5 Things that Women Need to Learn about Men


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LADIES – aren’t guys complicated? Sometimes just ridiculously complicated? They run hot and cold, they stop texting you out of nowhere, or ALL they do is text you and NEVER seem to try to make plans. What gives?

The truth is that women think men are complicated, and men think women are complicated – but I THINK that this is because we simply don’t spend enough time communicating and trying to LEARN about each other.

For that very reason, I’m giving you some insight into the male mind (since I am a guy, and all). Here are five things that WOMEN (you) should learn about MEN (us!). See you on the other side!

We really aren’t so complicated after all – and I know you’re not either! We need to work on having more open dialogue with each other instead of making assumptions and jumping to conclusions. If we all make that pledge and work together, I know we can make dating suck so much less!

Are you with me? Let me know in the comments below. Let’s make it happen!

Summary –

1. We want to protect you.

We know that you don’t “need” us, but we want you to want us.

There are certain things that are embedded in our DNA. One of them is a desire to protect the women in our lives. This includes mothers, sisters, daughters, and especially significant others.

A real knight in shining armor can protect a woman by being her support system, and encouraging her in all areas of life. He can take care of her when she’s sick, stand by her side during hard times, and make her feel safe and secure.

2. We really do think you look beautiful without makeup.

Men can appreciate the results of well-applied makeup. We may not know anything about shading and contouring, but, damn, you look good!

But you know when else you look pretty? When you first wake up. When your hair’s a mess, and you just tossed on a t-shirt and sweatpants. It’s a different kind of good, but trust me, it’s still good.

3. We want to make you happy and for you to tell us how.

Sometimes men might not know exactly how to make you happy, but that’s not going to stop us from trying. You can make the process go a lot smoother, by being open and honest about what you want.

4. You are good enough.

If we have committed ourselves to you, it’s because you are what we want. We think you are beautiful, sexy, smart, and funny.

Some men just aren’t as affectionate or communicative about their feelings. So it’s important to realize that if a man is committed to you, this might be his best way of showing you how much he loves you. You are the person he wants.

5. We want to know that you appreciate us.

We don’t need any grand gestures or some sort of tit-for-tat relationship, but we begin to feel feel discouraged if our efforts go unnoticed.

So take a moment and tell the man in your life that you appreciate what he does. Those simple words will make his day.


  1. Kathleen on November 14, 2016 at 7:54 pm

    I really enjoyed that video and your message is reassuring. Trust me – I would LOVE to know that I have the love of a man who does want to protect me! I’ve just been forced to learn to take care of myself, and I’m glad I can – but I would prefer having a partner to be my Knight in Shining Armor!!
    I could never be involved with a man who doesn’t think I’m still beautiful without all the makeup… I want one who sees me tired, worn out, sweaty pony-tailed…you name it – and still sees me as stunning.
    I will tell a man what makes me happy, and expect him to be open and honest in letting me know how to best meet his needs and desires…as I do love to give!
    I know my value and I am compelled to show my appreciation to a man who can see and love me for all of who I am… appreciate him for every little thing. I can’t begin to explain how thankful I would be….
    THANK YOU for sharing this video and for your desire to open up communication. 💕

  2. Alice on November 15, 2016 at 6:34 pm

    Your video have learned me a lot of things about my man. I knew he loves me with all his heart….he makes me feel am the most beautiful human being, he cares like i am a precious jewel, etc……but because of that i expect that he knew what makes me “more” happy…..after i watched your video few days ago i opened up to him…..he was silent for a while but the result was awesome…..now he was trying his best. I thought we have good communications at first….but because of your video it helped me a lot. Thanks James. You are God given to me….

  3. etn on November 16, 2016 at 11:30 am

    My man is really something else. He is really cold most times. I know he tries hard to be. He has been disappointed about four years ago. There was someone else in between and a child bit he still carries the hurt. I know he loves me because of a few gestures he does and as someone with a psychology background I kind of do understand him, it’s just that, I’m a woman. I too just want to be loved and all. Instead of having this big body guard for me. Because most times he’s just concerned about what I’m doing and with who because the person that dissapointed him previously had cheated and all and lied alot. so he thinks I’d do that. I’ve tried so hard explaining to him that I’ve been there too, hurt and dissapointed and I’ll never do it to him. I’ve also tried letting him know of my every move but it doesn’t really help. I’ve prayed alot. believe me you. gone to the extent of fasting. I’ve gotten signs that he’s willing to change but I still feel as though I’m being punished for how that previous person disappointed him. sad

  4. Dana on November 28, 2016 at 12:16 am

    Thanks for adding the summary below the video. I’m mot always able to watch videos while I’m at work (and to be honest, even if I could I’d prefer to read the article most likely)

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