We are, whether we like it or not, being transformed into a society of instant gratification and much different relationships than our parents and grandparents are used to.
If I had to venture a guess, I’d say far more newly dating couples stay up late sending naughty texts to each other – than they do whispering on the phone together.
While many people are reluctant to accept this change (as people often are with any change), I think texting actually adds some benefits to communication while courting.
For one, some people genuinely really don’t like talking on the phone (it’s not always an excuse to not call). The opportunity to text you instead will allow them to relax a little and be more open and comfortable with what they say.
You’re not confined to a schedule. If someone has a busy work schedule or is often unable to speak on the phone during the day, texting will allow them the freedom to contact you when they have an extra minute or two. It’s quick and easy, and you won’t have to wait until 5:30 to speak to them.
Also, seriously, learn some proper grammar guys. My 5 year old cousin could come up with better compliments than the nonsense I see in Facebook comments.
Believe it or not, you can convey emotions and feelings through text. Someone who is crafty and creative with language and punctuation can easily express a “tone” in their words. If you don’t think a woman can be turned on simply by reading something you say – please Google “50 Shades of Grey.”
On the flip side, nothing is more lame than someone who uses dry, boring language when trying to be seductive. Don’t type like a robot. Robots aren’t sexy.
Also don’t underestimate how hot it is to be out in public but secretly sending inappropriate texts to each other.
In an increasingly busy, instant gratification society, building deep relationships with each other is not extinct – it’s just that the methods of doing so are changing.
Get your dictionaries out, gentlemen.