Power Couple: 10 Traits Men Need To Handle Strong Women

One of the biggest complaints I get these days from women is about men who tend to slowly back away after they realize how strong and independent the woman they are dating is.

Now, I am well aware that many women out there confuse being strong with abrasive, and independent with apathetic. Meaning, they take the “I don’t need a man” mindset and make it seem like they have no interest whatsoever in the man they are dating, pushing him away and then wondering what happened.


What usually follows is a myriad of social media posts about how men “can’t handle her attitude” or something of the sort – when in reality, he just had no interest in feeling like an afterthought in her life.

That all being said, though, there are still genuine, caring, loving women out there who are still strong and live their own life. They have their own hopes, dreams, and ambitions – but they want a teammate beside them as they accomplish all they set out to. They understand that personal power is not about not needing someone, but about the ability to set standards and only welcome the people into their life who meet the bar.

They want to support you as you support her in return. But, it takes the right type of man to recognize, and be comfortable with this type of woman.

What are some of the traits of the Prince Charming who doesn’t actually need a damsel in distress?

He has his own goals and dreams.

If a couple is going to have one teammate who has big plans for their own future, it’s going to need two teammates who have big plans. For both men and women, being with someone who is much less motivated in life than you are is going to cause tension in the relationship. One will not understand why the other works so hard. He or she will not understand why their partner is up at 5:00 in the morning to go to the gym. He or she will get aggravated when you have to put in extra hours on that Friday night.

A man who will be comfortable with a woman who is driven and ambitious will need to be on a similar path for himself in order to understand and appreciate her hustle.


He brings his own security to the table.

A man who constantly needs reassurance or validation from the woman he is dating will likely not find what he needs if he pursues a woman who is strong and independent. She will be secure and confident in herself and want the man she is with to be the same. While she will likely show him love and affection because she cares for him and wants him to feel loved – she will not constantly be reminding him of how much she needs him in her life. Because she doesn’t.

A strong man will not expect to be needed by a woman of this caliber, but it is important to note that men still want to feel wanted, and we all still need to love and affection to feel valued in a relationship, so this cannot be overlooked.

He respects her privacy.

Women who are focused on their own mission and path in life are not taking time out of their day to look for validation from others. They are living in the moment and are too busy to bother caring what other people are thinking.

A man who is going to date this type of woman has to work with her on what is kept between the two of them and what is exposed to the public. In the social media generation, privacy is hard to come by – but for a relationship with a mature, independent woman to work in the long run, it still has to be made a priority.


He won’t pacify her.

No man should ever be abrasive or disrespectful to the woman in his life [or anyone], but honesty and integrity is still an important part of making a relationship work. A man who is a ball of mush will never be able to hold the attention of a strong woman, because she will walk all over him and he will never give her the stability that she needs.

The type of man who will fit well with a woman of this caliber will know when to be flexible with her and when to stand his ground. She will respect him more for it.

He will still be comfortable taking the reins.

Just because a woman may be in charge from 9-5 on Monday through Friday, doesn’t mean she wants the same responsibilities in a relationship. At the end of the day, many women still appreciate a man who is the man, and will make plans for them on date night. A man who still romances her. A man who is chivalrous and respectful. A man who understands that a woman can be independent and should still be treated as a lady.

He is not possessive or jealous.

Possessive overbearing men are kryptonite to strong women. Smothering or coming on too strong to this type of woman is the quickest way to ensure that you push her away immediately. She is busy and doesn’t need (nor want) her hand held constantly. She works best with a man who lives his own life alongside hers, not one that tries to intertwine the two.

He is a strong communicator.

This doesn’t mean just knowing how to speak and express his feelings, but also knowing how to listen and interpret hers. Not all women are verbally open or affectionate, but they will show you how they feel in their own ways. It is important for a man to be able to hear what the woman in his life is doesn’t say, as well as what she does.


He is never condescending.

When he compliments how great you are at something, the right kind of man for a strong woman will never end the sentence with “you know, for a girl.” A man who can effectively build a relationship with an independent woman will see her exactly as she should be seen – as an equal. This means respecting and valuing her opinions as well as openly telling her his own. It means being able to have deep, meaningful conversations and really listening to her viewpoints. It means never assuming she can’t teach you something new or show you new experiences – in fact, some of life’s most important lessons will come from her.

His support is unwavering.

As Mark Twain once said – “Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.” This same concept applies to relationships as well. Men and women who are strong and secure in themselves will have no problem standing behind their partner when support is required. They will not betray your trust or discourage you from living the life you want to live.

The right type of man for a strong woman will know when to stand in front of her when she needs protection, behind her when she needs support, and beside her when she wants a teammate.

He has a great sense of humor.

Despite the hard outer shell some strong women display, they are still human beings who experience every emotion. Nobody wants to be stern or serious all the time, particularly those with high pressure jobs or a stressful lifestyle. A man who can lighten the mood at just the right times will not only be a great lover, but a great best friend.

Finding a balance that allows a relationship to flourish when two strong independent people come together is tricky. Men need to understand that they can be with a woman who lives her own life and not sacrifice any of his own masculinity. And women need to understand that being strong and independent does not have to mean being overbearing or abrasive. Men and women are both equally worthy of respect without needing to prove their dominance over each other.


The best teams are made up of people who fill the puzzle pieces of the other. Who work well together and respect each others strengths while balancing out their weaknesses. Love is a team sport, and with the right person by your side, you will always win the game.

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92 thoughts on “Power Couple: 10 Traits Men Need To Handle Strong Women

  1. Strong independent women are so very full of themselves since it is all about me, me, me, which they just don’t know how to Accept a good man that makes much less money than they do.

    1. I’ve known three women around age 42 that had their engagement rings taken back because they were such bitches. I have never seen such tears in my life. I knew this women professionally and never cared for them, but I felt sincere and overwhelming sympathy for them. Imagine finding love and it going away simply because you can’t be a nice person.

    2. Fuck mate. I’m with a wife who earns less than me and wants to call the shots. Everything I say is stupid and disrespectful. As if she has bigger balls, wtf? I am so over this it’s’ not funny. “Be Humble”

  2. Never get involved with a Strong Independent woman which i will Not at all do to their Greed And Selfishness that they carry around with them Everywhere they go.

  3. Sad that too many “strong” women make the mistake of being so emotionally distant (easily mistaken as selfish bitchiness) as they climb the ladder.

    You can be strong and emotionally connected….

  4. I totally agree with this article.. As a woman I am so sick of the men out there that expect the women in their lives to be their mommies. They expect that our whole life should revolve around their infantile needs, cooking, sexing, and running after them picking up their dirty underwear. I am not your mother!! I expect a man to pull his own weight in a relationship and respect that we are equals. Whaaa… To the men that feel threatend!!!! Grow up!! Women are not your mommies, nor your sex toys….The majority of these negatives posts are men and unfortunately women that, in this day and age are STILL can’t wrap their mind around the fact that a woman can be strong,loving and equal within a relationship. As for the controlling, jealous and possessive men out there… Keep on moving. I have no patience for that nonsense. I would rather be alone and happy then in that kind of a miserable relationship. God invented batteries if I’m that desperate. I personally admire a man with the quality’s described in this post. Unfortunately they’re very few men that are this strong in their own manhood. Yeahy to you men that are this strong..! I admire you..!!

    1. Wow I completely agree with you!!!! I am this woman andcoiod have written this post myself! I have yet to find a man who compliments me in this way and it’s a shame

  5. Well the way that i look at it is that many of these so called strong independent women so they claim have the worst attitude problem and really think that they’re all that which their not at all anyway. So what big deal that many of you’re making a very high salary which these type of women have no personality at all and no good manors and respect when it comes to men as well since these women are very nasty since they will curse at us men for just saying hello to them to start a conversation with the one that will attract us which never works out for us most of the time unfortunately. It is the women like this that will keep many of us good men away from them and keep us single as well. Once these women have the power which they really think that they can do anything that they want which makes them even more sad as well.

  6. I’m trying to get closer w/ a female friend that is a strong woman. She has exposed a lot of weaknesses I never knew I had. It’s been challenging to mature into the kind of man she could love but I’m making progress and I’m determined. Even if we don’t end up together I know I’ll be a better man. Good article.

  7. NOW let’s have an article titled, “10 traits women need to handle a strong, confident man”

    It should have the exact same points but only this time pointed to the woman’s direction. Why don’t we see those articles? Don’t believe me? GOOGLE IT NOW. The ONLY articles you’ll find are how a strong woman wants this from a man, what a man needs to be, what women expect from a man. Where are the articles that discuss what men expect from women? Google it right now and it will blow your mind. For THAT reason, this article is total bullshit.
    I’m a very strong confident man but even I know that not needing anyone is as foolish and ignorant as this article and others like it. These women that act like bitches as if they are so powerful and need no man usually end up with a cuckold that has no balls, or alone with 100 cats. Any woman that tries to make a confident man feel inferior because she is so strong and independent will be sent to go screw herself especially if that man is empathetic, considerate, kind and a good communicator. With a combo like that and confidence who wants a woman like that? Go join the Women’s March protest against Trump. Maybe that will change the world. Men need women and women need men. It’s going to be that way until the earth pulverizes into dust from some meteor that hits us a 1 million miles per hour. Deal with it.

    1. But the real problem is that many women these day are either Gay and or Bi which makes it even much more difficult for many of us straight guys trying to meet a good decent normal woman today for a change which unfortunately is a real rarity now since they just don’t know how to act with us men since they really have no respect for us men anymore since i have come across many of these women already like this which makes them very sad altogether. God forbid trying to talk too women these days has certainly become very dangerous for many of us men really looking for a good honest relationship now since most of the women of today have really changed and not for the good at all. And now you have all of these very stupid reality TV shows as well as social media that has certainly ruined these women altogether too. It is just too very bad that the real good old fashioned ladies are all gone since most of them at that time were the very best of all since they were the very complete opposite of what these women are today which is a real shame. This a very excellent reason why many of us good men are still single today because of all this since we really have no reason at all to blame ourselves since many of us men would really know how to treat a good woman with a lot of love and respect since it does take two too tango.

  8. lets make sure we view this from an objective standpoint not a woman’s wish list. As if men must aspire to meet these needs. The woman may very well have a strong personality but must also have “SELF CONTROL” of this. Through media outlets and fashion magazines with the lazy boilerplate “Top 10 things women find sexy”, it has become a staple in today’s dating market place that a woman having a strong personality is always necessary and thus desirable. This couldn’t be any further from the case. At the end of the day. Strong personalities are merely “preferences” best tailored for those that grew up valuing those traits. It would be injustice to view this as a one size fits all guideline. To the gainsayer’s, you inspire me thank you.

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