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When it comes to dating and relationships, I often find myself wondering how certain people end up with others. Wondering why they don’t walk away if they don’t get what they deserve and hoping that they truly appreciate their teammate if they are getting what they deserve.

I think a big part of the problem blurring this line is that many people aren’t even quite sure what a healthy relationship looks like these days or how a ‘good man’ (or woman) should act towards their partner. To help clarify, I have put together this list of how a good man should act while in a relationship.

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A good man never lets you forget how much he loves you.

I cannot tell you how many conversations I have had with women who tell me that there is no affection in their relationship. The man in their life does not make them feel loved, wanted, or appreciated. This is a profoundly important piece of the puzzle – a good man will always remind you how much you mean to him.

I understand men can be less communicative or affectionate than women are, but this does not excuse the severe lack of effort put forth by our generation. If someone truly loves you, you will know it and feel it. If they don’t, you’ll be wondering all the time if they do.

A good man always supports you.

Regardless of whether you want to go back to school after 20 years to get your Master’s degree, start a singing career, or stay at home to raise a family, a good man will always support you and what you want out of your life. He will never discourage you or make you feel as though you can’t do what you set out to do. He will be beside you every step of the way, cheering on your victories and comforting you during your defeats.

A good man will inspire you.

This goes one step beyond supporting you, which can be more passive. To inspire someone takes effort both in how one lives their own life as well as encourages others to live theirs. A good man’s drive and ambition will rub off on you as he pursues his own passions.

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A good man will work to gain your trust.

A good man will want you to be comfortable and confident in your relationship. The very cornerstone of this is being able to trust someone, and he will realize that. Without trust there is no foundation for love or respect.

He will understand that trust is not just handed over to someone – it has to be earned, and then it has to be kept.

A good man will always make you feel beautiful.

He will understand that making you feel beautiful does not just mean saying the words to you. It will mean truly making you feel beautiful. In the way he looks at you, touches you, and treats you. He will notice details when you put effort into your appearance and remind you how attractive he still finds you even when you don’t.

A good man will understand that whether you are in your sweatpants on the couch or in your evening gown heading to a gala, when you love someone for who they truly are, everything about them becomes beautiful.

A good man will make you feel safe.

I have always said that I believe one of the best compliments a woman can give a man is telling him that she feels safe around him. Regardless of how attracted she is to you or how funny she thinks you are or how much money you have – if a woman cannot sleep soundly by your side at night, none of it matters.

A good man does the little things.

Do you need a prescription filled but have to stay late at work? Did you mention an art exhibit coming to town and he made plans to take you to see it? Regardless of how small certain things seem, he will understand they are really the big things that matter most.

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A good man never crosses the line.

It is natural to have disagreements and even arguments in a relationship – but there is no reason to make things personal, become insulting, and never, ever to become abusive. A good man will remain calm and stay on the topic at hand.

A good man is always trying to improve himself.

Whether it be learning new things, developing a new skill set, reading a new book or watching a documentary – a good man who prides himself on continuous self improvement will always be intellectually challenging you and keeping your attention. He will be doing these things for himself, but the added benefit will be the positive impact it has on your relationship.

A good man understands actions speak louder than words.

Having the right man in your life will make you understand that people who make promises do not deserve your respect. People who keep promises deserve your respect, and he will be one of them.

A good man will open up to you.

It can be difficult for some men to express their emotions, fears, and even inner-most desires – but having the right woman in our life often helps to open those doors. A good man, while understanding of course some things are to be kept private, will not hide things from you or bottle up his feelings knowing it will cause tension and frustration.

A good man will always be honest with you.

When building a foundation for a happy, healthy relationship, a good man will understand that honesty is always the best policy.

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A good man will make you feel comfortable being honest.

Comfort in a relationship (the good kind, not the kind that makes you stop trying) comes from the ability to be open and honest with your partner – and the ability to do this comes from knowing you will never be judged. A good man will encourage you to open up and share your feelings with him. There should never be any fear of him flying off the handle or overreacting if you share something with him.



This means being able to be the most genuine, uncensored version of yourself around him.

A good man will never be abusive.

Perhaps the most important point of all. Whether it be mentally, emotionally, or physically, a good man will never even think about being abusive towards you or harmful in any way. If this happens to you – please have the courage and respect for yourself in order to talk to someone or walk away immediately. No good person would ever act like this and it will not get better on its own.

A good man will stand by you no matter what.

When a man commits his love and his time to a woman, there are no stipulations or circumstances required. There will be good times and there will be not-so-good times. There will be challenges and unexpected situations that arise. But he will stay by your side and be your teammate through it all.

Of course, there is an asterisk on this. This does not mean you can disrespect him, lie, or cheat. It does not mean you can betray his trust and expect him to stick around because he promised to commit to you. This point is about things the two of you go through together and him having the integrity needed to not walk away when times get hard.

Any man can be by your side on the sunny days. The real test of character is whether or not he will hold the umbrella over you during the stormy days.

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And ladies, if the man you are with puts in the effort to be this person for you, please let him know how much you appreciate him. No matter how kind a person is, there is no emptier feeling than giving your heart to someone who you feel takes it for granted.

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213 Comments

  1. Mary Brown on September 28, 2014 at 1:36 pm

    Alright brother I love this very good article thanks.

  2. Yvonne I. Wilson on September 28, 2014 at 4:05 pm

    Love this!! Most of them resonated with me. Makes me feel like I am definitely on the right track .Thanks for sharing.

  3. Phero on September 28, 2014 at 10:05 pm

    And when the women are done doing bad boys in there 20’s they might just go for the good man to pay her expenses.
    And yes they will still fantasize about all those bad boy experiences for all that time.

    • Cuban Pete on September 30, 2014 at 9:23 pm

      Never let a woman walk all over you — self-respect before all else (Women will notice). Never get upset when a woman rejects you in favor of someone she thinks will be more exciting, i.e. – a “badass”; brush your shoulders off and keep living an excellent life (Women will notice).

    • Ken on October 9, 2014 at 4:24 am

      I agree with you to some extent, I can definately understand why you would feel that way, however not all women are like that, stay true to yourself and don’t be bitter over the women who have/are ripping themselves off by ditching a good man for a “bad boy” that’s gonna bite them not you. Don’t take that rejection as a reflection of yourself don’t get bitter, and dont let it phase you. The women of a higher caliber will notice and show up a little more often the faster you can shake the ones you speak of.

    • Dan on October 18, 2014 at 11:33 am

      There’s nothing as unattractive (in a man or woman) as bitterness. You may have had a few bad experiences, but that only affects your future endeavors and relationships if you let it. People can only take advantage of you if you let them. And even if that happens, just live, learn, and move on.

    • Nancy on October 21, 2014 at 10:24 am

      Not all women are like that, just like not all men are “bad boys” only looking for easy women. I dated a few “bad boys” in way back in my teens and quickly got over that and don’t miss it one bit.

      Most women are really not looking for the “bad boy” but instead looking for a real man. Unfortunately some women see the bad boy trait as manliness, which is incorrect. On the flip side some guys think being a good guy is to be a push over, women don’t want that either. They don’t want a guy that will let them walk all over them.

      Despite what the very vocal feminists say, women still want a man that shows her respect but also strength. …they want someone that will open doors, and be willing to protect her while also respecting the fact that she is probably perfectly capable of doing these things for herself. I work in an job where I have to fight many battles, it is my job and my fight but I will admit it gives me huge comfort for a guy to have my back, to know he is there if things get nasty.

    • Peggy on October 21, 2014 at 8:03 pm

      I’m thinking what you stated, Phero, has more to do with we 20 somethings back then, having insecurity issues. Maybe not all, but a lot of us. I c
      an say that now…lol

    • Jennifer on October 23, 2014 at 9:19 am

      This is true for some. I broke up with a very nice man and began to date a “bad boy” the excitement was unreal. Women get with the bad boys for the excitement, but also because we believe we can be the thing that gives them peace. The thing that can fix what is broken in their lives and heal them. Stupid? Maybe. I happened to marry my bad boy. We’ve been married for seven years and have two children. I have never seen a better husband or father. He never gets in trouble and drives under the speed limit. 🙂 He constantly tells me how me coming into his life saved him. Now understand, I love my life and I would never trade a second of it. But the first guys was very real. He was a wonderful man. So yes, my mind drifts back to him and sometimes I think about what might have happened between us. And I fully believe he thinks back on happy times with his exs, who were wild to say the least. My point is you will always fantasize about the past or opposite of what you have. It’s nature. But when you start acting on the fantasies or treating your partner different because of them, then you have a problem. But two people who truly care will not want to hurt each other like that. Just learn to be honest. Not throw things in each other’s face. But if they ask do you still think of him, be comfortable enough to say yes, but I’m glad I chose you.

      • Jennifer on October 23, 2014 at 11:37 am

        But let me add this, he also helped me Heal. We all have our tales of woe. Find a partner who allows you to help each other. In the end I think the best advise is to just be kind to each other. Be honest. Being truly honest with yourself is a lot harder than you would expect.



    • Gary on October 23, 2014 at 1:59 pm

      There’s some validity to this. I attribute it to several things:
      1: plenty of women are not, themselves, worthy
      2: bad boys are seen as interesting and fun, and many women go through a phase (sometimes a permanent phase) where they make the poor decision to prioritize that
      3: bad boys are seen as a challenge. Sadly both men and women respond to this, they want what they cannot have or tame, and good, loving, loyal partners are viewed as easy/boring. The mentality being that if it’s worth having it must be difficult to get/keep/tame.

      You likely won’t be happy with anyone that has these priorities anyway, just move along til you find “a keeper”.

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  5. Naicker, Jeeva J on September 29, 2014 at 6:40 am

    Very true..
    Thanks for sharing..
    Have a great day..
    J

  6. Loca Gringa on September 29, 2014 at 7:15 pm

    And … a good man deserves a good woman that LET’S him be a man. Real men, very rare and I’m lucky to have one!

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  8. eyewillnotcry1973 on September 30, 2014 at 3:12 pm

    A good man will always be taken for granted mind – the girls always seem to want the bad guy… Cheers J

    • Cuban Pete on September 30, 2014 at 9:24 pm

      “Losers whine about doing their best. Winners go home and **** the prom queen.” – Sean Connery

      • eyewillnotcry1973 on October 1, 2014 at 2:47 am

        Ahh Sean – bless him – would love to have been a fly on the wall on some of his conquests !! Not sure this is the same thing – losers v winners not in the same context – even in love – a good guy may well get the girl and often does – my point was more that over time the good guy attitude will becomes taken for granted and become an expectation. just an observation – nice post – Cheers J



  9. Suzan Von Dutch on September 30, 2014 at 3:32 pm

    Why does the bad guy not have these skills???

  10. Susanne Schuberth (Germany) on September 30, 2014 at 3:49 pm

    Great post, James – appears almost too good to be true. Yet such men do exist, although they are VERY hard to find… 😉

  11. websiteverifier on September 30, 2014 at 6:35 pm

    I wish all good man is as hot as Beckham, kidding! My husband has 10 of those signs but then again I honestly think that the idea of Mr. Good Man a.k.a. Prince Charming only belongs in the fairytale land. We are all created unique. Each individuals and relationships is different. Our approach to circumstances varies which challenges the old us and transforms us to either a better person or worse.

  12. Ken on October 9, 2014 at 4:16 am

    Good post… you should do a follow up article on what a good woman is, and the kind of women these good men go for. That might shed some light on the reason so many women find these good men so hard to find. Lol.

  13. Tina on October 9, 2014 at 12:31 pm

    Does a Man like this EXIST??

    • christianish1 on October 16, 2014 at 11:25 pm

      and the more interesting question is: if he does, is he still a man? an illustration of “no true scottsMAN” lol

    • Jarrin Aerohead Davis on October 22, 2014 at 8:46 pm

      Yes they do exist, it’s just they want nothing more to do with all the bs relationships bring.

    • Summer on October 25, 2014 at 10:47 pm

      Right? I’ve looked for a man like this for YEARS and I’ve never come close to encountering a guy like that. I think the author of this article forgot to mention that guys only do this in the honeymoon stage; all that romantic crap drops off after a few years and real life sets in. That’s just how it goes. That’s why divorce is so common; people expect marriage to be a fairy tale and the second it’s not, the relationship is branded as a “bad” or “abusive/manipulative” marriage.

      • James Michael Sama on October 25, 2014 at 10:49 pm

        Hmmm…the author of this article (me) has a father who still acts like this with his mother after 35 years and a grandfather who acts like this with his grandmother after 65. As well as myself not having a ‘time frame’ on romance either.

        Sorry to say, but some people just don’t hold themselves to the same standards. However, that does not mean it doesn’t exist.



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  15. ruannesoliman on October 12, 2014 at 12:25 pm

    I’m praying for this kind man to meet me soooon!

  16. christianish1 on October 16, 2014 at 11:21 pm

    I get the sentiment. I do. But this seems one sided and unhealthy. It sounds adoring and worshipful. This is admittedly every womans dream. There was that recent movie about porn with the kid from Roseanne… I forget his name. Anyway, they compare addiction to porn with addiction to idealized relationship worship. I’m not inferring anything, this just reminded me of that. In the end, no on makes us feel. We alone are responsible for our choices. We are responsible for how we feel about ourselves. Relying on others for this is unhealthy and causes a lot of relationship problems. Alternatively, sure, being “safe” or otherwise not abusing your significant other just goes with the territory of relationships and is not gender specific. I am a man (you wanted to know so you could malign me! 🙂 ha!) and I don’t know any women that fit this ideal. Perhaps they exist.

    Don’t make terrible choices, but don’t chase the dragon either. Spoiler: you never catch the dragon. In the words of a character played by a man who committed suicide: “Your move, chief.” and “Its not whether she’s pefect. Its whether you are perfect for each other.”

    • J on October 21, 2014 at 1:55 am

      Good god man, great reply. I second that, nobody but yourself is responsible for how you feel about yourself but yourself. Anymore these days I think there is a dichotomy within the modern female gender. Ones that believe that the world will take care of them, and others that think they will take care of the world. Rarely do you find one that simply takes care of their self.

      Everyone likes compliments, everyone likes being reassured. But the necessity of a man to be the provider of reassurance and nice sayings in order to be ‘good’ is very sexist. It implies that women aren’t capable of supporting their own self image, and it’s pretty obvious that they can.

    • Eric Boyd on November 3, 2014 at 5:34 pm

      GREAT reply. Frankly… as a real man… this article disgusts me a bit. It seems to say you can only be a good man if you’re a) 100% perfect all of the time and b) worship a woman. The line about “a good man never crosses the line”… I found hilarious. Um… excuse me… a good man isn’t afraid to walk the line… which invariably means crossing the line and making a mistake. A good man is not a coward who’s afraid to make a mistake… he’s simply someone who can own it when he does. A coward never goes near the line enough to make a mistake… and therefore is by default not a good man.

    • christianish1 on November 29, 2014 at 3:16 pm

      I used to be a very codependent person. By that I mean latching on to other people to gain a sense of identity. This is obviously unsustainable and is also societally discouraged for men. Rather than remain dysfunctional for the rest of my life, I radically pursued insight I could get on the topic. The problem with becoming whole is that it requires becoming wholly other. Becoming distinctly a self means feeling the required existential alienation of being a self. I learned to take responsibility for my feelings, and I learned that if I ever felt bad about myself that I alone was to blame for that. I can choose to feel however I wish, and I take responsibility for my feelings. Getting angry at others doesn’t address the root issue of being willing to believe others and then internalizing their sentiments. Most people learn this implicitly without directly paying attention to it as a part of normal development. I didn’t. I had to learn it consciously, but now I can appreciate it all the more.

      In short, I take responsibility for myself and don’t blame others. I expect others to do the same. Its part of being an adult.

  17. cosplayerxyz on October 18, 2014 at 3:25 am

    I missed a really good man then *sad smile* He was so perfect, and I knew it too…But I left because I can never be a good woman for him……Or maybe I was afraid of love?

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    This is on point and full of truth if you have this be very appreciative.

  21. Mr. Fister on October 22, 2014 at 6:55 pm

    15 Signs You’re Acting How Women Want You To Act

    All you need are deep pockets and you can bypass all of this. No mysteries solved here today.

    • Nancy on October 22, 2014 at 8:09 pm

      Uh no…If you think that then you are never going to have a happy relationship…..Recent studies have found that women are 60 percent more likely to end up divorced when they cared about their partner’s wealth, and men are 50 percent more likely to end up divorced when they said their partner’s looks were important in their decision to get married, compared to people who said they cared about neither. You can NOT base a real lasting relationship totally on money or looks. ohttp://www.theatlantic.com/national/archive/2014/10/the-divorce-proof-marriage/381401/

      • Larry on October 27, 2014 at 2:49 pm

        Weird, the 60% of women who only married a man for his money left with half his money! Makes perfect sense to me.



  22. Jarrin Aerohead Davis on October 22, 2014 at 8:55 pm

    i was most of those things as the relationship was short lived. was willing to give up college to help her out with her then soon to be born kid and get a job. ive have never once thought of sacrificing with i thought was my destiny for somebody else. However, that disney fairytale romance soon became a nightmare when it ended. That changed me. No matter how nice you are, how hard you try, if someone doesnt want to be you any longer, the fight is lost. All you have left is the pieces of your heart to scoop up and make whole again. There is no perfect fairy tale romance, no dream man or dream girl. In reality you either end with a competent person or you end up with trash. You will feel happy and be together awhile or you wont be. Love and marriage is overated, and it’s much more simpler, less drama, and less expensive to be single. At least for me, which i why i may never get married let alone allow another woman into my heart. best believe if i do, i will know i picked the right person. Other than that no woman holds any worth to me intimately.

  23. Janet Vincze on October 23, 2014 at 9:38 am

    Left a biggy off the list … how he treats his mother!

  24. verheek on October 23, 2014 at 10:08 am

    Good article but it was missing Does he attend to his spirit? Does he have a relationship with Jesus Christ? Do you? Does he read his Bible and prayer? Does he attend a Bible believing church? His behavior will flow out of this.

    • James Michael Sama on October 23, 2014 at 10:09 am

      That is a matter of opinion that not everyone shares, verheek. It was not missing, it is just not relevant to everyone.

  25. Gary on October 23, 2014 at 11:50 am

    My GF of roughly 2 months sent me this, and was proud to say I fit them all. She makes it easy, her communication is very forthright and trusting. While I too am proud of that, I do have a few points to make for the ladies reading this (and men too).

    First, this above list is really an idyllic man, you’re unlikely to get 100% of the above 100% of the time in any man, and its almost impossible unless you too are idyllic (and also very lucky).

    As the author points out above “This does not mean you can disrespect him, lie, or cheat. It does not mean you can betray his trust and expect him to stick around because he promised to commit to you.”. Once you’ve done any of the above, you’ve changed the expectations. You have to give him 100% confidence that he can trust you (which starts with being 100% trustworthy, or course). Most of the above article really boils down to what I’ve said for years; the foundations of a relationship are communication, trust, and loyalty. Communication builds trust and trust builds loyalty. Without trust you have nothing… start over.

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  27. Sarah on October 24, 2014 at 11:00 am

    Love how there is a picture of David Beckham the cheater.

  28. Michael on October 24, 2014 at 8:35 pm

    It be a good man “strives to”.

  29. brianmhager on October 25, 2014 at 1:38 am

    I began studying at a Seminary in Miami, FL in 1979. Within the first three weeks it became necessary for me to meet with the resident psychologist. One of the first things he noted was the way I spoke of my emotions. He told me, “Every time you talk about how you feel about something, you say ‘He, She or It makes me feel… ‘” I eventually learned a healthier and more respectful way to share my feelings without “blaming” someone. That’s when I became aware, that just about everyone I knew expressed their feelings the same way… You make me feel… Now I have forced myself to speak thusly, “When you do, say, or… I feel… ”

    It has not been an easy thing to change since the unhealthy way of “blaming” so widespread common.

  30. Minerva Meek on October 25, 2014 at 2:04 am

    Whoever wrote this article sounds high-maintenance. How realistic is it that anyone will consistently show all 15 signs throughout the whole relationship? Let’s see a anyone keep this up 10 years into marriage. Why don’t the author write about 15 signs for good women?

  31. Minerva Meek on October 25, 2014 at 2:07 am

    Whoever wrote this article sounds high-maintenance. How realistic is it that anyone will consistently show all 15 signs throughout the course of the entire relationship? Let’s see a anyone keep this up 10 years into marriage. Why doesn’t the author write about 15 signs for good women?

    • James Michael Sama on October 25, 2014 at 10:04 am

      Hi Minerva,

      I am.actually very laid back and easy going. Not high maintenance at all. What would make you think that?

      Also, I did write an article about good women also, if you scroll around my site a bit you will find hundreds of articles on different topics.

      http://jamesmsama.com/2014/05/05/10-ways-to-know-youre-dating-a-good-woman/

      Enjoy!

      • Minerva Meek on October 27, 2014 at 8:22 pm

        Wait, I thought that a girl wrote this article… LOL. In that case, since you’re a guy, I think that you wrote it just to attract women. How come men need 15 things but women need only 10.



      • James Michael Sama on October 27, 2014 at 8:31 pm

        I attempted to make my name pretty clear on this website, including the URL…I thought the fact that I’m a man was obvious.

        Anyway, attract women? I have over 25 million readers on this website, and multiple articles of all different topics. Women do not only need 10 and men do not only need 15. Each needs as many points as I can come up with at that particular time and each has many different articles in addition to it strewn throughout the 425+ articles on this website.

        Thanks for your feedback, but I am afraid I have clearly failed in conveying who I actually am to you through my writing, as your opinions are on a far different page from what this website is actually about.



  32. Craig on October 25, 2014 at 9:15 am

    This is a great post, but why are these things always predicated on what “good MEN” are?

    When we talk about “good men” , we rarely ever talk about “good women”. It’s interesting: We expect men to be good (or bad), but we expect them to be moral agents.
    We expect women to just “be”.

    They’re valuable in and of themselves. They need not be “good” or “bad”.

    In truth, this list should be different. It’s *extremely* telling that it doesn’t say,

    “15 signs that you’re with a good mate.”

    The fact that it doesn’t say this – and none of these things ever do – is a story in and of itself.

  33. threeboysandamom on October 26, 2014 at 1:30 am

    Excellent! I could write the list exactly opposite of this one. It makes me sad I settled for so much less than I deserved but I learned a lot. This is a great post and I hope more women start learning men like this do exist and we can wait for them because it’s worth the wait.

  34. Jess on October 26, 2014 at 5:10 am

    When I’m on a date, I don’t just pay attention to how he treats me but also how he treats others.

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    And a Woman wrote this article…..

    • James Michael Sama on October 30, 2014 at 10:51 am

      Actually as you can plainly see all over my website I am a man named James.

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  46. MB on November 9, 2014 at 12:49 am

    You need to say, “A good man takes equal responsibility for housework and childcare.” You also need to say, “A good man makes you feel like the most brilliant person in the world.” (In other words, he doesn’t just make you feel beautiful.) You also need to say, “A good man is completely willing to be a full-time stay-at-home dad so that you can move to the top of your career.”

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      Thanks for these suggestions! I will definitely take them into account when writing my next article on the topic. They’re good ones!

  47. Brita on November 11, 2014 at 10:53 am

    I understand that it increases page views to have two separate lists, but everything on this list could apply to women, and everything on your list for women could apply to men. I also think that everyone claiming these expectations are unrealistic are either bitter or trying to justify their own faults. No one is perfect, but the points you’ve written all have one central quality: they’re about making an effort. My husband and I both meet all of the signs, on both lists.

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  50. anette on November 18, 2014 at 7:19 pm

    James,
    it’s a great article, and I agree with everything. Except…in all my life, I’ve known only 3 men that I feel truly safe with. (And none of them were romantic interests) I don’t trust my safety to anyone. Not because they’re bad, but the average person, man or woman, doesn’t know how to defend even themselves. I know a little bit about self defense, and martial arts and that kind of thing, and while I’m no expert, I know enough to know that the average person has no clue how to protect and defend anyone, even if they’re a man. How can I be romantically involved with someone I know I’d have to protect? Not everyone knows how to keep people safe.

    • craig on November 19, 2014 at 12:53 am

      I don’t think he meant someone who made you feel safe from the world. I think he meant someone who you feel safe to be open and comfortable with. We’re not in a position to be looking for Big Men to protect us from predators; anyway, the predators we need protection from are largely not external.

  51. Dan on November 19, 2014 at 1:04 am

    I thought this article was written by a woman. A good man “will do everything for you without you having to do anything for him”.

    Why do you have to support her on everything? No, that s not the way it works. It has to be something reasonable. If she suddenly decides she wants to be an astronaut when she is 50 and she is going to sell the house to finance her dream, i dont think i have to support her.

    I hate this kind of article that speak like that. There is the silly message “you deserve everything without earning it”. There is no entitlement, you dont deserve anything if you have not earned it. That’s how it works in real life.

    • craig on November 19, 2014 at 1:11 am

      This is the problem with modern notions of chivalry. Because we’re no longer allowed to expect the old social deal (something I appreciate), a result is: “good” women who behaved properly were rewarded with preferential behaviour – corollary: “Bad” women were treated like garbage. “Good” men who put good women on pedestals were praised; men who prioritized anything but women were denigrated. The price women paid was surrender of control.

      Now, we no longer demand that women surrender control, but there are lots of people who want to still provide the benefits that accompanied this price. Women of course largely want this; who wouldn’t accept benefits without having to pay for them? But many men argue for this, too, especially those who have privileges.

      The truth is that this is both patronizing and self-abnegating at the same time. Chivalry is either due to both genders by each other – all the time – in the same proportion and for the same purpose, or it’s just some version of the same old same old, except that men are expected to pay while women just need to exist.

      No man worth his salt would sign on to such a program. And if women are expected to pay for preferential treatment, then they need to be willing to pay the appropriate price.

      My personal feeling is that harsh but consistent equality is a far better way to organize society.

      • Sunny on November 21, 2014 at 5:35 am

        This article should be titled “A good man or Woman”.



    • Sunny on November 21, 2014 at 5:33 am

      I agree that you should support somebody but within reason.

    • Todd on November 25, 2014 at 3:28 am

      I agree the woman has to earn it. Just another article about how men have to be perfect and woman need to do nothing.

      • James Michael Sama on November 25, 2014 at 8:04 am

        Why is it that guys like you always seem to find these articles and not the countless others on this website about what women DO have to do? Just because one article focuses on men does not mean there are no articles focusing on women. Click around a little bit…this article is not the only one in the world.



      • ChapStrap on January 7, 2015 at 12:06 pm

        Seriously….totally agree. No way this dude wrote this article with a straight face. He’s either gay, writing parody or lives in fantasyland. That or he’s trying to get laid.



      • Lynn on April 17, 2015 at 3:06 pm

        Todd when you love someone, its natural to not care what they give you. You are motivated to help them and protect them. Without pay for yourself. Usually when I get offended at articles saying what women have to do for men, I realize its because I havent met a man I want to put in that effort for yet. Just a thought.



    • Leslie on December 30, 2014 at 1:23 pm

      I highly doubt this guy will ever have a lady that could be an astronaut with that attitude! It reminds me of the far-fetched scenarios that dudes come up with to justify ever hitting a woman…
      Keep dreaming buddy. A lady with aspirations would only pass you by.

    • Marlene on January 21, 2015 at 5:30 pm

      The article is called ” a good man ” I’m sure if you googled ” a good women ” there are certainly expectations of a women in order for her to be a great partner .
      I set a high standard for myself on how to treat my man with love ,respect and keeping him feeling safe and happy .but I expect all those things from a man in return .
      So whether this was written by a man or a women .its what we want from our partner .

    • jonalyn ong on January 28, 2015 at 12:45 pm

      you are just being too literal., being supportive doesn’t meAn that anything that the women likes will be granted easily, as if the women thinks likes u, an old woman never thought such crazy thing, it’s just you 🙂

    • jewish ondiviela on January 28, 2015 at 7:57 pm

      you shut the fuck up you’re just a jerk thats why

    • Mac on February 6, 2015 at 1:27 am

      great comment

    • aicul on February 28, 2015 at 6:20 am

      “If she suddenly decides she wants to be an astronaut when she is 50 and she is going to sell the house to finance her dream, i don’t think i have to support her. “of course it can’t..but what does this message means as i understand is that, a good man will support the woman if not in everything but at least in many things. I don’t think a good woman would want to be an astronaut at that age, unless she gets crazy.

    • Pny on March 3, 2015 at 4:42 pm

      sounds like you don’t have even just one of this 15 signs lol

    • aWomanThatConstantlyStrivesToBeTheOne on March 20, 2015 at 11:22 am

      I don’t think there is anything on this list that is too unreasonable for either a man or a woman. Most people are reasonable and know that asking the family to sell the farm to support a childish dream is really selfish. Many good things on this list to strive for, whether you are a man or a woman. If you are not trying to be the things on this list then …. hmmmm, probably not that great of a partner even though we want to believe we are, that it doesn’t take this kind of effort, yet it does. Be the one! Ironic thing is when you do the things on this list, you have as many dates as you want, as many marriage proposals as you want, lots of options open up … you no longer have to settle for marginally good and a selfish person.

    • tasha on April 6, 2015 at 10:41 pm

      I disagree if she is 50 and thats what she wants to accomplish before she passes away then her man support her dreams. I suggest watching the Bucket List. It maybe about men but atleast he has a friend to help accomplish there dreams

    • Peter on April 7, 2015 at 6:14 am

      dan you made me laugh my head off……..astronaut.

  52. Rob on November 19, 2014 at 5:17 am

    Yeah I have to say that this article sets unrealistic expectations on men and for women. Why not 16 signs, or twenty, or hell make it one hundred. Sure every man should try to better themselves and be supportive, and should never ever be abusive to his partner. But that’s just being a good person in general and I don’t see why the same can’t be said for women.

    • James Michael Sama on November 19, 2014 at 9:09 am

      The same IS said for women in many articles on this site, Rob. I personally don’t find anything written here to be particularly difficult so I honestly don’t think it is unrealistic at all. It just requires some effort.

      • ec on December 13, 2014 at 10:14 am

        The bottom line is a good woman knows she’s a good woman and deserves a good man and would not expect to be supported in ridiculous circumstances.
        James, are you available ? 😉



      • Angella on February 27, 2015 at 1:40 am

        The articles are great James.. When I read the ones written about the man I read them as if they where written for the women too.. I really enjoy your articles and they help me out a lot.. I love the article you wrote on ” Your Not Happy Because You Never learned How To Be” The part that stuck with me was you control your emotions they don’t control you and you can change your bad mood by smiling and thinking of something that makes you happy I will try this the next time I’m upset… Thank you for sharing your knowledge to me about men and women..



      • Jess on March 2, 2015 at 9:06 pm

        First, I want to say that i think the article was very well written and filled with wisdom. I came across the link after reading one about signs of a “good woman”, can’t remember the exact title. Nothing on here is unrealistic, and if you think it is, that’s probably why you are single. I am (gasp) a woman and am incredibly lucky to have found a man that is and does everything listed, and he would say he gets the same from me. In a healthy relationship, there is no “taker”. We both treat each other like that, so it’s very balanced. No where in any of the articles have I seen James ever advocate being a doormat over over looking mental health issues, which is what all of the criticisms seem to say. C’mon guys! It really isn’t that difficult to understand, is it?



    • Eric on November 21, 2014 at 3:38 pm

      I don’t see anything unrealistic about this at all. Maybe you have some things to work on…See: “A good man is always trying to improve himself”

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  54. Tim Anderson on November 19, 2014 at 1:53 pm

    Correct and a “Good Woman” does it equally for her man!!! For a relationship is 100% to 100% efforts on both parties!!! Relationships are dealing with change and working it out on a daily basis!

  55. Barbara on November 23, 2014 at 11:55 am

    I have that “good man.” After a couple of bad ones, I realize all the more how fortunate I really am, and it makes me strive harder to be the good woman he deserves.

  56. […] A good man should always be willing to do this little things for you. Whether it is picking up your prescription at the pharmacy or taking out the trash, these are some of the ways he shows his love by providing for you. Showing appreciation to a man for doing these things is something that appears frequently in my articles because it is an important point to make. […]

  57. Jeaneth on November 24, 2014 at 10:26 pm

    is there any good man out there?

    • v on January 15, 2015 at 7:06 pm

      um, if there is, i don’t know where they are hiding.

      • arrowlynx on February 27, 2015 at 9:52 am

        perhaps they don’t want to be found by you………………… 🙂



  58. alexandra p. aguila on November 24, 2014 at 10:28 pm

    that’s
    true, its one in a million U COULD FIND THAT 15 TRAITS OF A GOOD MAN, finally found one my neighbor. as a friend, he is one in a million among the rest. my best friend in life.

  59. Danielle V on December 9, 2014 at 11:42 am

    Every time I read one of these articles whether it’s for being a good man or a good woman. I always see many bitter comments from which gender the article is referring to, on them saying “why do we have to do everything and they do nothing?” I am almost positive it’s because they are guilty. 🙂 Wonderful article BTW. Perfect list. Honestly coming from a married woman dealing with problems… having a partner who even just wants to TRY to work at improving the relationship, try to understand me, has an interest in knowing my heart and what makes me happy or feel loved would mean the world.

  60. A Different Eric on December 12, 2014 at 7:01 pm

    Hard to take this article seriously with the photo of philanderer David Beckham. Derp.

    • James Michael Sama on December 12, 2014 at 7:10 pm

      Just thought it was a good pic. I don’t know the guy’s life story. How about we judge the article based on…the article.

      • GSDVII on March 1, 2015 at 6:22 am

        OK. Your article sucks. Balance and harmony make a good relationship.Not your fantasy. Do you think “good” men grow in an orchard? We get “good” with years of living and learning, experience and, often, mistakes.



  61. post1995 on December 20, 2014 at 10:23 pm

    I am dating a 45 year old man who has never been married, only 3 girlfriends his entire life. I am 41 , share joint custody of a 10 and 13 year old. We work together and both make good money. His mother cut out articles and told him to be careful of me because I could be using him for money. She would not even look at me first year and a half of our relationship. I started making cookies for him to take to her and she would smile at me after that and say thank you. My question is, would most women feel a little offended ?

  62. post1995 on December 20, 2014 at 10:31 pm

    Cut out articles about how bad divorced women are

  63. Sophia on December 24, 2014 at 5:15 am

    Great article. I appreciate that it’s written by a man. It frames it in a way that it is almost targeted toward men to read, to strive to become a “good man” rather than just for women to be assured that they indeed are with a good man. I have personally been with 4 horrible men before I finally met a real good man. And wow it is amazing to have such a loving and trustworthy relationship. It’s exhilarating and I hope everyone can find a partner like that.
    To the bitter men in the comments that complain that these expectations should go both ways: obviously it goes both ways. Have you ever noticed the countless articles floating around the Internet about what women should do to improve themselves for men? Take a read through Cosmo, a magazine written specifically for women, and count the various article titles ending with the words, “…to Please Your Man”. Browse through the female oriented website, Pinterest, to see post after post about ways to be a better wife or to brighten the life of your man. In fact, nearly every social construct targeted *specifically* towards women, pushes us to improve our looks, worth, etc. all in an effort to appeal to men. At least this article is not equating a “good man” to having chiseled abs or some other unattainable beauty standard. Actually, this article doesn’t say to do anything that any decent human being wouldn’t do. So if you’re honestly complaining about the expectations of being a normal, civil, polite human being, my guess is that you know that’s too much work for you. In fact, I can imagine a new bullet added to this article: “You know you’re with a good man when he doesn’t get offended by an article setting expectations to do things he should already be doing in the first place.” And a footnote, “Especially if he doesn’t claim that the only way ‘chivalry’ works is if women dehumanize themselves and give up *control* in the relationship.” (gross, who even thinks like that???) also, this article is not talking about chivalry, it’s talking about being in a healthy, equal relationship. But my guess is that the men that claim this is chivalry (and therefore requiring some form of repayment from the woman in terms of losing control or essentially submitting fully to the man), are just not good humans in general.

    • Judy on December 28, 2014 at 2:47 am

      Well said!

  64. harshita on January 5, 2015 at 1:11 pm

    i was dating a man for last 4 years,i dont want to hurt his feelings but i was just fed up with him so i have decided to break up with him,he always used to borrow money from me sometimes for small purchases though he returned me.I always supported him in every possible way,but once when i refused to lend him he abused me very badly.he is in a job but still he cannot manage his own expenses.he very rarely spend money on me and never gifted me anything not even on my birthday.i am always paying whenever we are going out and giving gifts.he promises that all sort of things but nothing is done.even sometimes he asked money for his brother also but i refused.he purchases gifts for his family member but never for me.i fell as if he using me.when i told him i will break up he was requesting he is changed.whenever there is ocassion such as bday or new year he switch off his mobile.he tells his parents are not giving him money so he is taking from me.though he loves me but still i feel like he is just using me…

  65. Anderson on January 12, 2015 at 7:20 pm

    Been there done that . To be honest . You won’t get any benefit of doing all of these stuffs . What makes you all think that a woman will realize how ” good ” you are . Forget all of these ” good ” men hype . What defines a ” good ” man ? Is it a man who is extremely wealthy , charming , willing to finance a woman’s consumerism behavior ? What is the definition of ” wealthy ” ? Is it a man who drives different exotic cars in a week , splurges his money on ” parties ” and a mansion ? What is the definition of ” charming ” ? Is it a man who look like a South Korean music star ? And consumerism is a killer for a man’s wealth and well being . Believe this story . I met this girl at the temple . She was very nice at that time . She look like a ” good ” woman . Doing charities and voluntary activity and stuffs . But , when you go out on a first date you expect her to not look at her phone when you are talking to her . Which is a sign that she is not attracted to you . And when you came with an SUV . She look like a little bit disappointed . Then you go to the movies . In the theatre she just look at her phone all the time . After all that you drop her home and say goodbye . And the day after tomorrow . You texted her but she is not replying at all . Next week is where the surprise come in . She got a new boyfriend . And I’m just devastated . The guy drives a modified car . He is slightly fat and also not an attractive guy . How about me ? I workout , dress well and I am a man of intellect . I mean come on . Man shouldn’t do all of this stuff . Instead of doing this . You’d be better off by building your connections , financial intellect and body . Just be calculative . I mean if you want to be a ” good ” man . Then you are just going to get shit on . Always paying bills , hear naggings , couldn’t enjoy the freedom of having your own time . Priority numero uno for men is basically building their own net worth . Not search for more earnings just to pay more bills . Bills which derived from the consumerism that infected your so called ” good ” woman . Just be the man who is highly demanded . And never-ever sign your life away via ” marriage ” to these woman who are infected by consumerism .

  66. fitfoodbyjessi on January 27, 2015 at 7:58 am

    While I clicked on this link because it sounded like something that I wanted to read, after I started reading it I thought to myself, wow, this is exactly what is wrong with society today. The idea that there is a right way and a wrong way and that it is absolute. When reality doesn’t go exactly like this we immediately think something is wrong. It’s the unrealistic expectations that set us out for failure because we are always looking for problems that aren’t there. I’m sure there are similar comments as mine but I just wanted to throw mine in the mix as well. If you are one of those lucky girls that is with a good man, then you know it; regardless of the fact that he possesses one or more (or maybe only a few) of these qualities because I’ll be damned, he does NOT have to possess them all. Be realistic ladies and don’t get caught up in the coulda, shoulda, and woulda’s. If you know that he loves you, keep him; because love is rare and love is magical and you absolutely know when it is there.

  67. Michelle on January 27, 2015 at 9:49 am

    Hi James, I realize that a lot of folks above me are sure getting bent out of shape about this article and others on your site. After years of bad outcomes in relationships, and learning what it means to be (and identify!) a great partner, I just want to say thank you so much for sharing your insight. I really wish there could be more men, and women for that matter, that are as emotionally intelligent as you are.

    While I definitely consider myself in a feminist in the sense that I see myself as equal to a man, I definitely seek a modern version of chivalry in relationships. I certainly don’t need a man to take care of me, just one that is also interested in a supportive, mutually beneficial relationship filled with love, understanding, and care. Your site inspires me not to give up on this ideal and to never settle than for what I know I deserve and can reciprocate in a relationship.

    Hope you have a wonderful day, and keep the great articles coming!

    • arrowlynx on February 27, 2015 at 1:00 pm

      “I certainly don’t need a man to take care!!! of me,…. ” ……. “relationship filled with love, understanding, and care!!!!!”….. ??????? what now…. caring or not 🙂

  68. Myrna E. Prats on January 27, 2015 at 6:48 pm

    Hi James, when i saw this posted in Facebook i got so interested in reading it and find out if the man I’m going to marry this year is the guy who has this signs. I am a Filipina, a Chef and 69 years old and used to be married to my late husband for 45 and a half years. We had good and bad times but i survived for that long years with him. After 5 years being a widow, i met this guy in the Seattle, Wa. without any plan. I am only waiting for the interview form the Embassy here in Manila and we will be getting married when i go back to the US in a few months. I thank you for posting this because i know that with the signs that you gave the readers including me was so true. I am so lucky that the man i am going to marry has all this signs. Now i know that i am in the right track. God bless to you James

  69. Avalis on January 27, 2015 at 9:56 pm

    Sounds like a beta!

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  71. Cheryl Ann on January 31, 2015 at 3:31 am

    Sounds like 15 Signs You’re With A PERFECT Man. Who doesn’t exist.

    • Jess on March 2, 2015 at 9:13 pm

      I disagree, and so would many others. I am with one and several of my girlfriends are as well. Also, we have guy friends that treat their wives/girlfriends like this. We talk about this stuff quite a bit and do feel that the dynamic has to be right between both parties for all of these things to happen and each of us waited a long time to meet the right person. This type of man does exist, and no one should ever settle for less.

  72. Jena on January 31, 2015 at 5:30 am

    I don’t see anywhere on the article where it says that all of these 15 signs are mandatory to just one man. Some men may have some of these signs, some might have one or two, but that doesn’t mean that a woman is not with a good man. People always take things too literal. Personally, I can count, 9 out of 15 from this list that my partner has, but that does not make him a not-so-good man. For me he is perfect, and I love him to bits. I don’t see the point of bashing someone else’s article because it does not meet your expectations. You obviously are here for a reason, unfortunately, it just didn’t match your expectations.

    Good job on this article James!

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  75. Richard on February 9, 2015 at 10:40 am

    I thought of something you may want to blog about, I recently had a discussion with a group of people about what really is an Alpha Male, the differences between an Alpha Male and a Beta Male, which one women really prefer and why…..

    Richard

    • Jess on March 2, 2015 at 9:22 pm

      Hahaha, I am really laughing but I hope he does blog about it. This is something I always find hilarious because men who call themselves “Alpha” and feel the need to flex and show power and always the most fragile and insecure (so therefore, not alpha at all). So many men seem to have this all mixed up. We (women) like quite leaders who do not command respect but inspire others to follow through their behavior, thoughtfulness, compassion, wisdom, patience, intelligence, love, and strength of character. Truly strong men are secure enough to never feel the need to refer to themselves as “alpha”.

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  77. Tshidiso Dee on February 21, 2015 at 2:23 pm

    Mind-blowing. True to the core,only some men feel like a woman doesn’t deserve to be made happ all the time. They just become saddistic over time. That’s the sad reality.

  78. Hannah Grace Sarvida-Mayol on February 26, 2015 at 7:36 pm

    Idealistic.

  79. Elle Andrienne on February 27, 2015 at 9:07 am

    This isn’t unrealistic. Because I have one. 🙂 Thanks for the article James.

  80. Goddamn bitch on February 27, 2015 at 10:29 am

    Oh shut the fuck up! That man ain’t existing. Silly.

  81. Apr on February 28, 2015 at 9:19 am

    visit Philippines guys you will see that men here still put their women and family in pedestal. chivalry still exist, both ways.

  82. Apr on February 28, 2015 at 9:23 am

    visit the Philippines guys, and you will see that men still put their women and family in pedestal. chivalry still exist, both ways. I agree with the article.

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  86. […] In some conversations that I have with women regarding a man they are just starting to date, or even one they have been with for awhile, I often hear how he is not as verbal as they would like when it comes to showing their affection. Many things I suggest in my article suggest open and free communication between men and women in terms of showing how they value each other, but the truth is, it takes a certain kind of man to frequently put his feelings into words for you. […]

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  90. ShanksNes (@ShanksNes) on March 21, 2015 at 11:04 pm

    Relationships should be complementary, not senseless pedestalization, as in this slob of an article. I’d recommend that when in doubt, men rather err on the opposite side of these points instead of being the spineless ass that this peice embellishes.

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  92. Philler Flower on April 7, 2015 at 7:37 am

    agree but this man doesn’t exist 🙂

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  97. […] In some conversations that I have with women regarding a man they are just starting to date, or even one they have been with for awhile, I often hear how he is not as verbal as they would like when it comes to showing their affection. Many things I suggest in my article suggest open and free communication between men and women in terms of showing how they value each other, but the truth is, it takes a certain kind of man to frequently put his feelings into words for you. […]

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  100. […] A good man can still be ‘nice’ but make his intentions known. Whether it is small compliments to gauge how she reacts, putting your hand on her arm to see if she mirrors your body language, or just stepping up to ask her on a date – women are not mind readers any more than you are. You’ve gotta risk it to get the biscuit, my friend – and you don’t have to be an outlaw rebel biker in order to do it. Good men get girlfriends, too. […]

  101. […] man can live up to the standards set to be a good man, and the type of woman men are looking for seems to be the stuff of […]

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  103. Phil Petree on June 6, 2015 at 5:49 pm

    Some is true, some is highly dependent on the woman and her actions and some is blatantly codependent (i.e. a good man will stand behind you no matter what. – really, you hack up your grandma with an axe and a good man will stand behind you?)

    • Kehaulani Robinson on April 16, 2018 at 7:40 am

      You gotta be over the top and outlandish!!! We all know the answer to that question. Get serious.

  104. […] women are so tired of being played by these idiots that they are completely closed off, and men (even good men…) get frustrated and go […]

  105. […] his gender or age. Men need to work to become better, and women need to know that there still are good men out […]

  106. […] women, than I do when I write one about traits in men. Maybe it’s because I have sort of a shield when I write about men, because, you know…I am one. But when I write either on the topic of what women think or about […]

  107. […] Michael Sama氏による「彼氏がイイ男であるサイン」を紹介します。 […]

  108. […] Michael Sama氏による「彼氏がイイ男であるサイン」を紹介します。 […]

  109. […] Michael Sama氏による「彼氏がイイ男であるサイン」を紹介します。 […]

  110. […] than I do when I write one about traits in men. Maybe it’s because I have sort of a shield when I write about men, because, you know…I am one. But when I write either on the topic of what women think or about […]

  111. Krishnamurti on July 25, 2015 at 2:28 pm

    Relationship is the most difficult thing in life

    “It needs great intelligence for a man and woman to be forgotten, to live together, not surrender to each other or be dominated by one or the other. Relationship is the most difficult thing in life.”

    Jiddu Krishnamurti – http://bit.ly/1OFsB5S

  112. jackmydicknow on August 18, 2015 at 4:25 am

    keep the stupidity alive lol

  113. leonard on August 22, 2015 at 9:11 pm

    ……. a little one-sided, wouldn’t you say?

    • Kathleen Walker on July 19, 2016 at 4:53 pm

      I think it applies to both, parties in any situation, a good woman would do the same as would a good man…. , but I just assumed that… 😉

  114. Mickey on September 22, 2015 at 12:39 am

    Oh stop! Most women today firmly believe men aren’t worth a damn and can’t do anything right. Just who are you trying to convince with this?

  115. Peaceful on September 25, 2015 at 4:18 pm

    I thought it was a lovely article and very encouraging. Thank you..

    • Kathleen Walker on July 19, 2016 at 4:54 pm

      I agree!!!

  116. Patrick_R on September 26, 2015 at 11:30 am

    Excellent summation of a good person, not just a good man. I would just underscore the importance of letting your partner know that you love them. I’ve stood by my partner for over 30 years, through renal failure and transplants and blindness and months in a wheelchair, and now I’m her caregiver for dialysis. I think she cares about me, but I seldom even get a hug. And she might have told me she loves me three or four times in 30 years. So if you have a partner who cares about you, for God’s sake let them know you care, too.

    • Alice Pigeon on November 18, 2015 at 7:35 pm

      Have you expressed this need to her?

  117. The Good Rogue on November 7, 2015 at 9:06 am

    So true! Love the list!

  118. A.B on November 26, 2015 at 6:48 am

    THANK YOU SO MUCH!
    WORDS OF WISDOM!
    THANK YOU FOR YOU LOVELY SUPPORTIVE WEBSITE!

  119. […] This article originally appeared on JamesMSama.com. […]

  120. 15 Signs You’re With A Good Man on December 13, 2015 at 6:05 am

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  121. […] In the absence of substance online, I have decided to compile my own list for what I believe to make (or not make) a ‘good man.’ […]

  122. dan on January 12, 2016 at 8:41 am

    With the possible exception of “makes you feel safe,” these are also attributes of a good WOMAN.

  123. […] is important for a gentleman to hold high standards for how he acts when he is in a relationship. This includes never mistreating her or taking her for granted. Always valuing her and showing […]

  124. Caroline Abbott on January 26, 2016 at 10:56 pm

    So true! Having been with a guy who was bad for me the first time around, being with one who is good for me is so obvious to see. I am a blessed womanM

  125. 15 Signs You’re With A Good Man – NORAH SOFIA on January 31, 2016 at 9:49 am

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  126. The Myth of Good Men – SOLO MAGAZINE on February 15, 2016 at 11:45 am

    […] next day, I sent her the link to 15 Signs You’re With a Good Man. It was a revelation to her, that enough such men exist to warrant an entire article. Until I came […]

  127. TheTruthSpeaks on February 16, 2016 at 11:27 am

    The trouble is that many women like the bad boy type of men these days which many of us Good men do finish last.

  128. Simply Nauseous on February 22, 2016 at 10:07 am

    By the time I made it through #2, I already understood that this article was written by an uneducated individual trying to curry favor with their spouse or partner.

    Using the terms ALWAYS and NEVER when referring to human behavior and relationships? Really??? We are human beings. We are fallible. We have bad days. We are not cable of upholding a zero defect standard. Anybody who has been in a long term relationship knows that holding your partner to these expectations is a recipe for disaster.

    Do you really want to know what makes for a good partner? Skip the pop culture pundits. Go read some books by a guy like John Gottman, a trained psychologist who has been studying marriage for 40 years.

  129. Tj on March 23, 2016 at 5:52 pm

    Someone commented this was one sided. It’s SUPPOSED to be. I’m sure he also wrote an article for a good woman. Still, I think this article puts a bit too much demands on a man. This guy’s standards are a bit TOO high in that it sounds like men have to be constantly on their toes to be saintly. Geez, their only men! They just can’t do all this stuff.

  130. […] than I do when I write one about traits in men. Maybe it’s because I have sort of a shield when I write about men, because, you know…I am one. But when I write either on the topic of what women think or about […]

  131. Sandy Anderson on May 14, 2016 at 5:36 am

    ummmm this article sounds like a description of my dog…:-)

  132. Venistine on May 14, 2016 at 5:38 am

    Reblogged this on Venistine Blog and commented:
    I have always said that I believe one of the best compliments a woman can give a man is telling him that she feels safe around him. Regardless of how attracted she is to you or how funny she thinks you are or how much money you have – if a woman cannot sleep soundly by your side at night, none of it matters.

  133. Anabelle on June 4, 2016 at 8:46 am

    So, in other words a great man is a pussy whipped dog you can train, feed, and trust to love you unconditionally? What drivel. Women love bad boys since women are conditioned for emotional distress and feel great when they have such a cretin as a boyfriend. If they have no trouble with him they will cause some. Good guys finish last with women – you are out of touch. Typical man in a pipe cream.

  134. Chelsea on July 22, 2016 at 3:04 pm

    this guy such a fraud. he can’t hold down a steady job or relationship. 99% chance all of his “thoughts” are plagiarized.

  135. […] 15 Signs You’re With A Good Man […]

  136. jomama on June 20, 2017 at 6:56 pm

    “2. A good man always supports you… Regardless of whatever you want”
    This entire article is crap

  137. […] than I do when I write one about traits in men. Maybe it’s because I have sort of a shield when I write about men, because, you know…I am one. But when I write either on the topic of what women think or about […]

  138. Kate Emilie on September 27, 2017 at 1:47 pm

    Reblogged this on KateEmilie….is me .

  139. happiness on December 29, 2017 at 6:31 am

    no Man can do this in nowadays all of them are dogs think of them selfs, IM FINE ALONE AS SINGLE LADY

  140. 11 Reasons Good Men Won’t Cheat on February 11, 2020 at 3:56 am

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  141. […] you just need to be heard. Some days, as the effervescent Gemini that you are, you just need to be heard, as in, folks just need to acknowledge that they received the messages you’ve broadcast out on […]

  142. […] A good man should always be willing to do this little things for you. Whether it is picking up your prescription at the pharmacy or taking out the trash, these are some of the ways he shows his love by putting in the effort. Showing appreciation to someone for doing these things is something that appears frequently in my articles because it is an important point to make. […]

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    […] A good man should always be willing to do this little things for you. Whether it is picking up your prescription at the pharmacy or taking out the trash, these are some of the ways he shows his love by putting in the effort. Showing appreciation to someone for doing these things is something that appears frequently in my articles because it is an important point to make. […]

  144. […] is important for a gentleman to hold high standards for how he acts when he is in a relationship. This includes never mistreating her or taking her for granted. Always valuing her and […]

  145. […] is important for a gentleman to hold high standards for how he acts when he is in a relationship. This includes never mistreating her or taking her for granted. Always valuing her and showing […]

  146. […] article was originally published at James M Sama. Reprinted with permission from the […]

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