The Difference Between A ‘Bad Boy’ And A Jerk

It’s no secret that women prefer the bad boy to the nice guy. There are books written about it, movies made about it, and just about every single heterosexual person in the history of humanity is aware of this phenomenon. However, there’s another piece to the puzzle.
There’s a subtle differentiation between a bad boy, and some guy who is just a jerk. Yet, most girls can’t seem to tell the two apart. So, let me break it down for you.
Women want a bad boy because if he wants something, he goes out and takes it. He is dominant and doesn’t back down from anyone.He doesn’t get walked on and is often the Alpha Male of his group.
The bad boy embodies power, and as a result, makes his woman feel empowered as well.

The Difference Between Between A Bad Boy And An Asshole

It’s important to note that a bad boy will not discourage you, talk down to you, make you feel badly about yourself, or just generally be unsupportive and — well, a dick.

That guy, more commonly, is known as a jerk (or some other choice words). He can bear a striking resemblance to the bad boy because, similarly, he doesn’t care what people think and does what he wants anyway.

He can be perceived as powerful because of his dominant traits, but the difference is, he doesn’t care who gets hurt in the process. The reason why he doesn’t care what people think isn’t because he’s determined to get his way, it’s just because he’s a jerk who has no consideration for other people’s feelings — including his girlfriend.

The Difference Between A Bad Boy And An Asshole

But, many girls just attribute this to “how he shows his affection,” and think “he really loves me” — well, probably not. Anyone who loves you will never discourage you or make you feel as though you’re not good enough to accomplish anything in the world.

Both genders are at fault in the creation of this common misconception. Many guys have no idea how to be a bad boy and therefore think the term “I don’t give a damn,” which they so proudly boast, means they shouldn’t give a damn about other people.

In reality, it means they shouldn’t give a damn about how others perceive them, what others think of their actions or how they live their lives. They should go out and be the king of the jungle.

The Difference Between Between A Bad Boy And An Asshole

Girls can get stuck in the rut of dating these fools from as early as middle school into high school, and therefore just assume this is what all “bad boys” are like. They continue to keep dating  them.

Right about now is where the buzzer goes off, like when you get an answer wrong on Family Feud.
 It’s simple — be honest with yourself. If you feel unappreciated, undervalued, discouraged or just generally not supported in your relationship — it’s time to go.

Having your dignity and being alone is better than being in a relationship where you have to sacrifice it.

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30 thoughts on “The Difference Between A ‘Bad Boy’ And A Jerk

  1. This is so accurate! I’ve always had a thing for bad boys and my friends don’t get it. I think all of their “bad boy” experiences have actually been with jerks. Granted, I’ve dated some jerks in my time, too. But a true bad boy will make you feel awesome, and is often nicer and treats you better than the “nice guys” do.

  2. I think another big difference is a true Dominant male can be around other Dominant men and respect him and get along. Where jerks are intimidated and try to assert themselves as the “bigger man”.

  3. I’d like some more detail if you have any. No buzzer went off. The problem for me is, I used to be a girl who expected too much. I do think I’ve matured since then, but I have a hard time seeing a man’s flaws since I can now admit I’ve been at fault in a past relationship. (years ago.) this current one is not an outright jerk, but when we have a tense discussion occasionally, it always ends with me feeling bulldozed over and not understood by him. He’s calm so I’m not sure if I need to get over myself or if hes truly unwilling to see my point of view. I don’t want to make the same mistake again of being selfish. If there’s anything you can add, please do.

  4. I soo get you! As if I wrote this heheh :p another great article. I have always liked bad boys, and quite frankly most girls did. The good thing for me was I knew the difference between a bad boy and a plain jerk. Sadly most girls don’t, as you explain. I think I am having a proud moment here hehe if I may. I am glad that I was never one of those naive girls. I have always protected myself, and even at times that I didnt I was aware what I get myself into and aware of choices I make and reasons behind them 😉 tnx again for a great read love this! Especially coming from a man. 😉

  5. What you described in this article is a Leader, the adult version of your defined “bad boy”. Good leaders are dominate but compassionate, the same as the bad boy.

  6. If you don’t mind I would like to address your thoughts concerning the types of guys me about blog. I agree with the above porec’d statement that you’re actually referencing to the identity of someone more accurately labeled “Leader”. I will take this a step further call the archetype “good man”. Women almost universally desire a strong man, and you are right that there is a lot of confusion concerning the difference between a dominant man and a domineering one. True, some women want a weak man, but this is generally attributable more to personal history than other factors. Sadly, many women mistake a weak, domineering, man for a dominant one. The problem with the bad boy is just that: he is a boy. An unhealthy addiction or desire for the bad boy personality package generally leads to broken homes and financial straits. There is a reason Leonardo DiCaprio’s character had to die at the end of Titanic for the romance of the movie to work…

  7. As for the “Nice Guy”, this is generally a misnomer that more directly is a euphemism for “jellyfish”. However, making nice synonymous with jellyfish indicates a rational disconnect. The jellyfish cannot be depended upon to defend his wife or children. If we were a pack of monkeys or dogs, I could see the reference to “alpha male” . However, we are not beasts, we are something better: we are humans. This being a given, alpha male carried rightly over to human terms would be called “leader”. So who is this good leader type? Ask any mature woman. She is very likely to bring up the term “good man”. This is very much a far cry from the definition “bad boy”. Good is not bad, and bad is not good. The term “bad boy” itself is an attempt to minimize the more transparent term: bad man.

    1. Very good comment! A bad boy cannot be the same as a good man!

      Anyway, humans are not animals but I would still say that there are two types of Alphas (apart from Betas) Good Alphas and Bad Alphas. Only the Good Alpha is the true leader who is masculine and has emotional intelligence. The bad Alpha is masculine but makes mainly just a lot of noise. Problem is that Good Alphas are usually the rarest type of man and Bad Alphas there are many. 😦
      On the other hand don’t forget, that we women select men. If Bad Alphas know that their bad behaviour will prevent them from dating woman and reproducing themselves and if women start to boykott them, they will need to change.

  8. A bad man will hurt a woman in many ways, and is very likely to leave her a single mother, but a good man will not only not make her life worse, but will lift her up and bring out the best in her. The old adage: “a girl will sleep with the bad boy, but will marry the good one” speaks volumes. It is not the first love that matters, but the last. I have been the jerk, the bad boy, the nice guy, and the good man. One needs a destination to plot a course. Just my Christian two cents, Monterey.

  9. Bad boy = the guy u really dream about
    Good man = the guy you dream about marrying
    Jerk = the guy u always end up loving and being crazy about
    Nice guy = the sucker who’s gonna raise your kids after you start you feminist crap and the jerk finds an improved version of you and dumps you(new, younger you’s’ are being born everyday, regardless of how amazing you are)

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