It’s rare that I comment on anything on Facebook unless I have strong feelings towards the sentiment. While scrolling through my newsfeed recently I came across a status update that, while not entirely surprising, grabbed my attention.
It said “The fastest way to make a girl fall in love with you is to treat her like sh*t.”
Of course, I had to respond. Leaving aside the point that you can’t “make” someone fall in love with you, I insisted that women who accept being treated badly simply don’t recognize their own self worth yet. Of course, women commented as well and talked about how the statement was utter nonsense. But, that didn’t stop the other comments from saying they’ve seen it happen far too often.
Who is perpetuating the false myth that women actually like to be “treated like sh*t”?
Men are. And so are women.
Herein lies the problem. Men are not doing their job from multiple angles. If they are raising daughters, they are not properly instilling the self-worth that would cause a girl to never settle for less than she deserves. And if they are raising sons, they’re not teaching them proper respect and values. Mothers have this responsibility as well.
Aside from parenting fails (as I am not a parent, I won’t speak too much to that), relationship fails are even more prominent. Many men treat women so badly in relationships at an early age, they are practically teaching women that that’s what they should expect from all men, and therefore it becomes accepted. Women then continue their pattern into their older ages and keep ending up with men who don’t treat them right.
Women are not doing their job, either.
Women need to stop accepting any sort of negative treatment from anyone in any intimate situation. Staying single and only accepting the love you deserve is always a better decision than settling in a negative relationship you will regret in the future.
I read a quote once that said “If more women would sit down and be ladies, more men would stand up and be gentlemen.” I think the underlying idea here is that if a man is pursuing a woman and she holds a certain standard for what she will accept, he has two choices:
1) Meet her standards.
2) Lose her.
It really is that simple. No woman or man actually wants to be mistreated. Nobody wants to be disrespected, and nobody wants to be discouraged. We all want the same things in relationships – love, acceptance, encouragement, and respect.
If a woman is settling for someone who mistreats her then it simply means that she hasn’t realized what she deserves. This comes from within, but she may need some help with her self confidence. She may not have had the most encouraging upbringing. She may not feel she is worthy of better – but that gives you no excuse to perpetuate the notion.
Sometimes, a person doesn’t recognize their own value until somebody else points it out to them. Each day, we have two choices:
Keep giving them the lack of love they think is normal, or open their eyes and show them what they’re worth.
I know which one I choose, do you?
Never forget the three small words that will improve your relationships.
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