7 Signs You’ve Given Your Heart to the Wrong Person

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I am no stranger to people talking to me about their relationships. Human psychology and how people interact with each other has always fascinated me, so I enjoy the conversation. Perhaps that’s how I ended up writing about this topic in the first place.

I am seeing more of a trend lately, though. I’m hearing the word ‘narcissist’ more and more often. Genuine, goodhearted, beautiful people (inside and out) who feel taken advantage of, and taken for granted. Because they are.

A healthy relationship is about give and give, not give and take. It’s not even 50/50, it’s more like 100/100. There is no “part time” relationship, you’re either in…or you’re out.

But sometimes, our judgment gets clouded. We really care about the person we’re with so we’re willing to do everything for them. But, a good sign of a solid relationship is if they’re willing to do the same for you in return (without you asking for it).

So, how do you know when you’re giving too much? When is enough…enough?

You’re smiling less when you’re alone.

The one person you can’t hide your feelings from, is yourself. It’s easy to convince those around us that we’re happy with the situation we’re in and with our partner. Of course no relationship is 100% perfect, but if you begin to feel down when they’re not around (and not because you’re missing them), this could be a sign of your true feelings coming to the surface.

The only way to lead a happy, fulfilling life is to first be true to yourself and what you want and need.

You’re even asking yourself this question in the first place.

Even though it is difficult for us to sift through our own emotions at times, it is an integral part of a happy life and relationship. We are the only ones who truly know what we’re feeling inside our own heart and mind, and if you find hesitancy like this poking through your consciousness, it’s probably a red flag.

Reciprocity is key, and if you’re questioning whether or not your partner is putting in their best effort, the answer is probably no.

You feel emotionally exhausted.

A solid relationship should enhance your life, not complicate your life. You should feel energized by the other persons’ presence in your life. Inspired. Motivated. Excited.

If you are mentally and emotionally drained, you may be sacrificing your own well-being for the sake of an unhealthy relationship.

You’re losing sight of you.

Do you feel like more of a servant than a partner? If you are always working to make your partner happy but rarely or never see the effort reciprocated, it’s very easy to lose sight of your own wants and needs because you’ve become too caught up in theirs.

Anyone who reads my articles knows that I am all for being loving and giving at all stages of a relationship, but it’s important to make sure that it goes both ways.

There would be voids if it wasn’t for you.

Voids in things to do together, voids in physical intimacy, voids in conversation.

If you are always the one who is suggesting activities, initiating physical contact, or taking care of things around the house – then you probably already realize that you’re carrying the relationship and giving too much of yourself away.

Happy, healthy relationships are a team – and like any good team, each player has their strengths which fit together like puzzle pieces with the other players to create a strong partnership. If one player doesn’t carry their weight, the team will lose.

You jumped into commitment before they were ready.

I’ve seen, many a time, people dive head first into a relationship with someone, swear off all other members of the opposite sex right away, and end up hurt. They think that giving their entire being to the other person will make them return the sentiment and love. It doesn’t. It needs to come naturally from both sides.

You worry about losing them and keep trying harder.

If we begin to feel someone slowly slipping away from us, some of us may find it natural to try harder and to put more effort in to keep them around. Often times this does the exact opposite and pushes them away.

This is where it’s key for the relationship to have healthy communication. Taking guesses at what might “fix” a problem is simply a band-aid solution. If something is wrong, we need to have the maturity and discipline to discuss it, no matter how difficult it may be.

While relationships do often take work, they shouldn’t feel like work. If your interactions with your partner are forced and don’t feel natural or fulfilling, then this is an instinct that shouldn’t be ignored.

Life is too short to waste your time on people who don’t appreciate you. Value your time, your body, and most of all – your heart. Stop giving these things to people who don’t deserve them.

There will be someone who comes along and accepts you for you – if you have the discipline to only accept the love you truly deserve.

 

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10 Comments

  1. MakeItUltra™ on April 4, 2016 at 10:53 pm

    great post!

  2. Lomax+Wood on April 5, 2016 at 12:13 pm

    Relations are the one rope which tied both end sides, but the proportion is equals both success and failure. So that we must be able to take care that..

    thanks
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  3. Kevin Beach on April 5, 2016 at 12:17 pm

    Great insight–listen to your intuition and heart. I’ve lived these signs and knew my inner voice was telling me you can’t get the other person to love you they way you want no matter how much work, effort, support or sacrifice you make. I left and then found what I wanted and needed in an amazing woman–you just have to be open to learn from those signs! Thanks

  4. Brian on April 5, 2016 at 7:33 pm

    Will I know with just one of those signs, or do I have to have all seven?

    • Roza on April 11, 2016 at 5:30 am

      I’d say even two-three are enough

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