7 Reasons Caring Is A Strength


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In today’s society, it often seems as though being cold towards others is seen as being “strong,” and showing feelings and emotions is equivalent to being “weak,” especially for men.

People say if you don’t care then you’ll never get hurt, and if you hold no expectations for people, you’ll never be disappointed. While, in theory, these statements are true – they don’t take into account one very important piece of the puzzle:

We are all human, and we all have wants, needs, and emotions. Ignoring our very most inner core is, I would argue: A weakness.

Here are seven reasons why caring is actually a strength.



You can build a support system.

It has almost become a badge of honor to say you don’t “need” someone. Of course it’s true that nobody needs someone. Nobody needs to have a friend or a significant other – but it does improve life in multiple ways.

We all find ourselves going through a tough time every now and then. Maybe you’ve lost a job or ended a relationship. Maybe you’ve gotten sick, or maybe you’ve even lost someone you care about. Regardless of how big or small your challenge is, it’s hugely helpful to have people you’re close to in your corner.

This will allow you to borrow strength from them during hard times and more easily find your way back to happiness.


It gives you the ability to help others.

If someone walks around with the presupposition in their head that people are naturally “bad” or “evil” or untrustworthy, how do you think they will approach those they don’t know? There will be an automatic aversion away from kindness, because that person doesn’t deserve it anyway, right?

How can we function and progress as a species if this is how we see each other? I believe each person is inherently good. The goodness is buried deeper inside of some than others, but overall – we just want to be loved, cared for, and respected.

Whether it is giving a dollar to a homeless person or starting a fundraiser for a cause you’re passionate about, without choosing to care for others, your ability to make a difference gets taken away.


You can learn and grow from relationships.

Relationships are a lot like playing the lottery. You might have to lose repeatedly, but if you never play, you’ll never win. Each person we encounter and build something with, no matter how long or short, provides us with an opportunity to learn and grow as a person.

If we refuse to enter into any intimate situation because we think we might get hurt, we never have the opportunity to have these experiences.



It allows you to learn about yourself.

When you care for other people, the experience becomes internal as well as external. If we aim to have self-awareness, what we love (or don’t love) about another will open our eyes to what we love (or don’t love) about ourselves as well.

If we shut ourselves off to the world, we only allow stimuli into our lives that we choose. This makes our personal growth process look more like walking down a narrow hallway, rather than walking out into an open field where the possibilities are endless. If we open our minds to being influenced by others, we never know what we might learn.


It allows you to learn about others.

One of the things that makes life so interesting is the vast diversity of people on our planet. Each one of us has a unique background, upbringing, thought process, and outlook. What an amazing opportunity it is to be able to tap into any mind on the planet simply by having a conversation and asking questions…

Without this care or desire, we only spend time with those who are just like us, and can never develop into a fully well-rounded person.


You will be more successful in life.

I know, I know. You don’t care what people think of you, right?

Well, when it comes time to get a job, have a friendship, start your own business, or enter into a relationship…it matters very much what other people think. If you are outspoken and adamant about the fact that you don’t care about people or what they think, then others will have no reason to trust you or think you have any allegiance to them.

This is not about people-pleasing, this is about successfully co-existing with others.



You will be happier.

It’s simple, really. Emotional connections with others make us more fulfilled and help us lead more complete lives. Shutting out this possibility may eliminate risk of being hurt, but it is also eliminating the possibility of finding happiness with another.

Bonus: You will make others happier as well. One of the best things we can feel is the love from someone else. Their genuine caring for our well-being. You have the power and ability to give this gift to someone, just by caring about them.


There is no doubt, the majority of relationships in our society end, especially these days. This has always been seen as a sign of failure. If something is going to end, then why bother in the first place? Why not just close yourself off from caring about anyone so you don’t have to feel the hurt?

Movies end. Books end. Having a pet in your family ends. Nice dinners end. Does that mean none of them are worth experiencing? In fact, it’s just the opposite – these are the things that make life worth living. The fact that things end is what gives them meaning. This is what makes experiences special, to enjoy and cherish them while they last.

Do not let the harsh world rob you of your emotions. Do not let the cruelness of another deprive you of the deep love you can feel within yourself. We are all humans, and we can all thrive in this life together, if only we would care a little more.

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  1. Danz Social Blog on March 18, 2014 at 11:07 am

    Reblogged this on Danz Social Blog and commented:
    Definitely worth reading

  2. Emma on March 18, 2014 at 12:58 pm

    First off I love your articles, they really make one think. Was wondering if you took suggestions, if so, mine would be how to handle a break up, and gracefully. Thanks!

  3. Sinom on March 18, 2014 at 1:44 pm

    well since u keep deleting my comments. I’ll just message a few of the people who are owners of the pictures and see what they think of u taking the pics without any permission. Goodluck

    • James Michael Sama on March 18, 2014 at 1:48 pm

      Hey there, I didn’t “keep” deleting anything – I deleted one comment.

      One pic has the watermark, the others I couldn’t find sources for because they’re from tumblr, please have them email me at JMSama215@gmail.com so I can give proper credit!


      – JMS

    • James Michael Sama on March 18, 2014 at 1:50 pm

      Also, Sinom, if you click Stephanie Pana’s photo you’ll notice it goes to her website. 🙂

      If you know who took the photo of the roses I’d be happy to do the same for them – the other photo is from a movie.

      – JMS

    • Tiffany on March 24, 2014 at 6:41 pm

      Why do you follow the blog if you want to be such a hater? This guy says some really great things. You don’t have to agree with it or even like it. That is the beauty of the internet. You have access to so much! I for one find the things James writes thought provoking and bold, which is unfortunate because there should be nothing bold about speaking on how to treat others, it should just be done. This is not a men stink and need to be schooled platform. It is real stuff that sometimes we may forget just because we are used to not being treated right.

  4. averyyoos on March 18, 2014 at 4:01 pm

    Reblogged this on Random Access Avery and commented:
    whoever said caring is not a sign of strength is insensitive.

  5. megfeldy on March 18, 2014 at 4:24 pm

    Reblogged this on Puppies Cupcakes and Big Girl Panties.

  6. TonyO on March 18, 2014 at 4:54 pm

    Sama- Really great articles. You are doing such a great job…Keep it up. God’s Blessings

  7. Nancy on March 18, 2014 at 7:50 pm

    I think better “title” for this blog might be – “Take Care – you might be missing out!
    I have a friend very bitter.. and won’t just go out! I shared this on my facebook.. so maybe they will read it!

  8. Dyann Bridges on March 19, 2014 at 5:43 pm

    Thank you for pointing this out James. I love strong, sensitive men. Caring is a strength because it takes strength to care!

  9. Dyann Bridges on March 19, 2014 at 5:44 pm

    Reblogged this on Westchester Bodywork and commented:
    Yes… caring is a strength.

  10. mcbrown91 on March 20, 2014 at 1:37 am

    Reblogged this on Mitchell C. Brown.

  11. Cdreamgirl on April 11, 2014 at 8:11 am

    Reblogged this on Tidbits n Treasures.

  12. Coup De Grâce (@sirenqoh) on June 2, 2014 at 9:05 pm

    James, I just wanted to add one thing. We really do need people. It’s an innate feature of being human. We naturally gravitate towards people and crave connection. Especially physical contact. It’s vital to our emotional health. Otherwise, another beautiful post!

  13. […] The idea that emotions “are a female thing” has been perpetuated in our society and are seen as a sign of weakness in men. I stand behind the idea that caring for others is actually a strength, and here are a few reasons why. […]

  14. Yovee Ann Toledo Lanorias on December 4, 2014 at 10:40 pm

    Great articles! enjoyed reading it. Thanks James. 🙂

  15. […] relationships, and 4. feeling valued and experiencing personal growth. James Michael Sama, in “7 Reasons Caring is a Strength,” says “Without choosing to care for others, your ability to make a difference gets taken away.” […]

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