Here’s When You Should [And Shouldn’t] Care What People Think Of You


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It seems to be a popular attitude to have these days to ‘not care what people think’ about you. Sure, it is freeing, but I have seen people go about this the wrong way countless times.

Does it really matter what people think?

Of course it does.


It matters what your friends think of you. They are your friends because they like you (hopefully). If they thought negatively of you, you’d lose them.

It matters what your significant other thinks of you. How they see you is the whole reason they’re with you.

It matters what your co-workers think of you. Do you hold a position that requires teamwork? A position where someone has the authority to replace you if they wish? A position that requires you to obtain, or keep, clients?

It matters what your boss or clients think of you. If you are employed and your boss doesn’t trust you or think you are cut from a good moral cloth, your employment will be short-lived. If you are self-employed and your business requires others to patronize it (what business doesn’t?) and you do not have a good reputation, you cannot expect to last very long.

If you injected an “I don’t care what you think” attitude into any of the above situations, my guess is your thoughts would change very quickly.

On the other hand – It doesn’t matter what people think, either.


It doesn’t matter if someone thinks you can’t accomplish something.

It doesn’t matter if someone thinks you shouldn’t pursue your dreams.

It doesn’t matter if someone thinks your rights should be oppressed because of what they believe.

It doesn’t matter if someone thinks you’re not good enough.

It doesn’t matter if someone thinks that girl or guy is out of your league.

And it doesn’t matter if some random stranger on the internet makes you feel bad about yourself (I’m looking at you, trolls who comment on my articles).

Holding a generally apathetic attitude needs to be focused in the right direction. First, it can drive people away from you more than bring them closer. Secondly, it makes people around you feel unwanted and unimportant. Like you are just focusing on yourself and don’t care what anyone thinks or how they feel.

When it comes to those important in your life, if you don’t care what they think of your personality and act accordingly, you could lose a friend, a loved one, or an income.

However, when it comes to your abilities. Your goals. Your dreams. Your passions. Never let anyone tell you what you can or cannot do. If you have anyone around you that makes you feel like you can’t have anything you want – you need to cut them out of your life.


Ultimately – we must care for others, but in the end, we must also live for ourselves.

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  1. thatgirlwiththedarkhair on July 10, 2015 at 10:06 pm

    I liked that shout-out to the trolls.

    ‘Please don’t feed the trolls.’ should be on a meme, like a sign from the zoo. 🙂

  2. Linda on July 10, 2015 at 10:54 pm

    Love your insight on life, it’s empowering ! I have learned something from every article I have read ….thank you! Linda

    Sent from my iPhone


  3. Ashley on July 10, 2015 at 11:01 pm

    At the end of the day, people can think and say what they want, but they don’t get to change you. When you become impermeable to their trolling, you win.

  4. Harry on July 11, 2015 at 3:22 pm

    Oh my! Now we have real trolls! How scary! Didn’t name calling go out in the sixth grade? How nice to have your little sister her friends supporting you with fictitious posts!

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    One of your best posts to date, I believe.

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