Posts Tagged ‘confidence’
If Happiness is Your Goal, You’ve Got the Wrong Goal
Ah, the pursuit of happiness. Life, liberty, and all that. This may be a bit controversial, but hear me out. Finding or creating happiness should not actually be your ultimate goal in life. “But James, why?!” Well, I’m glad you asked. You don’t need to hear this from me or anyone else because you’ve experienced…
Read MoreIf you feel lost and unfulfilled, it’s probably because you’re not disciplining yourself
What builds confidence in a person? Notice the word “builds” in that question. Confidence is not a magical personality trait that you either have, or you don’t. Fulfillment is not a lottery prize that some people feel, and others are deprived of. Direction in life is not a navigation system implanted in some of us…
Read MoreOur constant need for “better” is keeping us unhappy. Here’s how to overcome it.
First, props to you for taking the time to read this (assuming you finish it). Why? Because you probably interrupted your scrolling through your newsfeed to click off and come here. And, what were you seeing on that feed? Cars, jets, houses, couples with 6-pack abs frolicking in Tahiti. Fashion models, shoes, you get the…
Read MoreHere’s why “just be yourself” is terrible advice
Listen, I know you’re a good person. I know that you have wants, needs, desires, fears, dreams, deep emotional experiences, and a variety of life experiences every day. I also know that your friends and family care a lot about you. They want the best for you and they want to see you happy. Here’s…
Read MoreThe real reason so many successful people are unhappy, and what to do about it
What does ‘success’ mean to you? If you live in America, odds are that the success you’ve been shown over the years revolves around the “what” you can obtain. The cars, the houses, the clothes – those things are what you should strive for in order to live a happy life. In school we learn…
Read More5 things men are never taught about women (but should be)
Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you’ve probably seen the abhorrent out-in-the-open groping of Ariana Grande at Aretha Franklin’s funeral by this bishop: You can find the video if you’re so inclined, but to say it’s uncomfortable is an understatement. The entire time you’ll just sit there asking yourself: What in the blue hell…
Read MoreThe real reason most people are unhappy in their lives
I have always been fascinated by psychology. For the past decade I have taken classes on the subject, had thousands of conversations with people (literally) about their relationships and what makes them tick, read as many books as I could find, and even wrote a book on finding love within yourself. In more recent years…
Read More5 ways to be the person everyone wants to meet at any event
The phrase ‘it’s not what you know, it’s who you know’ has been around for decades, and in many ways still rings true today. This is especially true when seeking a job, opportunity, or even a romantic partner. But in the age of networking transforming into social networking and adding an online component, there is…
Read More10 Lessons Every Man Needs to Learn to Attract Mrs. Right
There is a lot of confusion in the dating world these days surrounding what women want, how men are ‘supposed’ to act, or even what kind(s) of men actually attract women. In the long run, though, it is always a man who is confident and secure in HIMSELF that wins the day, regardless of his…
Read MoreThe real reason ‘pickup artists’ ultimately failed, and what men should do instead
I still talk to people these days who were never aware of the huge pickup artist movement that existed about 10 years ago. Allow me to give you a very brief history: A few guys out of Los Angeles developed a system designed to help men (any kind of many from any walk of life)…
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