

The long awaited movie trailer has finally been released – is it everything you’d hoped for?

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  1. Beth Dahleen on July 24, 2014 at 12:39 pm

    I read the trilogy and they were breezy teen level reads with x rated content. But, I don’t know if I want to see all that in a movie. I think women like me are okay reading graphic stuff interspersed in a good plot with interesting characters. The female lead a pretty, innocent, small-town girl with not an easy childhood coming into her own and a twisted, yet ultra-hot, sex-obsessed, successful guy with a horrific childhood who never had opened his heart and mind to anyone until her…I really hope the visual is done with discretion and with much left to the imagination. Gotta keep it classy!

    • Melissa on July 24, 2014 at 2:25 pm

      Agreed. The trailer holds no interest to me and only begs the question, “why?”

      I also wonder why James even brought it up. :/

      • James Michael Sama on July 24, 2014 at 2:27 pm

        I brought it up because it has made a huge splash in pop-culture and addresses a large, important aspect of relationships that many people find taboo to talk about for some reason – sex.

        It is a great conversation starter and the massive success of the book has made it a far-reaching success with women across the globe. I almost thing it would be strange to not bring it up. 🙂



  2. Melissa on July 24, 2014 at 3:22 pm

    I guess it’s hard to take it seriously when the book was written at a teenaged reading level with the sole purpose of being the writer’s pornographic fantasy.

    One could argue that the writer has daddy issues. Another argument could be about open communication that bdsm encourages.

    Overall, I don’t see why they bothered making it into a movie. It’s like turning one of those cheesy romance novels into a movie. There’s a reason those books do well for women as women are not as visual as men are with this type of thing. It’ll be interesting to see how it does at the box office.

    One of the main reasons I was surprised that you brought this up is that the story itself perpetuates the common belief that relationships/a man/a woman can “save” you from your issues. The reality is that relationships aren’t therapy to solve your problems and I see people do this all too often. It’s part of why we see so many unbalanced/dysfunctional relationships that your articles are discouraging.

  3. Lily on July 25, 2014 at 10:04 am

    The relationship and sex in the 50 Shades of Grey series contain abuse (controlling behavior — Grey controlling Ana’s birth control and saying he knows what’s best for her AND her body, overly jealous behavior and actions — Grey purposely injuring Ana so she has bruises and can’t show skin, among other things readers and even BDSMers are against), therefore, I do not support the books nor the movie.

    I think it is fine to talk about sex, and fine for women to like sex and talk about it, but abuse shouldn’t be a norm and viewed as acceptable, especially when the author intends for the series to be a guide and how-to for women. It is alarming, even more so when the author refuses to see the abuse.

    I don’t think 50 Shades aligns with the modern gentleman values. Nor is Christian Grey a good example that woman should want (lots of woman want a man like him).

    • James Michael Sama on July 25, 2014 at 10:06 am

      Hi Lily,

      From what I understand in the books and movie, any sex is consensual and desired just as much by the woman as it is the man, am I incorrect?

      There are a few conversations going on about this on my FB pages that you may like to chime in on, this one in particular: https://www.facebook.com/NewChivalryMovement/posts/663931997020206

      I admittedly have not read the books but I certainly would not expect such a worldwide success (with women) that was subsequently turned into a movie, to contain any type of domestic abuse. Then again, I could be misinterpreting the story line.

      • shopaholicmichi on July 25, 2014 at 12:53 pm

        I am a fan of the series and can confirm that the sex in the books (and in the film) was entirely consensual. Not once did the female lead Ana say in the first book that she had an issue with his behaviour and enjoyed the BDSM aspect of their relationship, when she later discusses her frustrations with him he does take steps to be less controlling. It’s his way of controlling an aspect of his life when he had no control over his past, but he does make amends to be the kind of man his beloved is looking for



      • Melissa on July 29, 2014 at 5:49 am

        You are misinterpreting the story line and for you to promote such trash when your blog is the opposite is a little off kilter. You may want to reconsider this post tbh.

        http://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/2byz2l/many_women_do_not_agree_with_me_on_this_subject/



      • Lily on July 29, 2014 at 10:01 am

        Even besides the sex, the relationship is abusive and I think it is important to look at that critically. The signs are all there.



  4. Beth Dahleen on July 25, 2014 at 10:16 am

    Gentle, Melissa. 🙂 A blogger shouldn’t be locked into only sharing one type of post, like meaningful relationship advice. I’m all for a little frivolous, yet culturally relevant fun!

    I may be apprehensive about the movie, but I plan on going with the girlfriends…and passed on this post to show them the trailer and added that it’s out Valentine’s Day 2015 and will be rated R NC-17.

    I agree a man/woman cannot save you from your own issues, but to maintain our relationships and develop new ones…it takes reflection and reading/listening to other perspectives.

    It’s all about the $$$ that they made into a movie…readers will go knowing it may be crap just out of curiosity. I the 4 Twilight books and saw both movies and read the 3 Hunger Games and saw both movies. People will take a chance and buy tickets to be a part of a culture phenomenon.

    Hopefully kids won’t see it! But I saw About Last Night with Rob Lowe when I was 13 because his posters where up all over my room and he was my teen idol! I remember thinking I had watched my first porn!!

  5. ystarburst on July 25, 2014 at 1:52 pm

    I’m going to pipe in my two cents, in a post that was taken from a good friend’s Facebook page, in regards to the nature of the relationship that Christian and Ana share.

    “For all of you excited about “Fifty Shades of Grey”, please, please, PLEASE do your research and educate yourself before ever trying any sort of BDSM activity.

    Yes, I am sure some of the things in “50 Shades of Grey” sounds exciting and titillating to many, but before you bring these things into your bedroom you need to study them for safety of all of those involved.

    Tying someone up and being tied up are indeed fun and add some delicious flavor in your sex life, but if you tie someone up the wrong way, if you and your partner do not discuss before hand any past or present injuries, if you do not know how the body works, you can get seriously hurt or cause permanent damage. This extends to ALL activities.

    BDSM requires Safe, Sane, and Consensual (SSC) and Risk Awareness Consensual Kink (RACK) for it to be healthy and fun; don’t ruin what could be one hell of a steamy, hot, sexy, good time because of your lack of knowledge!”

    There’s that, and also the way the relationship portrays the BDSM community. I have not read the books myself, and I do realize that yes, the sex was consensual, it’s the way the author went about writing the specifics. From what I understand there was a distinct lack of what the community refers to as a ‘Safe Word’ – a word that can be used at any time, under any circumstance, to stop the actions. This is important in this type of relationship. As is the aforementioned knowledge about the specific things an individual wants to try, and the SSC/RACK.

  6. Rachel Clark on July 29, 2014 at 11:03 pm

    James, I really enjoy your blog. You post interesting, informative reads and strive to uphold women in a respective way. As a young woman, I deeply appreciate this as most of the world degrades the female’s dignity and worth by treating her as an object.
    I, too, think the topic of sex is treated as taboo when in reality, it needs to be talked about more.
    HOWEVER, I do NOT think posting the trailer of 50 Shades is in any way classy or a good way to bring up sex. As other people have noted, much of the relationship in the book is abusive and plain messed up. Our culture is incredibly sexualized, and this series does nothing but promote it to be even more so.
    As I previously said, I think sex should be talked of more, but not in a selfish, abusive, or nonchalant way. Sex is an act of LOVE, not lust. It represents the giving of yourself to the person you love, not self gratifying pleasure with an attractive individual for a mere night. Those are my beliefs, at least.
    On another note, would you please consider writing a post on when you believe an individual is ready to have sex? I ask because I know you don’t think sex is just for marriage, but how do you approach the rampant cases of teen pregnancy, STDs, depression from unhealthy, sexual relationships, etc? Because sex has become a casual, recreational act, it is affecting the lives of young people in an unhealthy way.
    How can we promote sex as an act of love and not lust?
    Thank you for your time.

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