There’s an article in The New York Times called “The End of Courtship?” which not only disappoints me but is borderline offensive to all men.
The article discusses how men generally put zero effort into dating or women anymore and the extent of dates these days is “hey babe I’m out with some friends, wanna come meet up?” That’s a date? And women are accepting? Forget that nonsense. It’s impossible for a man to pursue you if he just…gets you. Simple concept.
“It’s one step below a date, and one step above a high-five,” she added. Dinner at a romantic new bistro? Forget it. Women in their 20’s these days are lucky to get a last-minute text to tag along.
What? No. Just, no. How is this acceptable? How are these conversations not being had? Is this real life?
The article discusses a girl who goes home from the club with a bouncer and how it “only lasts 4 months”…well then, color me surprised.
If women collectively refused to give it up to guys who have no game, then men would be forced to step it up and do what it takes to get a quality woman, or they’d get no women at all. Are guys to blame? Sure, of course. Are women also? Yes.
I believe one of the problems our generations are facing, is a lack of role models. Who is in the mainstream really addressing these issues? Who is out there helping our youth truly value themselves and therefore not growing up into adults who accept less than they know they deserve?
And, who is out there teaching our young men how to treat the women who do value themselves, and won’t accept the apathetic offer of some schmuck who is looking to get maximum reward for minimal effort?
The answer is, not enough people. There are a lot of males out there who are the dog, and the self-respecting female is the fire truck. Even if they catch her, they won’t know what to do with her.
The very last sentence in the article about a girl in California was the best part of the whole thing:
“For her, the old traditions are alive simply because she refuses to put up with anything less. She generally refuses to go on any date that is not set up a week in advance, involving a degree of forethought.
“If he really wants you,” Ms. Yeoh, 29, said, “he has to put in some effort.”’
You tell’em, Ms. Yeoh.
What are your thoughts on this NYT article? Do you think it accurately reflects the dating world we are living in, or are there people out there who still put in the proper effort? Let me know in the comments below, or tweet me at @JamesMSama.
To me, this is just another reason Why You Need Higher Standards.
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