The word “sexy” in modern day society has often become synonymous with the matched drum-beats and stiletto steps we’re used to seeing in Victoria’s Secret advertisements. Don’t get me wrong…that is sexy, but it’s not the only thing that is.
So, be honest…how many of you clicked on this article expecting to see a list consisting of amazing legs, abs, fake boobs, and a tan?
What society tells you is sexy on the surface, is often a small piece of the whole puzzle, if it’s a piece of it at all. But the first thing we need to do, is get rid of this damaging perception.
So, for those of us who live in the real world, what makes a woman sexy?
Confidence is key. Being perfect, is not. A strong, purposeful walk, head held high, eye contact, and a smile – go a long way.
Confidence breeds more than just a strong presence, it’s the foundation for a strong life. Confidence also breeds:
Ambition, which gives a woman a purpose, a drive, a direction in life. Ambition is sexy because a man who has his own goals can see you as a partner, a teammate, someone he can take on the world with – and that’s how a relationship should be.
Passion. Passion for life. Passion for another person. Passion for an interest, a hobby, art, music, anything that drives you. To see a woman in her element and truly loving what she is doing, is sexy.
Kindness. To treat others with kindness is an unacceptably rare quality in modern society. Taking a few moments to go out of your way to talk to someone, showing compassion to another member of the human race, regardless of age/gender/race/etc., all get major bonus points.
Honesty. When a woman is genuinely herself and doesn’t change for anyone, it displays many of the above qualities all together. It also shows that she has enough respect for you to be straight up with you and not hide anything.
Class. Class, as I’ve mentioned in previous articles, is about how you carry yourself, how you interact with others, and how you treat those around you. When you carry yourself with dignity it shows that you have respect for you, and those around you.
Intelligence. There is a serious disconnect between how much time is spent improving the body, and how much time is spent improving the mind. This goes for both genders. While your health is paramount, it’s also important to be well-rounded. I find that intelligence often comes as a package with wit and humor which are both also sexy in their own right.
While physical attraction is incredibly important in a relationship, two people won’t last if they can’t have meaningful conversations, laugh, and cry together. If they don’t respect and trust each other. If they can’t display kindness and compassion towards one another. And most importantly, if they can’t be themselves around each other.
You could both be perfect on the outside, which will carry you physically for awhile, but without these other qualities, the flame may burn strongly – but briefly.
You don’t have to win the lottery in the gene pool to be sexy. We are all dealt a hand of cards that we can’t control, but we can decide how we play our hand.
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