7 Signs of True Love From a Man


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The adage “actions speak louder than words” rings truer than ever when it comes to dating and relationships. Anyone can tell you what you want to hear – but only someone who actually MEANS what they say will make sure their actions back up their words.

So, what are the signs of TRUE love from a man? Watch the video to find out (or read the summary below).

The interesting thing about love is that we all communicate and receive it in our own unique ways. So tell me in the comments, which one of the true love signs means the most to YOU? Or if I missed one, what would you add to the list?

– James

Summary –

1. He includes you in every part of his life.

When a man loves a woman he wants to integrate her into his life, and bring her around his family and friends. He wants them to love you, and for you to love them. He wants you to be an extension of him and include you in important events and milestones.

2. He tries to give more than he takes.

Real love is about giving and contributing to your partner’s life. A man who loves you will give to you in the best ways he knows how. He will care for you, respect you, listen to you, and adore you. He won’t drain your energy or make you feel like giving is only one sided. Great relationships are not about give and take, they are about give and give.

3. It’s not ‘me‘, it’s ‘us‘.

You were two separate individuals, but now are a combined team. When a man is in love he will see you as inseparable. This includes when RSVPing to an event, talking about a vacation, or looking into the future,  Where he goes, he wants you to go and vice versa.  It is no longer ‘my life,’ it is ‘our life.’

4. He really sees YOU.

How many people really see you? How many people hear what you’re not saying?

A man who loves you will pay such close attention to you that he will notice details that nobody else does. He will learn what makes you happy, sad, angry, or ecstatic. This awareness will help him love your more. It shows him all the small details he loves about you.

5. Your happiness is his happiness.

When a man truly loves you he shares in your happiness and lends you his strength to ease your pain. Being in love is about being teammates who always supporting each other. A man in love will want to see you happy and work to make it happen.

6. He’s there for you even on the rainy days.

Life is not always sunshine and rainbows,… it can be difficult. Any man can stay next to you on the sunny days, but the true test of his love will be during the rainy days.  Does he hold the “umbrella” over you?

There will be challenges, losses, and failures, but the right man will stand in front of you when you need protection, behind you when you need support, and next to you when you need a partner.

7. You will know.

When a man truly loves and cares about you he will make it known. He will put in the effort consistently, and back up his words with actions. You won’t have to wonder about his feelings, he will tell you and show you.


  1. Amie Lewis on January 3, 2017 at 12:21 pm

    HI James, I have been following your bogs for over 3 possibly 4 years. I feel compelled to ask for help, If you could PLEASE give us ladies and men a covert narcissist warning/ red flags, with possible NPD. I had a man, YES HAD a man that did ALLLL of the things you advise and more. I still agree with you most the time. Problems being is a covert narcissistic person will study you, love bomb you, make you feel like NO other he has ever met, open doors, always pays. He wants to marry you and claim you and his family all does too. He NEVER wants to do anything with out you. They are addicted to the idea of “love” but don’t really know how to love. When things get real and they capture your carefully protected heart (not jaded) Marries you (HIS idea after 2 weeks of knowing him) because you are soul mates. “I was the one and he knew it” skeptical I said what the heck I’m 43 I’ve seen it all. A covert isn’t able to love he has NO REAL interest except to WIN you over, as soon as he gets you (marriage in my case) he litterally told me within 3 weeks after cermony he made a mistake… its a classic textbook case. There are 3 stages of a covert narcissistic relationship. Idealize, devalue (when you start to figure it out and DISCARD. Everything about them is a lie! They mirror you and your dreams and agree with you on everything, but wear many masks to hide who they are. SMOKE & mirrors!! These are the things along with the flaws you have he loves EVERYTHING about you, the are sometimes the most tender lovers ever. The discard is so painful when you trust a man implicitly to do a 180 on less than 3 weeks… I am independent, he wanted me to quit, take care of me and travel with him but there was soooo much drama and always had to live super cheap and with women… said later no friends but ME!! Explainable because he traveled and his first contract in Arizona is where he met me all believable even about his ex’s stories he shared since I was his third marriage and he had great excuses for ending at least believable even though I don’t agree with divorce. I said well you’re being abused you can’t stay well that wasn’t the case at all and I found out the truth since he left six months ago and it is ugly these coverts are predators and there’s a fine line with your advice which is totally capable from a healthy human being to show what a timeline here is very important to how they do it anyone who does this or wants to commit FAST, claiming to know so well RUN!! They show signs, its weather we understand the flag at the time. I was hoping you could shed some light and a different blog about this specifically for help for women and men who want true love to get trapped in relationships after a couple dates and believe the person that’s talking to them because they’re too good to be true and they are, they always are too good it’s too good to be true it is it takes time to build these things. Please help!!!

    • Dawn on July 7, 2018 at 10:42 am

      I too am curious about this. I too was married to a narcissist and divorced for over 3 years. I am at a point where I dont trust my instincts enough to allow another man in my life. The narcissist mimics all these points. How can we determine its for real?

  2. Sib on January 6, 2017 at 9:22 am

    Hey there, I love your videos.. I would love to hear a little bit more about how you can make getting to know a person when its a long distance relationship – which (for me at least) differs vastly from a relationship with somebody who lives in the same location as you.

    Thanks heaps!

  3. Grace on January 27, 2017 at 11:35 am

    Hey my bf always travel, he said that is part of his job. But almost every month he travel to other places it’s too doubtfull for me. And every 6 months he go to the Philippines i think he have someone there. Pls. Advise me i am confused about him if he loves me or not it’s too annoying for me.

  4. Cathy on February 8, 2017 at 1:22 pm

    So I realize now that I just spent a year waiting for a man who did absolutely 0 of these things to figure out if he loved me or not. I should have realized sooner that he never would. I’m glad I finally walked away. Thank you for confirming my suspicion, and putting my mind at ease that I can let go of him knowing I did everything I could, and the problem was not me. It was him.

  5. Yvonne Brown on February 22, 2017 at 10:05 am

    I have reconnected with a person I met when I was 21. He has been a widow since October 2015. I am recently divorced as of November 2016. What I feel for him at 21 I still feel for him in 56. We are both still in different states, he says he likes me and he is flying here to see me for 4 days. We talked on the phone, he has sent me a valentine card and he’s still working full-time as a commercial real estate broker. At first he was just going to stay in a hotel and now he wants to stay in a luxury hotel will we can spend time getting massages, going to a spa and just spending some quality time together. He has told me he is not going anywhere. He doesn’t listen who is 25 well two lives in a different state. I asked him has he told anyone in his family about me, and he said no period he said if he did he would tell his best friend Larry but his son will not like me because of his deceased spouse. We have intellectual conversations however we have been communicating since February 2016 and he has been calling me since December 2016. The only thing I have concerned about it said I have told him I am not ready to be physically intimate with him. So far he’s left me two explicit voicemails (talking dirty) I wish I do not care about it and did not respond to either one of them. I just need to know if this is anxiety on his part because he has not been intimate with anyone since the death of his wife.

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