How To Get Over Your Ex

Breakups are rough. We’ve all been there.

Some, are rougher than others. Some relationships go as far as sharing a place, maybe a phone bill, maybe one of you even has a kid. There is no such thing as a clean break in these situations, in fact, it probably feels more like a divorce.

There can be some devastating emotional effects when going through these situations, so how do your minimize your depression and continue on with your life?

First, you need to remember why it happened. 

If your relationship ended, there are damn good odds that it was for a damn good reason. Maybe they were too clingy, maybe they didn’t trust you, maybe you didn’t trust them – but – suddenly when you break up, you tend to forget all of that and dwell on all of the amazing times you had together.

Don’t.

Don’t let the individual get confused with the idea of an individual. You need to make sure that you’re not just missing having someone to go home to, or to text smiley faces to during the day. This happens more often than we realize.

Remember that you are valuable.

Too many people feel a dramatic loss in self-worth after a breakup. You may feel that you did something wrong. That you are not good enough, and most of all, that you are not good enough for anyone just because one relationship ended.

Stop.

One person’s lack of ability to see your value is in no way a reflection of anyone else on the planet. There will be someone who will appreciate you.

You need to spend time with your friends.

There is nothing worse than wallowing in your own self-pity after a breakup. Yes, we all need a little time to adjust and wrap our head around the change happening in our lives, but you need to limit your time doing so.

You need to dress up, and go out into the city. You need to call your friends who are the most fun and who your ex would’ve hated you going out with when you were together, and you need to go out with them.

You need to realize the world hasn’t ended.

It may feel that way, but we are all still here, and the earth is still turning. You are still you, nobody has the power to take that away from you just because they didn’t appreciate you.

Learn from every experience. Look in the mirror. Really see yourself. Smile. Know that life goes on.

Know that you don’t need someone to complete you, only someone to accept you completely.

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