Millions Of Cheaters Get Cheated In Ashley Madison Hack


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For those unaware, is a website which, for nearly a decade, has declared that “Life is short, have an affair.” They provide(d) a service for married people to join anonymously and find the perfect partner who also wanted to have an affair.

Essentially, it’s a dating site for those already married.


Recently, though, there was a report that hackers gained access to client information in the Ashley Madison database, compromising names, addresses, credit cards, and more – for nearly 40 million users.

Yes, there are 40 million married men and women who have actually paid to cheat on their spouses. reports: A data dump, 9.7 gigabytes in size, was posted on Tuesday to the dark web using an Onion address accessible only through the Tor browser. The files appear to include account details and log-ins for some 32 million users of the social networking site, touted as the premier site for married individuals seeking partners for affairs.

I can’t say I feel bad for those whose information has been released, as I am adamantly anti-cheating, though I am undecided on the severity of the punishment. Perhaps names would have been enough, but confidential information threatening the user’s well-being is still up for discussion.

However, one interesting tidbit about the hack is that about 15,000 of the email addresses are .mil or .gov – likely an unsurprising statistic for those who subscribe to the philosophy that politicians are dishonest.

Something else to consider: Most hacks have been to the tune of credit card data or compromising the security of large companys…when, in recent memory (if ever), has there ever been a real hack like this, which exposes the personal secrets of millions of people? Perhaps history is being made with this one.

But, I digress. I think that while this situation showcases the obvious need to always put our personal privacy first, it also brings to further light an already serious issue our society is facing – rampant cheating and infidelity. The lack of value put on commitment and monogamy. The absolute disregard for promises made to the person we are supposed to love forever.

It is one thing to know that a website for affairs has 40 million paying members, and classifying them as nothing but anonymous numbers on a chart. It is easy to shake our heads at the absurdity but somehow turn the other cheek to it because of the ambiguity of the users. But, now, those members are real. They are people with names. They are husbands, wives, brothers, sisters, and members of the government who runs our country.

The actual reach of this information is yet to be determined – it is currently still heavily encrypted, but there is always someone out there willing to extract data and put it into easy-to-read formats to make sure the public can easily get their hands on it. What will this mean for the future of online security and for relationships? What will this do to the relationships of those who have been outed? How will this continue to push down the level of trust that men and women seem to have towards each other lately?

These things all remain to be seen depending on how things unfold – but for now, the divorce attorneys are stretching out their hamstrings and getting ready for a marathon run. It’s going to be a lucrative year for them.

For the rest of us who actually have the integrity to stay committed to the person we love, we can sit back and observe the debauchery. But for those who thought they could throw caution to the wind and never get caught, reality is calling you.

Karma, as they say, is a bitch.

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  1. Fred on August 19, 2015 at 9:21 am

    Says the serial monogamist (meaning more than ONE LOVE in his life)!
    Let’s check out your record in thirty years. You will be honest about indiscretions, right?

    • James Michael Sama on August 19, 2015 at 9:39 am

      Hi Fred! I actually spent about a decade being single and getting all of that ‘indiscretion’ out of my system. I had no interest in being in a relationship.

      Now, though, I understand what is important to me and what isn’t, and neither my nature nor my upbringing would ever motivate me to cheat on the woman I love – so, feel free to check back in 30 years, my answer will be the same.

      Thanks for frequenting my website!

      – James

      • Fred on August 19, 2015 at 1:59 pm

        So ladies, we have the master gentlemen admitting here that his feelings for you were just casual.

    • Mike on August 20, 2015 at 1:59 pm

      Sounds like Fred’s name may have been on that list haha

  2. The Free Woman on August 19, 2015 at 10:08 am

    all men are “anti-cheating”. Yeah right! I don’t care who it is, all men cheat! Sad as it is, its true!

    • James Michael Sama on August 19, 2015 at 10:42 am

      Very sorry that this is your outlook on men. I couldn’t possibly live with myself if I ever betrayed the woman I love in that sort of way, so I have never and would never cheat. But, that’s just me…

      • The Free Woman on August 19, 2015 at 12:58 pm

        It IS true. Cheating isn’t just hooking up, and having sex! There is so much more to it. I am in a committed relationship, and I know it is bound to happen. Men cheat. I wish it wasn’t true, but I was single for a long time, and can say married men do not care! I never went that way, but it would have been to easy too.

        Thanks for your reply!

    • Debbie on August 19, 2015 at 10:57 am

      That stereotype is not true at all.

      • The Free Woman on August 19, 2015 at 12:56 pm

        It IS true. Cheating isn’t just hooking up, and having sex! There is so much more to it. I am in a committed relationship, and I know it is bound to happen. Men cheat. I wish it wasn’t true, but I was single for a long time, and can say married men do not care! I never went that way, but it would have been to easy too.

      • Debbie on August 19, 2015 at 1:24 pm

        I understand what you mean however, we are only human and if for some reason our husband/wife/marriage weakens, there could be a reason, I don’t mean an excuse, for the problem. At that point, if you love each other, you can address the issue. Not everyone that slips up either physically or emotionally (no sex) is a dog. Life and marriage is hard. The best we can do is give it our best. Marriage is full of ups and downs. What I am saying is that it won’t happen to everyone- that is a fact. Now if you mean that your spouse won’t ever look at another and wonder what it would be like, well, really, we are only human. If we catch ourselves flirting, we catch ourselves. If you want perfection, you won’t ever have it but who of us is? I hope you don’t get cheated on. I hope I don’t but if I do get cheated on, I am confident enough in myself and love myself to move on and I am not afraid to love again because not all men/women are the same.

      • The Free Woman on August 19, 2015 at 4:56 pm

        Well said! I agree with that!! I can tell you speak from experience 🙂

    • Pyrate King on August 19, 2015 at 5:29 pm

      By that account, all women cheat as well then. Physical cheating is only 1/2 of the equation.

  3. livelysprite on August 19, 2015 at 10:11 am

    Reblogged this on misadventureswithfrogs.

  4. Doren Weinstein on August 19, 2015 at 10:54 am

    Just the existence of a website like this is a prime example that there are many men and women out there that are unsatisfied with their lives and believe that this will provide something. Unfortunately, it only complicates ones life.

  5. Satin Sheet Diva on August 19, 2015 at 12:17 pm

    Reblogged this on Dana Ellington Myles, MAPW and commented:

  6. Fred on August 19, 2015 at 1:57 pm

    There have been several STUDIES on cheating, most place male infidelity at around 70% and female at around 60%. The percentage of female infidelity has been increasing 10% each decade for the past fifty years. Perhaps women are just becoming more truthful? Ten percent of the babies born to married couples don’t have the husband’s DNA. Think on that for a few minutes!

  7. Alyssa on August 19, 2015 at 2:12 pm

    Hi James, how do you feel about this statement in the article? “Keep in mind the site is a scam with thousands of fake female profiles. See ashley madison fake profile lawsuit; 90-95% of actual users are male. Chances are your man signed up on the world’s biggest affair site, but never had one. He just tried to. If that distinction matters.” This really saddens me, that it’s 95% men on these sites. I know women cheat too, but it would seem men are still the front runners by a landslide. How can anyone ever trust with these kinds of statistics?

  8. Pyrate King on August 19, 2015 at 5:33 pm

    I’m curious as to why they specifically chose that site and not others such as Adult Friend Finder, etc.

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