Power Couple: 10 Traits Men Need To Handle Strong Women
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One of the biggest complaints I get these days from women is about men who tend to slowly back away after they realize how strong and independent the woman they are dating is.
Now, I am well aware that many women out there confuse being strong with abrasive, and independent with apathetic. Meaning, they take the “I don’t need a man” mindset and make it seem like they have no interest whatsoever in the man they are dating, pushing him away and then wondering what happened.
What usually follows is a myriad of social media posts about how men “can’t handle her attitude” or something of the sort – when in reality, he just had no interest in feeling like an afterthought in her life.
That all being said, though, there are still genuine, caring, loving women out there who are still strong and live their own life. They have their own hopes, dreams, and ambitions – but they want a teammate beside them as they accomplish all they set out to. They understand that personal power is not about not needing someone, but about the ability to set standards and only welcome the people into their life who meet the bar.
They want to support you as you support her in return. But, it takes the right type of man to recognize, and be comfortable with this type of woman.
What are some of the traits of the Prince Charming who doesn’t actually need a damsel in distress?
He has his own goals and dreams.
If a couple is going to have one teammate who has big plans for their own future, it’s going to need two teammates who have big plans. For both men and women, being with someone who is much less motivated in life than you are is going to cause tension in the relationship. One will not understand why the other works so hard. He or she will not understand why their partner is up at 5:00 in the morning to go to the gym. He or she will get aggravated when you have to put in extra hours on that Friday night.
A man who will be comfortable with a woman who is driven and ambitious will need to be on a similar path for himself in order to understand and appreciate her hustle.
He brings his own security to the table.
A man who constantly needs reassurance or validation from the woman he is dating will likely not find what he needs if he pursues a woman who is strong and independent. She will be secure and confident in herself and want the man she is with to be the same. While she will likely show him love and affection because she cares for him and wants him to feel loved – she will not constantly be reminding him of how much she needs him in her life. Because she doesn’t.
A strong man will not expect to be needed by a woman of this caliber, but it is important to note that men still want to feel wanted, and we all still need to love and affection to feel valued in a relationship, so this cannot be overlooked.
He respects her privacy.
Women who are focused on their own mission and path in life are not taking time out of their day to look for validation from others. They are living in the moment and are too busy to bother caring what other people are thinking.
A man who is going to date this type of woman has to work with her on what is kept between the two of them and what is exposed to the public. In the social media generation, privacy is hard to come by – but for a relationship with a mature, independent woman to work in the long run, it still has to be made a priority.
He won’t pacify her.
No man should ever be abrasive or disrespectful to the woman in his life [or anyone], but honesty and integrity is still an important part of making a relationship work. A man who is a ball of mush will never be able to hold the attention of a strong woman, because she will walk all over him and he will never give her the stability that she needs.
The type of man who will fit well with a woman of this caliber will know when to be flexible with her and when to stand his ground. She will respect him more for it.
He will still be comfortable taking the reins.
Just because a woman may be in charge from 9-5 on Monday through Friday, doesn’t mean she wants the same responsibilities in a relationship. At the end of the day, many women still appreciate a man who is the man, and will make plans for them on date night. A man who still romances her. A man who is chivalrous and respectful. A man who understands that a woman can be independent and should still be treated as a lady.
He is not possessive or jealous.
Possessive overbearing men are kryptonite to strong women. Smothering or coming on too strong to this type of woman is the quickest way to ensure that you push her away immediately. She is busy and doesn’t need (nor want) her hand held constantly. She works best with a man who lives his own life alongside hers, not one that tries to intertwine the two.
He is a strong communicator.
This doesn’t mean just knowing how to speak and express his feelings, but also knowing how to listen and interpret hers. Not all women are verbally open or affectionate, but they will show you how they feel in their own ways. It is important for a man to be able to hear what the woman in his life is doesn’t say, as well as what she does.
He is never condescending.
When he compliments how great you are at something, the right kind of man for a strong woman will never end the sentence with “you know, for a girl.” A man who can effectively build a relationship with an independent woman will see her exactly as she should be seen – as an equal. This means respecting and valuing her opinions as well as openly telling her his own. It means being able to have deep, meaningful conversations and really listening to her viewpoints. It means never assuming she can’t teach you something new or show you new experiences – in fact, some of life’s most important lessons will come from her.
His support is unwavering.
As Mark Twain once said – “Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.” This same concept applies to relationships as well. Men and women who are strong and secure in themselves will have no problem standing behind their partner when support is required. They will not betray your trust or discourage you from living the life you want to live.
The right type of man for a strong woman will know when to stand in front of her when she needs protection, behind her when she needs support, and beside her when she wants a teammate.
He has a great sense of humor.
Despite the hard outer shell some strong women display, they are still human beings who experience every emotion. Nobody wants to be stern or serious all the time, particularly those with high pressure jobs or a stressful lifestyle. A man who can lighten the mood at just the right times will not only be a great lover, but a great best friend.
Finding a balance that allows a relationship to flourish when two strong independent people come together is tricky. Men need to understand that they can be with a woman who lives her own life and not sacrifice any of his own masculinity. And women need to understand that being strong and independent does not have to mean being overbearing or abrasive. Men and women are both equally worthy of respect without needing to prove their dominance over each other.
The best teams are made up of people who fill the puzzle pieces of the other. Who work well together and respect each others strengths while balancing out their weaknesses. Love is a team sport, and with the right person by your side, you will always win the game.
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I love 90% of this article, thank you for writing it. The only part I take issue with is saying men should be able to interpret a woman’s feelings based on her unspoken cues. I think women, and men for that matter, need to be strong enough to risk vulnerability in order to have true connection. If love, trust, and respect have developed, a strong woman needs to open herself to say what she feels, needs, and wants to have any chance of getting it.
brilliant# but shares jessica’s opinion as well.
risking vulnerability in order to have true connection, definitely agree 🙂
I agree with Jessica as well. Men are not psychics and women don’t always project the right “ques” that they want others to pick up on. If a woman really is strong and independant then they wont be afraid to say what they and ask for help if they need it.
where do these people come from, OH Men are from Mars. forgot. More bullshit in a materialist age.
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Reblogged this on Waiting for Prince Charming and commented:
Wonderfully written article! I enjoyed this thoroughly!!! 🙂
I think I shall be handing this to Prince Charming when he arrives…
The strongest points in this article (to me, anyways) are: “He will not pacify her” and on…. As a strong woman, the worst thing you can do is pacify me “just to get by”, I want to know his opinion, I’m ok with him not thinking the same way as me, just please be honest and say it… Communication is key, as always I cannot stress that enough…. And YES, take the reigns! I’m ok not being the one in charge all of the time, a relationship is a partnership, we take turns!….
Great article. real men go for strong women.
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Alright now I like this!Now go win lots and lots of games for the kingdom 🙂
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Communication is Everything….
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I’m not a woman to be “handled”. Maybe a better word could have been used. I’m a longhaul truck driver and I just want a 50/50 partner who knows the business and the struggles. I don’t want a man I have to rehash and explain my day to, he already knows and we don’t need to talk about it. We can move on to “our time”.
What utter bullcrap!! Only in the point about “He is never condescending” (the point itself is also crap), does the writer say something useful: “as an equal”. The rest is utterly unequal and I’ll say it again crap, please stop listening to these kind of articles… please..
Agreed, this is all fluff and junk. The entire article is actually condescending at the same time as telling others too never be condescending.
The market must be huge for this sort of thing, as the choir sure seems to love listening to the preaching.
James writes posts geared to women and men individually as well as ones that applies to both. This one was geared to men. As a strong woman myself, I have to agree with these as important criteria when determining whether I want to get or stay involved with a man. This is just one side of the coin – it is not a one way street of just taking. What it looks like from the other side depends on what type of man is in the picture.
Posts like this are not written towards men, they are written for and to women. The entire point of a post like this is to have women agree and nod… Even your own post here shows that this article was written for you….
Scott for the win.
Oh please. This article was written for women. I’m here to see what kind of crap women today are reading (and believing) and whew. No wonder serial monogamy is so popular. If a man has to jump through THIS many flaming, confusing hoops just to keep the same woman for the remainder of his natural life, then what’s the point??? Who can live like that? How about relaxing and just being yourself instead of putting on some huge fake Romantic Comedy style song and dance every single day?
Ugh, shouldn’t have gotten involved but here I am.
If this is all utter crap, then what would you recommend as a counter? Also, keeping it gender neutral I can’t see how respecting privacy, being secure in oneself, not being possessive or jealous, and communicating etc could be crap advice. I don’t want to attack, I am just genuinely at a loss for what makes this crap and what you’d have partners of strong, ambitious, secure individuals consider
Well I called it fluff, not crap, but I agree with that point, in the following context:
It is not that the items you stated, privacy, secure, etc… are crap, that isn’t it at all. Rather it is that these are somehow traits that men uniquely need to handle strong women. They are simple points that apply to everyone, all the time. In other words nothing here is specific to how a man is to handle a strong woman.
Relax. Remove the idea of powerful women and men who are up to par with their standards. This isn’t a scientific study and it’s not a textbook, workshop, seminar, breakout session nor a course your being tested on. In it’s simplest form it’s a suggestive article which helps explain to men how to treat women better. It makes valid points that any man looking to better treat the women in his life can utilize. The advise alone isn’t going to restructure the dynamic of any relationship. It does provide relevant points that men should be more aware of while in any relationship. It’s broad, general, and designed to be a guide. It will not provide the initiative, engagement, or motivation that is required to instill real change. At best, it allows every reader to conclude with their own thoughts through introspection. There is no black and white, right and wrong here, there is what you chose to perceive. Please refrain from being so negative and derogatory. It’s highly possible to disagree with any idea without ever being “condescending.” If you’re capable you should try it sometime. See that was condescending, and I’m sure it doesn’t feel good. Same goes for you Scott. No need to be so argumentative.
Real men go TOW
I felt like I was playing a game of “Rate That Mangina” while reading this. I give a solid 10/10.
I’m a guy where women on both sides of my family were always strong and independent. Men would abandon their wives and girlfriends, leaving them to raise kids all by themselves. The women were often strong, independent, caring, and demonstrated a good balance of male and female traits that led to most of the men in the family to treat their future girlfriends and wives with respect and equality later on.
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Awesome read!
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this is a great article. I would add that he steps up and can take care of things on the home front – there are women like this who are moms as well and need a partner who can manage things at home while they accomplish at work.
If a woman is so obsessed with her career, she should not have kids in the first place. This also goes for men, aliens, and imaginary friends.
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Strong Communicator does not equal mind reader. I am not now and never will be. You have something you need from me or issue with something come out an say it. Because I don’t have the energy or time to try and guess. Being able to be honest with your partner and express your feelings clearly is what makes a strong communicator.
LOVE this – so spot on. My husband left his job 3 years ago to pursue his music career (and is doing quite well), but only because he is strong enough to accept that his wife is the breadwinner, respect me for that, and support the family in the other ways I need him to with this change (such as being kid taxi, doing laundry, etc.). We are a strong team, but would never be here if he could not handle being with a driven, ambitious wife. 🙂
One peeve with the article – myriad is an adjective, not a noun. Most make that mistake, but my high school English teacher drilled that into me! 🙂
myr·i·ad
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literary
noun
1.
a countless or extremely great number.
“networks connecting a myriad of computers”
synonyms: a multitude, a large/great number, a large/great quantity, scores, quantities, a mass, a host, droves, a horde; More
2.
(chiefly in classical history) a unit of ten thousand.
adjective
adjective: myriad
1.
countless or extremely great in number.
“the myriad lights of the city”
synonyms: innumerable, countless, infinite, numberless, untold, unnumbered, immeasurable, multitudinous, numerous; literarydivers
“the myriad lights of the city”
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This is exactly what I feel. Independent woman problems.
Strong independent women are such a waste of our time since they think their God’s gift to men Wrong.
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Been in a relationship for 6 years off and on….split recently as several times in the past when we have broken up I have mentioned the good times and wished to discuss the issues as we both lead busy lives. She would rather walk away, bring others into her life, and then we get back together 3-6 months later. the relationship of this independent and strong woman and i is storied. But for me the give and take isnt even close and i feel like her puppy as she more or less dictates things. Doesnt do things i like to do while i make time for those things she likes to do, compromising I call it. why isnt she able to open up and meet in the middle. I do the things above and do not ask for a lot. Just seems she, as stated above, wants a companion and not a strong relationship…..we have not talked in three weeks so who knows whats going on….recently she mentioned emotional manipulation as I mentioned to her I was dissapointed in her decision not to do something I really wanted her to do with me (out for a drink on a whim, spontaneously and the first time in a month)…this lead to our current situation of not being together….any help would be appreciated….
my advice?
don’t get back together. She doesn’t want a partner, but someone to entertain her in her spare time. You don’t want to be that guy, trust me. You can’t depend on her the way she can depend on you.
Strong independent women carry too much Drama wherever they go.
Such a nice article.. Keep posting and make us aware of such things. Men need to handle strong girl with care and respect too.
11. He doesn’t exist. Keep on dreaming, girls.
I guess its exist!
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Love this article! This kind of relationship does exist! My parents have had it for 25 years! They both are strong,independent people. My Dad has the ultimate say in things, but they both discuss each other’s points of view, have their own interest, but share a couple similar ones. Neither is obsessive nor possessive. They both respect one another, walk along side each, but are right there to stand up for the other or behind as a supporter when needed. Compromise, teamwork, humor, love, independence…I’ve seen it all growing up through thick and thin. This article is true. It does exist. ❤️
Reblogged this on A Roaming Tsinay and commented:
I’ve been called a strong woman by other people, specifically those attempting to quantify my “un-dateability” as coming from a personality trait. Those of you who read my blog know that this is a gross misconception of who I am–I am far too abrasive, insecure, and more-than-occasionally paranoid to truly qualify as someone possessing inner “strength.” But I hope that, as I move forward with this whole “growing up” thing, I will eventually become a strong woman…and in light of that, this article makes a ton of sense.
~aRT~
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Love this article. If such men don’t exist as some say here, then I’d rather be single than spend my time with some vacuous man with low self-esteem who doesn’t understand the term mutual respect. No, thank you.
Strong independent women are so very full of themselves since it is all about me, me, me, which they just don’t know how to Accept a good man that makes much less money than they do.
I’ve known three women around age 42 that had their engagement rings taken back because they were such bitches. I have never seen such tears in my life. I knew this women professionally and never cared for them, but I felt sincere and overwhelming sympathy for them. Imagine finding love and it going away simply because you can’t be a nice person.
Fuck mate. I’m with a wife who earns less than me and wants to call the shots. Everything I say is stupid and disrespectful. As if she has bigger balls, wtf? I am so over this it’s’ not funny. “Be Humble”
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What’s a nice way of telling this type of woman when she’s being a BITCH?
Never get involved with a Strong Independent woman which i will Not at all do to their Greed And Selfishness that they carry around with them Everywhere they go.
Sad that too many “strong” women make the mistake of being so emotionally distant (easily mistaken as selfish bitchiness) as they climb the ladder.
You can be strong and emotionally connected….
I totally agree with this article.. As a woman I am so sick of the men out there that expect the women in their lives to be their mommies. They expect that our whole life should revolve around their infantile needs, cooking, sexing, and running after them picking up their dirty underwear. I am not your mother!! I expect a man to pull his own weight in a relationship and respect that we are equals. Whaaa… To the men that feel threatend!!!! Grow up!! Women are not your mommies, nor your sex toys….The majority of these negatives posts are men and unfortunately women that, in this day and age are STILL can’t wrap their mind around the fact that a woman can be strong,loving and equal within a relationship. As for the controlling, jealous and possessive men out there… Keep on moving. I have no patience for that nonsense. I would rather be alone and happy then in that kind of a miserable relationship. God invented batteries if I’m that desperate. I personally admire a man with the quality’s described in this post. Unfortunately they’re very few men that are this strong in their own manhood. Yeahy to you men that are this strong..! I admire you..!!
Wow I completely agree with you!!!! I am this woman andcoiod have written this post myself! I have yet to find a man who compliments me in this way and it’s a shame
Well the way that i look at it is that many of these so called strong independent women so they claim have the worst attitude problem and really think that they’re all that which their not at all anyway. So what big deal that many of you’re making a very high salary which these type of women have no personality at all and no good manors and respect when it comes to men as well since these women are very nasty since they will curse at us men for just saying hello to them to start a conversation with the one that will attract us which never works out for us most of the time unfortunately. It is the women like this that will keep many of us good men away from them and keep us single as well. Once these women have the power which they really think that they can do anything that they want which makes them even more sad as well.
I’m trying to get closer w/ a female friend that is a strong woman. She has exposed a lot of weaknesses I never knew I had. It’s been challenging to mature into the kind of man she could love but I’m making progress and I’m determined. Even if we don’t end up together I know I’ll be a better man. Good article.
NOW let’s have an article titled, “10 traits women need to handle a strong, confident man”
It should have the exact same points but only this time pointed to the woman’s direction. Why don’t we see those articles? Don’t believe me? GOOGLE IT NOW. The ONLY articles you’ll find are how a strong woman wants this from a man, what a man needs to be, what women expect from a man. Where are the articles that discuss what men expect from women? Google it right now and it will blow your mind. For THAT reason, this article is total bullshit.
I’m a very strong confident man but even I know that not needing anyone is as foolish and ignorant as this article and others like it. These women that act like bitches as if they are so powerful and need no man usually end up with a cuckold that has no balls, or alone with 100 cats. Any woman that tries to make a confident man feel inferior because she is so strong and independent will be sent to go screw herself especially if that man is empathetic, considerate, kind and a good communicator. With a combo like that and confidence who wants a woman like that? Go join the Women’s March protest against Trump. Maybe that will change the world. Men need women and women need men. It’s going to be that way until the earth pulverizes into dust from some meteor that hits us a 1 million miles per hour. Deal with it.
But the real problem is that many women these day are either Gay and or Bi which makes it even much more difficult for many of us straight guys trying to meet a good decent normal woman today for a change which unfortunately is a real rarity now since they just don’t know how to act with us men since they really have no respect for us men anymore since i have come across many of these women already like this which makes them very sad altogether. God forbid trying to talk too women these days has certainly become very dangerous for many of us men really looking for a good honest relationship now since most of the women of today have really changed and not for the good at all. And now you have all of these very stupid reality TV shows as well as social media that has certainly ruined these women altogether too. It is just too very bad that the real good old fashioned ladies are all gone since most of them at that time were the very best of all since they were the very complete opposite of what these women are today which is a real shame. This a very excellent reason why many of us good men are still single today because of all this since we really have no reason at all to blame ourselves since many of us men would really know how to treat a good woman with a lot of love and respect since it does take two too tango.
You nailed it. Great post!
Great comment! Darling, come out to the country and you’ll find a few more of the ladies you’re looking for. 🙂
lets make sure we view this from an objective standpoint not a woman’s wish list. As if men must aspire to meet these needs. The woman may very well have a strong personality but must also have “SELF CONTROL” of this. Through media outlets and fashion magazines with the lazy boilerplate “Top 10 things women find sexy”, it has become a staple in today’s dating market place that a woman having a strong personality is always necessary and thus desirable. This couldn’t be any further from the case. At the end of the day. Strong personalities are merely “preferences” best tailored for those that grew up valuing those traits. It would be injustice to view this as a one size fits all guideline. To the gainsayer’s, you inspire me thank you.
Really good stuff! Thanks.
Very glad you enjoyed it, thanks so much. 🙂
I am not intimidated by strong willed, intelligent women. On the contrary Im attracted to them. I just wish my social skills were better.
Most women today have a very high demanding list when it comes to men. Must have a full head of hair, mega bucks, excellent shape, have a million dollar house, and drive a real expensive car. Well that is one hell of a list that they expect from men. Most of these very pathetic women today are very obese, not all that attractive to begin with, and they really think they’re all that too. A real bunch of losers since they really have no personality and manners at all either. The best thing for these type of women that are everywhere today is to get a cat for a pet and grow old all alone with it. It is very obvious why many of us men are MGTOW today which will save us a lot of pain, misery, and keep a hell of a lot of extra money in our pockets as well.
Enjoyed the article! I agree with the main point that she doesn’t really need him which makes not only her attractive but him as well. It’s only when you truly are your own person that you can chose to need someone.
Really like the article 100% right on. Was married to a strong woman we for the first 5 years of marriage got along very well 50/50 side-by-side, the power dynamic does shift when women earn more money and is responsible for the finances. The last 5 years we retreated to our independent lifestyle and just became roommates. What the article does not express well is the polorailty (masculine and faminine energy) and respect. You can lose trust and gain that back 2 years but if you loose respect for another human being it’s simply game over, EXIT RIGHT NOW! If you have two strong dominant masculine people living under the same roof they will simply turn into sexless, roommates…..better to co-habitate then risk marriage, and then divorce. My challenge with strong women was i married a strong independent person (existing friends, work, social activities and alike) just bolt on an go. I was excessively independent as well. We became interdependent on one another for the better part of 8 years than i back away resulting in her becoming more and more independent, and less interdependent (encouraged by me…how would you get this done absent me participating). And the result was “I don’t need a man i can do this on my own” I can’t trust you will be there for me. The respect, love, trust and space for me to exist vanished before my eyes. Learn from my failures and social experiment. I like the part of the article about Men need to feel needed. When not needed we feel ineffectual and unnecessary on every level.
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I appreciated this article, particularly the part where a strong woman doesn’t always want to be in charge I felt very understood. Coming from two strong parents and a very aggressive father I married the opposite -a passive man. What I realized is that wasn’t the right fit for me, I don’t want to be dominated nor do I want to dominate. I want mutual respect and understanding. Passive men pacify and appease I would rather be called out in a direct assertive way rather then be resented and punished in some passive aggressive way later. I think it’s important for men to understand strong woman and this article points out the common characteristics we have. I find that passive men are very attracted to me but they make the mistake of thinking they can always keep me happy to avoid any kind of conflict and when there is one they are disappointed as if they failed or are not enough, they need a lot of reassurance and will withdraw when things get tough. That is not appealing nor productive in conflict resolution. In my quest to avoid an aggressive macho man I sacrificed strength and assertiveness in the process. I realize now that is different then aggression and every close relationship will have conflict. An independent strong woman wants a strong man to lean on and be there for her but she doesn’t need him for her happiness, he just adds to it!! She can live without him she just doesn’t want to. She is loyal but can walk away if Need be she wants a man who can fight for the relationship as hard as she will. A man who is confident enough to be vulnerable and knows when she needs comfort in her vulnerability. Yes a woman needs to say what she needs But if she is being a little nasty or too overbearing then it’s obvious she needs to be reminded to chill out, I think that’s what that part meant of when to know, we are used to being alpha at work and if we forget to turn that off when we get home to our man then we need reminding!!!! I know I don’t want a man to boss around and sometimes I like be told what we are doing and relax into knowing he worked out all the details, strong woman don’t sweat the small stuff nor do we bitch that he didn’t everything right we are just happy we didn’t have to handle another thing we can just appreciate the hell out of him for doing it for us!
Reading the comments as a man I think women lack the understanding that people are not perfect. Every strong woman should understand like most men who are strong or not is that we are apples that are rotten on one side. It has nothing to do with how strong or weak an individual is it has to do with what you decide to look at them. Most people look for flaws and stick their eyes into them and think if they can make the person see the flaw I will like them more. The thing is you will always find flaws so dont search for them! When I see a woman I tend to look for stuff I like physically or intellectually and I consentrate to enjoy the good side this way every woman is worth and I believe most men see you girls that way until you start pointing our flaws!
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Excellent, I love the content of this article!! This is exactly what I want and desire in a relationship with a man. I desire only a man who is secure, strong, and possesses personal goals!! I am a strong ambitious woman who is goal-driven. I have accomplished much in my life thus far. I do not want a man who is insecure and controlling nor do I desire a doormat or a man that I can control. I want a partner!! Otherwise, I will remain single until I meet the right man, because “no” man will hinder me from personal goals or what I am pursuing in my life at this time. For this is not an option!
Respectfully,
Dr. Angela M. Jackson
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