As men, we’ve all been there. The difficult relationships where the woman you’re dating brings more drama than happiness to your life. Where her immaturity or jealousy stresses you out. Where you question if being in a relationship is even something you want in the first place. Particularly in our generation(s), we see many young people being frustrated by a glaring lack of morals, values, integrity, depth, and respect.
Understandably, after more than a few negative experiences it is natural to become a bit discouraged. But, we have to understand that dating is a numbers game and each of us, men and women, need to weather the storm in order to truly appreciate the rainbow that comes at the end of it. The right woman for you – a good woman, will bring many positives to your life.
Since the majority of my articles are about what men should or can do better in relationships, people frequently ask me why things are so one-sided. The truth is that nothing should be one sided, obviously – but just because I write articles from the male perspective doesn’t mean that there are not two sides to the coin. For this reason, as well as to shine light on what a good woman will contribute just by being herself, I have resurrected this list from an older article.
A good woman will support you in all of your ventures. She will be your cheerleader and encourage you to chase after your goals and dreams. Like any good partner in a relationship [her or you], sharing your teammate’s passions are not as important as supporting them because you know it makes him or her happy.
A good woman will make you excited to come home at night. She will be your encouragement after bad days and the first one to congratulate you after good days. The consistency that you show each other will be security and stability in the relationship which eliminates doubts.
A good woman will make you want to be the best version of yourself, just by being present in your life. You will always want to be more and do more, both for her and for yourself. You may want to look better, be healthier, succeed further, pursue a dream or a goal, whatever it may be for you personally.
A good woman will make you excited for each day to begin. Knowing you have the returned love of the one you care for will give you a new outlook on life. You will quickly notice how much less stressful your daily commute is when you find yourself smiling for no reason every time you think of her.
A good woman will never judge you. She will accept you as you are, giving you more confidence in yourself. Men in particular perpetuate a stereotype of being less willing to open up about our feelings. Knowing we will not be judged increases our comfort level and therefore our likelihood of being completely honest.
A good woman will teach you about life. The female perspective on the world is completely different than a man’s, and seeing things in different lights often give you a clearer view.
A good woman will be honest with you, whether you like it or not. While being supportive and encouraging, she’ll also tell you if there’s something you need to change and improve. Great relationships are not formed by people who ‘yes’ each other all of the time. This inevitably leads to resentment or one [or both] partners not being happy about something.
A good woman will open your mind to new things. Odds are you’ve got different interests – so embarking on hers with her will bring new experiences into your life that you may not have tried without her.
A good woman will help you see yourself how she sees you, in your best light. She will help you recognize the great things about yourself that she sees, and you may not.
A good woman will keep you grounded. Let’s be honest – there has been more than one occasion when you’ve gone to a female friend for advice on any given topic. Women often provide us with the dose of reality we need to water down our crazy ideas. To have a good woman be the voice of reason in your daily life will keep you on the right track.
There are many positives that we find enhance our life when we are with the right woman, but we have to do what it takes in order to attract her to us. We need to focus less on finding the right woman and focus more on becoming the right man. We need to work on becoming a fully developed man before we can expect this kind of woman to be attracted to us. But one thing is for certain – when you have the love of a good woman who supports you, there will be nothing you can’t accomplish.
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