8 Things Happy Couples Don’t Do


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Sometimes, building a solid healthy relationship isn’t just about what partners do, but what they don’t do.

Here are 8 things that you won’t find in the habits of happy couples.


Discourage each other.

Two people who love and care for each other would never attempt to discourage their partner or hold them back in life. They encourage and support each other when it comes to chasing after goals and dreams.

Holding someone else back while in a relationship will only lead to resentment in the long run – ironically, loosening your grip often keeps someone closer.

Play mind games.

Even something as simple as “how long do I wait before I call?” goes out the window when you’re with the right person who is mature and understands you. Call when you want to call, text when you want to text. There will be no games or manipulation when building a solid foundation for a relationship.

Doubt each other’s feelings.

In a happy relationship, both partners know how much they mean to each other. Open communication and affection are important to minimizing insecurities and doubts.


Stop trying.

You know you’ve found a quality partner when they keep showing you how much you mean to them…long after they’ve got you.

Brush issues under the rug.

No relationship is sunshine and rainbows all the time, but the challenges you face together are what make you stronger, both as individuals and as a couple. No problem can be extinguished unless it is faced, and couples who care for each other will be mature enough to have mature discussions and reach a conclusion.

When feelings are hidden, the other partner won’t know what they need to do or change in order to keep the other happy, so nothing will improve.

Snoop around.

One of the key ingredients to a happy relationship is trust, and people who trust each other don’t invade each others’ privacy by snooping around. There should be no need for a password protected phone or deleting your Facebook chat history. Trusting couples should be open books to one another and will have no use for being sneaky.


Dig up the past.

We all have a past that has shaped us into who we are today. Some experiences for better, and others for worse. Happy, mature couples understand that about each other and don’t use each others’ pasts as ammunition in arguments or to start issues.

Let things get stale.

Both inside and outside of the bedroom, it’s important that neither partner gets bored or feels as though things are getting stale. Often times intimacy in the bedroom is actually built outside of it through romantic gestures, showing of appreciation and affection, and always letting your partner know how much they mean to you.


Happiness in relationships is built on communication, trust, loyalty, and mutual respect. These are some of the cornerstones of love – without one, the other cannot exist.

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  1. Ashley M. Sessions on February 3, 2014 at 3:00 pm

    Love love love YOU ☺

  2. krkirby7 on February 3, 2014 at 5:25 pm

    It seems so simple, but really does take work and to remember to not do these things! <3 Love it!

    • James Michael Sama on February 5, 2014 at 3:53 pm

      Sometimes the simplest things go overlooked the most – being aware of these things (and others) is key! Thanks for the feedback. 🙂

  3. Candyce Nicole on February 4, 2014 at 9:29 am

    The title says 8 things, but the second line says “Here are 10 things…”. Are you playing mind games with us? 🙂

    Great list, and so very true. Thanks for sharing!

    • James Michael Sama on February 5, 2014 at 3:54 pm

      Ah, thanks Candyce! I fixed that right when I saw your comment, I appreciate you pointing that out.

  4. southernyetsingle on February 4, 2014 at 9:41 am

    Reblogged this on Whiskey In a Teacup.

  5. Anna on February 4, 2014 at 12:33 pm

    This is beautiful. I think we
    All should try this in our relationships and live by it.. Ahh easier said than done! This made me
    Realize I have some things to fix in my own relationship! Thanks

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  7. R on February 4, 2014 at 5:32 pm

    I understand about not bringing up the past as ammunition and agree with it; however, this doesn’t mean we should keep things from each other about the past, does it? My man doesn’t want to answer questions I have for him about his past. For example, how many women have you been with? Are there questions that are off limits?

    • Carrie A on February 6, 2014 at 4:15 am

      Certain questions i do believe are off limits. Would you want him asking you how many people you’ve been with? I surely wouldnt. Not that it’s any sort of number but, it’s one of those things that are private to you and only you. Some things I do believe should just not be said.

      • R on February 6, 2014 at 3:02 pm

        I HAVE answered that question to him, however, because it is so low, he doesn’t believe me, therefore, he will not answer it for me. 🙁

    • Warrior41882 on February 14, 2014 at 12:07 pm

      That’s a tough question for some men to answer honestly.
      He loves you and you are the lady he admires the most ( that is why he married you)
      I know my wife has had a few men in her life over the years (married twice before me) and was in college.
      I know of 4 and I’m sure there are perhaps six in betweens, I really don’t care.
      However I’d prefer she think I had about the same number not the actual 70-80.

  8. odamariafagerland on February 4, 2014 at 8:16 pm

    Sounds like a perfect relationship, hopefully I can have one like that in the future!

  9. Andre Authority on February 5, 2014 at 3:27 am

    love? i like it

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  13. charlottebird1005 on February 27, 2014 at 4:48 pm

    This is so very great. I remember one time holding my boyfriends phone and I started looking down at his messages. He would always said that he had nothing to hide but that was because he was soo good at erasing everything – text messages, emails, flirts on dating websites he sent. He always cleared all of his texts and computer browsing history and was very good at not getting caught. My friend made a good point when I had told her that I looked on his phone – she said if you have to look it means you don’t trust him and the big question is what is he doing to make it so that you don’t trust him?

  14. chattinatti on March 2, 2014 at 2:58 pm

    On point. It’s the simple things that are often over looked and it’s the simple things that sometimes make the biggest impact. Love your post and your blog! 🙂

  15. Cheri' on June 10, 2014 at 1:09 am

    AWESOME!! My husband and I have been married 31 years..3 kids and 2 grandchildren, and I can honestly say, we don’t do those things!! We are each others best friends…without the other..we are simply lost!! Thank you, for your wonderful articles!! I enjoy each and every one of them! 🙂

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    Respect brother

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