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Below, you will find direct quotes from people who have been helped by my articles or direct advice.

Looking forward to helping you build a lifetime of happiness.

– James M. Sama


I first reached to James for consulting way back in the spring of 2009. We met up in the city and sat down to go over all the areas of my life that I had wanted to get handled. James helped me eliminate a vast majority of them and in the five years since those problem areas have yet to return. It’s amazing how much fear and worry throughout most of my life were turned into self-confidence and assertiveness. I walked away no longer afraid of what people thought, or what my critics had to say. I learned how to define and project myself. I have a few close friends who I used to complain about my sticking points prior to James. I feel to this day they are still shocked and find it hard to believe that I no longer have had them since meeting up with James. It’s important to be a re-assured person. – Mark A., Boston

While obtaining counseling after leaving my abusive marriage, the counselor referred to a blog, JamesMSama com. After reading the daily articles, I’ve come to understand that not every man is abusive and. I DESERVE better! I cannot thank James enough for saving me from a lifetime of abuse! – Jennifer T., Texas

Where do I start? I had a rocky break-up with my ex.. almost lasting as long as the amount of time that we had dated for. James gave me honest advice and helped me realize what I deserve, which was not wasting any more time on this jerk of a guy. James has a great understanding of relationships in our current generation, and outside of all of the dating apps and social media junk, James taught me that it really comes to finding someone who loves and respects you just as much as you love and respect yourself. – Allie W., Boston.

Before I found the New Chivalry Movement and James M. Sama, I often wondered if dating in today’s society was a lost cause. The men I encountered seemed to be clueless on what it means to be a gentleman and how to truly connect in a relationship. Then I met a diamond in the rough; he was already a gentleman, but needed some polishing in the connection department. I introduced him to the New Chivalry Movement on a whim, and in just a few days (and several articles later), I could see a big difference. We now share articles with each other and our conversations often revolve around the topics of those articles. We are growing together and developing our connection, thanks to James M. Sama! – Courtney K., Florida

When I discovered James’ blog around the beginning of the year it intrigued me. Now, months later, it’s the one item I read daily, like my online newspaper. I’ve been single for a long time and refuse to lower my standards of how I should be treated or of how a lady should also act in a relationship. I know my value, and James has helped to reinforce that. I’ve been called picky, I’ve been told to lower my standards to get “any man,” but I shall not. I’d rather be single and content being alone than settling. – Shauna J., Georgia

The new chivalry movement is one of the best dating advice websites I have ever seen! It’s a life line and a total comfort to me and I go back to it on a regular basis as a reference as I know it makes so much sense! When ever any of my friends are having man troubles, I know there will be an article by James which I can send over to them! – Stephanie C., Bristol, United Kingdom

Whenever I feel like reaching out to my ex, I look at your page instead. There I always find an empowering quote…Something that makes me remember I don’t need him and I can move on and find someone who truly deserves my love. Thanks for helping me stay strong and move on. Please keep doing what you’re doing. – Elena D., Boston

Are you ready to be empowered? Let’s get started.

– James Michael Sama


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  2. Nick on April 13, 2015 at 6:55 pm

    I’ve just switched off from your fb page and your site.

    I used to like your style – you write in forward and honest way without being arrogant or condescending. You don’t engage in man bashing or man shaming.

    Same can’t be said for that article you seem intent on continually spruiking … “9 Signs You’re Dating a Man, Not a Boy” …

    • James Michael Sama on April 13, 2015 at 6:59 pm

      Hi Nick!

      If you notice, that article isn’t written by me. It is a post from a friend that I thought had validity – apologies if you disagree.

      It saddens me a bit to know that one article, not even written by me, has turned you off from my website of nearly 600 articles which you seemingly do agree with.

      Thanks for letting me know of your departure, I will continue working to improve in the future and hopefully win you back as a reader.

      All the best,

      – James

  3. KellyG on April 15, 2015 at 3:15 pm

    James – I am new to your FB page and find myself in agreement with many of your articles. As someone who has been married for 26 years, I particularly liked “11 Reasons Good Men Won’t Cheat” which I forwarded to my husband who refuses to read it as his 5 year affair has been exposed. He still feels he is a “good man” and is trying very hard to convince me of that. I am in the process of trying to heal my broken heart (going to a support group and a therapist weekly). I would love to see an article from you on this particular topic. Forgiveness? Is it even possible to be closer and more in love in the aftermath of an affair of this magnitude? This is my daily struggle. Finding it hard to feel optimistic about our future.

    • Karen on April 7, 2016 at 10:15 pm

      James, I’d like to know ( same as KellyG questions) however how to recover from a physical altercation with ur spouseof 24 years. it’s been five months and I just can’t seem to bounce back from it. My heart, spirit, self confidence and self esteem is still so crushed

    • Kelly L. on July 2, 2016 at 12:19 pm

      Hi Kelly..Im a Kelly too! Your post resonated with me, as i was in a 27 yr marriage and 31 yrs together. My ex had an affair and then things never could get back to a sense of true connectedness. I feel like…if they know they can cheat and did it…they will do it again. Mine claimed to have been devastated by what he did…but he never truly reconnected with me. I was struggling trying to heal from it all with only minimal help from him. After struggling more years, he was caught again…and I am now divorced. He is engaged to marry the woman he was my dismay. But I discovered…its not about me..its about HIM. We cannot take on the baggage or reasons why they choose to betray. Im finding so many more women left after long term marriages it seems. Ive had counselling and am re-entering the world of dating..(not yet). I am attractive and youthful and fun…and have young kids…What usually happens is that we lose ourselves trying to repair it all while they remain secretive and deviant. Those are not good character traits. The old adage..if he will do it once ..they will do it again. He didnt guard his heart and keep it only for you. Forgiveness is something we do for ourselves…I forgave him…but he continued to fail to live up to our marriage. i pray you have a better ending. My heart goes out to you..

  4. Terri on May 10, 2015 at 12:57 pm

    I enjoyed reading your blogs.

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  9. Katy on March 2, 2016 at 10:55 pm

    I was wondering if you had some advice. I’m not sure if you do that kind of thing, but it’s something that is a bit more private that I’d rather not post about here. If not that’s fine. I love reading your posts! I have followed you for a couple years and you have such a clear and honest point of view. Thank you for writing!

  10. mariaharris1821 on March 19, 2016 at 12:35 am

    James! I have finally redound your blog after deleting my own and having followed you and now starting a new one and trying to refund all the writers whom I followed and loved– you being one of them! I’m so excited to get caught back up and to share your writing with my boyfriend. I know he will love all that you say. I’m so happy to see you’re still writing! You’re such an inspiration to me. Thanks!

  11. respect on June 15, 2016 at 8:56 am

    thanks for your posts they are inspiring and educating,looking forward to getting more

  12. Isaias Melchor on March 22, 2017 at 2:23 am

    My compliments to the writer of how to reach your highest potential. It was very helpful to realize I have 9 out the 10 qualities needed to reach max potential, but I want to personally thank you for helping identify self-love and will definitely start improving in that aspect… I agree that only when we admit to being wrong will we grow wiser in life.we never stop learning new information in life and only continue to become wiser.

  13. Delia on June 19, 2017 at 8:48 pm

    I’ve been married 35 years. I’ve caught my husband with porn and have asked him to stop. I promised every time but hasn’t. A month ago I caught him watching a woman on the internet master bating. He was shocked when I walked in. He told me it will never happen again, like he always does. Over the weekend I went to bed and got up and caught him getting ready to watch a young woman getting ready for something. After I grabbed the computer he took it back to close it out. He didn’t want me to see what he was in. I changed the password on all the computers. I asked him if he could live without a computer and he said yes. Every time I catch him doing this a piece of me falls. He knows I am a perfect woman and doesn’t want to loose me, but I think he is a addicted. I am tired of being betrayed. I could never cheat or do anything and have never done anything in my life that was wrong.

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