The Reason Why Relationships Fade

Do you remember the first few months of your relationship? When the sparks were flying and you couldn’t keep your hands off of each other? But now, you find yourself going through the motions, no longer as excited as you were to see him/her, seemingly just passing time.

It doesn’t have to be that way.

Obviously, there are many reasons that some relationships fade over time, but one reason is often prevalent:

Comfort.

Comfort, I’ve always said, is the enemy of progress. It is also the enemy of romance.

Don’t get me wrong, being comfortable with someone is the very foundation of a healthy relationship, especially for women. If a woman feels uncomfortable around you, it doesn’t matter if you’re Channing Tatum, she’ll be running the other way.

Mutual comfort that causes you both to lose the desire to continue courting each other, however, can be the downfall.

When you stop doing what it took to get him or her in the first place, you’re openly admitting you sent your ‘representative’ on your first few dates.

The representative who had no intention of continuing the small, romantic habits after you were in a relationship.

I saw a woman say once, when referring to a man opening doors: “That will stop after a couple of months into the relationship.” There is no reason whatsoever for this to ever stop. Common courtesies towards each other don’t go out of style.

You’ve got to keep going to nice dinners. Keep learning and laughing together. Keep getting dressed up for each other.

There is no reason to stop. You had the time to do it all in the beginning, you can make the time now.

Too much comfort will cause eyes, and minds, to wander. The last thing you want is for your partner to be bored in your relationship. It will bring negativity into the mix and slowly pull you both apart.

Don’t let your boyfriend or girlfriend forget what attracted them to you in the first place. It’s the small things that count. Nice gestures for no reason, showing that you care about them. It doesn’t even have to cost money – you probably know what makes them smile; do more of it.

One thing is for certain: if the relationship you’re in is boring, they’re not the one you’re supposed to be with.

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