Posts Tagged ‘success’
We Can’t Be Better Partners Until We Become Better Men
It’s been awhile since I’ve written something on here and I wanted to come back with a strong and unfiltered opinion. What else is new, right? It certainly seems to me that men are letting themselves slip. One could argue that women aren’t holding high enough standards for men when it comes to dating, relationships,…
Read MoreWhy So Many High-Achieving Men are Unhappy (and 3 ways to fix it)
One of the many false narratives we are fed through social media and society in general, is that becoming wildly successful will make you happy. The houses, the cars, the travel, the beautiful people, places, and things…you’ll get respect from other men. You’ll get attention from women. You’ll be free from stress and worry. How…
Read More5 Reasons Men Succeed at Work but Fail in Relationships
Why do you think so many traditionally successful men have failed relationships or problems connecting with women? Men, biologically, are programmed to be hunters and providers. Our self worth (incorrectly) often rests on what we make, what we have, the value we bring. This puts many men on a path of chasing external validation and accomplishments. A good job,…
Read MoreYou Can Be “Nice” Or You Can Be Respected – But Not Both
I spent the first two decades of my life always trying to be “nice” to everyone around me. You may have heard the term “Nice guys finish last” a few million times, and it’s true. Not just in dating, but in life. Why could this be? Have you ever described someone as being nice? When…
Read MoreHow to Live with Confidence in Spite of Judgment
Human beings are wired to judge each other almost instantly. Is this person friend or foe? Will they hurt us or help us? Do I trust them or avoid them? And in the age of social media these instincts are lit on fire all day every day. We judge people based on their profile picture,…
Read MoreWhat It Means to be a “Real Man” is Evolving, and so is Masculinity
In more recent months with the controversial Gillette advertisement, there really is a mainstream focus on what it means to be a “real man” in society. Many men lashed out at the ad, which negatively portrayed things like bullying and harassing women, claiming the ad was designed to attack masculinity and take away their ability…
Read MoreIf Happiness is Your Goal, You’ve Got the Wrong Goal
Ah, the pursuit of happiness. Life, liberty, and all that. This may be a bit controversial, but hear me out. Finding or creating happiness should not actually be your ultimate goal in life. “But James, why?!” Well, I’m glad you asked. You don’t need to hear this from me or anyone else because you’ve experienced…
Read MoreIf you feel lost and unfulfilled, it’s probably because you’re not disciplining yourself
What builds confidence in a person? Notice the word “builds” in that question. Confidence is not a magical personality trait that you either have, or you don’t. Fulfillment is not a lottery prize that some people feel, and others are deprived of. Direction in life is not a navigation system implanted in some of us…
Read MoreIf the new Gillette #TheBestMenCanBe campaign offends you, you’re the problem
Just in case you’ve not yet come across Gillette’s new #TheBestMenCanBe campaign, here is the one minute and 49 second short film: The commercial is designed to encourage men to set better examples in society and step up to support others in doing the same. To stop making the same old excuses for bullying, violence,…
Read MoreThis one piece of advice will save you years of struggle and frustration
For those of you who don’t recognize them, the men bookending me in this photo are Jim Kwik and Simon Sinek. Jim is a coach for some of the most prominent figures on the planet in business, media, and entertainment. Simon is a world-renowned speaker who has one of the most watched TED talks of…
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